'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

[MolyHolyGuacamole]

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

@Bathshebahardy she still posts periodically things are pretty shitty with her ex think it's going through court.

I could practically smell it MiamiPants

What happened to the poster who fancied the gardener? They went to the pub eventually, after some 'glances' and a bit of chat .

What happened after that? It was a nice thread (up to where I stayed in touch with it).

@Alipali29

I remember the one where the op found out her husband was taking money from savings to buy class A drugs and she said she was going to divorce him. She'd been having a rough time with him for ages as they had been doing counselling before she found out about the drugs. Anyway, a few months later some posters were having a go at her as they felt she hadn't left him (maybe from reading other posts), she then became defenceless and said she had but still calls him dh on mumsnet 🤔 I always wonder if she actually really did leave him!

I don't get posters saying people make this stuff up. For example with the example I remember, why would someone make something like this up?! I truly believe she was real, what happened as she was very upset and I wonder and hope she left the dh.

The one about the lady who had secretly bought (or rented? I can’t remember) a house and was leaving her husband/partner. It disappeared so not sure if it was fake :( she posted up until the day she was meant to be moving and then I could never find the thread

You can't understand why people make stuff up?
Really
You don't think people ever lie or stretch the truth
You believe everything you read
No matter how unlikely?
Im not entirely sure you should be allowed on line
Even my kids understand that they shouldn't believe stuff they read online

There was a woman who had multiple threads about her doctor husband who was addicted to over the counter meds. They had several kids and I think he lost his job in the end. They were incredibly frustrating threads because she seemed trapped in limbo, refusing to take any advice or act in any way at all. I often think about her, for some reason.

@MyFartWillGoOn

Does anyone have the link to Dumped by Text thread? The OP was amazing in that one but couldn't find it after a while and always wondered if her DP came crawling back!

Here it is:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3800477-Dumped-by-text

@Bathshebahardy

There was a long thread from a woman who had two boys who were being turned against her by her abusive ex. She was pregnant with a new partner. I lost track of it and wonder if others remember it? It was probably two years ago.

She posts every few months. People point out inconsistencies in her story, she namechanges, starts a new thread, ad infinitum.

So many threads, so many trolls.

Any thread that becomes a 'saga' is odds on to be a troll.
As a general rule anything that seems too unlikely to be true.. probably isn't true.

Why do people make stuff up? For attention, shits n giggles, for financial gain (begging threads) for fapping purposes (the tell me about your sex life/ piss/ poo posts) or trying out romantic fiction - the latter are the ones with the will they won't they romances, or long running threads where after coming through a break up or some other trauma, our plucky heroine finds love with a handsome man who ticks all the aunties boxes. Straight off the pages of some shit chick lit!

The lady who's husband was a piano teacher and he was having an affair with one of his pupil's mothers. They met up for bike rides.

I remember that one @WallaceinAnderland She was in denial about it, and didn’t her husband and the pupil’s mother. Have some joke about a quiche. She was called something like withthelightbehindher

I hope she left her husband and took him to the cleaners.

Oh my god so many posters have been taken in by these trolls.

Honestly. If someone is going through a traumatic event and posting concise, regular updates that simultaneously keep the saga going, likely to be a troll. If your child was about to be rushed to hospital in an ambulance for example for some unexplained mystery illness, would you crack straight onto Mumsnet for a ‘handhold’ ? If your abusive husband was breaking down the bathroom door, sure you’d post to update your cheerleaders 🙄

I often think of Drinkswineoutofamug and her daughter who was in prison at the time and in a rather difficult relationship. I hope her daughter managed to save herself.

I also think about Endofthelinefinally a lot. Her son’s death has really stayed with me, she always seemed so incredibly strong, but just heartbroken. I occasionally see her on other threads from time to time and I’m always pleased to see her.

Drinks, Endof, if you’re reading this, best wishes from a name changer

Lots pop into my head at random but Coatsprotectionleague is the one I think of most.

About a year ago, there was a poster who posted several threads about her awful boyfriend. He was abusive, had burned her leg through her jeans, ripped her clothes off to sexually assault her. She wrote about his poor hygiene, and bad teeth. She hated him and was repulsed by him, but stayed.

She has a young child, IIRC, a girl of about 3, from another relationship. He had a 6 year old daughter who would visit. The three year old would often sleep in the bed with him.

I just remember feeling sick about the whole thing and hoping I’d see a Mumsnet deletion post to say it was a troll, but I don’t think it was.

There were so many red flags for that child, social services should have been involved.

@TheLittleRedToothbrush

Does this ring a bell with anyone? Many moons ago ... probably 8 plus years there was a fab young lady who posted regular about her foster babies with very complex needs . I think she lived in Wales and didn't have children of her own ?

do you mean Emin, Toothbrush? Every time someone finds it in Classics I have to reread it and get sad all over again. Fabulous human being!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1843270-Earthmotherimnot-passed-away-peacefully-in-her-sleep-today

Does anyone remember that awful woman, about a year ago who said she didn't want her DH having her kids 50% of the time because it would mean she'd have to work? At one point she said something like "When would I do the food shop?"

The kids were all school age and desperate to see their dad more, think he had about 40% care and they would scream at drop off because they didn't want to go back. Agh its going to annoy me now. I hope the kids are OK.

@Henrysmycat

Most have been mentioned but I can’t forget that mother with a dying boy in hospital (her name was a homage to a kids show with airplanes her boy liked). It broke my heart when he died. I think of her a lot and hope she’s doing fine.

GoJettersGirl. Was awfully sad and her ILs were bastards.

@Iloveitall

I think if the posters who have passed away. I remember one called biscuits. Someone mentioned another one up thread. So sad.

That was biscuitsandbandages I think. Really sad.

long running threads where after coming through a break up or some other trauma, our plucky heroine finds love with a handsome man

Mm hm.

I can never remember which one was ESD and which one was StrandedBear. One had been at university and did cheerleading and didn't know she was pregnant.

A poster that I presume has left but sometimes think of her was saggy who had two (?) teenagers, then had a little girl with Down's Syndrome who had to have a big heart operation. She'd be about six now I think. A friend from school had a much younger sister with DS who was in and out of hospital with heart problems so I suppose that's why I noticed her threads.