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'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 12/07/2021 14:06

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

OP posts:
Geamhradh · 12/07/2021 20:53

@Zorinindustries

Many years ago there was a poster who was homeless. I remember several threads, but the thing that stood out was her travelling around on busses all night just to have somewhere warm to be.

I often hope she was OK and got back on her feet.

That's Oddsocks.
Tistheseason17 · 12/07/2021 20:54

I often think about the woman who’s teenage DS is in an abusive relationship and has moved in with the girlfriend even though they’re only 16 or so. I hope it’s getting better for them all

Yeah, this one.
And the lady who moved house then her 'D'H moved his mistress into old house with him - she was moving on and met up with old flame, she had a 7? Yr old DS. I was rooting for her

mogtheexcellent · 12/07/2021 20:54

There was a thread started by a young girl at uni whose mum had died years ago and her stepdad still lived in the house with his son which now belonged to the girl. When she went home from uni she had to sleep on the sofa. Anyhow I think it was in legal matters as it was all about finishing uni and getting her stepfather and son out of her house.

I hope it went well and she has a lovely house now.

RedRiverShore · 12/07/2021 20:54

There was the one a few years back about the pants and the map which were in the attic, can't remember if there was something else in the attic as well and if it turned out to be the husbands or a relatives stuff

RaindropsOnRosie · 12/07/2021 20:55

There was one where the OP found handprints on the upstairs windows, I vaguely remember people telling her to check the attic in case someone was living in it, but I can't remember if it was solved. If I remember rightly her husband was away so she called the police?

PropertyFlipper · 12/07/2021 20:55

Oh and that poster in NY - something like WannabeSuperMum or something...she was a funny one.

What was the scoop with EatShitDerek? Why are posters saying they wouldn't have been friends with her in real life? Was she particularly uncouth/rough?

Clem4579 · 12/07/2021 20:55

One where the OP lived in some sort of property tied to her husband's family, maybe a farm. Her husband's brother had 5 or 6 children and his wife got MS. I think the BIL was putting pressure on the OP to help with the children.

Another one was a family garden party, some sort of falling out because of an engagement announcement. I can't remember the details but might have been OP taking her new boyfriend after being told not to. The OP was told she was BU but kept arguing that she hadn't done anything wrong. I wonder how they're all getting on now.

Years ago, a mother who sounded really stressed out. She used to lock her two young children in the car, on the driveway, while she stayed in the house. She said she could see that they were asleep/ ok, but that she couldn't cope with them in the house.
She was visited by the police who said someone had reported her, OP was very upset. I often wondered how she was doing.

Alipali29 · 12/07/2021 21:00

I remember the one where the op found out her husband was taking money from savings to buy class A drugs and she said she was going to divorce him. She'd been having a rough time with him for ages as they had been doing counselling before she found out about the drugs. Anyway, a few months later some posters were having a go at her as they felt she hadn't left him (maybe from reading other posts), she then became defenceless and said she had but still calls him dh on mumsnet 🤔
I always wonder if she actually really did leave him!

HaveringWavering · 12/07/2021 21:03

TrickyTreeLou was the one whose husband did a runner completely out of the blue, she came home to find the house totally cleared out down to the chutney from the kitchen cupboards and he became known on MN as the Chunt, short for "chutney twunt". Not long after his flit she discovered that both she and the OW were pregnant. Those threads spawned some very funny poetry and song lyrics but we're also I think a huge support to her. I remember sen ding her a present when the baby was born via an Amazon gift list. She kept posting on OTBT for years and sounded like she and her little bit were able to build a lovely life toge ther, do I'd think her ex ever even showed any interest in meeting him. I think of them often and do hope she has found a lovely new partner by now.

Gh0stontoast · 12/07/2021 21:03

I came across TrickyTreeL. Her DS is ok, has new cat.

I wonder about the American lawyer got away from her ghastly H.

HaveringWavering · 12/07/2021 21:03

Little boy, not bit

Briset · 12/07/2021 21:05

What happened to oddsocks?

whynotwhatknot · 12/07/2021 21:05

Coatzilla was a troll iirc was a bit annoyed with that one

x2boys · 12/07/2021 21:06

@PropertyFlipper

Oh and that poster in NY - something like WannabeSuperMum or something...she was a funny one.

What was the scoop with EatShitDerek? Why are posters saying they wouldn't have been friends with her in real life? Was she particularly uncouth/rough?

Not as far as I'm aware but you know some middle class mumsnetters whilst they adored her on line would have been aghast if she took up with their nice grammar educated son that's my take any way I live on a rough council estate in Bolton, I don't have any preconceptions about people I do find the on line adoration a bit Hmm
RandomMess · 12/07/2021 21:06

@Gh0stontoast she's doing ok, he of course has been vile and strung out sorting the finances...

Jobseeker19 · 12/07/2021 21:06

I want to know what happened to the OP whose work colleague would pay her part of group lunch that OP would order as she had a coupon card.

Everyone else would pay cash and this one colleague would transfer money late every month.

GarkandGookin · 12/07/2021 21:07

I often think about Mo. She got away from her abusive husband with her children and was living in a hostel, then nothing.
And there was the lady with a wealthy but controlling husband who wanted her to have another child even though she hadn't actually wanted the first one. She had moved to a flat a few miles away from him.

Gh0stontoast · 12/07/2021 21:09

Who got away

Sammiches101 · 12/07/2021 21:12

@Fiercestcalm

I want to know where the ironing board went to in the woman’s flat…
Yes!! I still think of this too
thenightsky · 12/07/2021 21:12

Many, many years ago, a poster called UnlikelyAmazon. Her DH/DP kept having wobbles and leaving and coming back, until the day he caught a plane, leaving their car at the airport.

allfurcoatnoknickers · 12/07/2021 21:13

@PropertyFlipper Want2bSupermum! I live in NYC - I actually worked in the building next door to hers for bit, so she was at least partially legit (or good at google) but loads of the stuff she said didn't quite add up.

BertiesShoes · 12/07/2021 21:15

I often think about Mo. She got away from her abusive husband with her children and was living in a hostel, then nothing.

Mo had some threads in OTBT for a while, they managed to get out of the hostel and into a house and they seemed to be happy, but she stopped the threads after a while, maybe she felt they were outing? I still think about her, her story was so heartbreaking.

Wonder if anyone is still in contact with her?

itcouldhave · 12/07/2021 21:17

Threads like this demonstrate exactly why people troll MN with ridiculous made up shit. There are numerous threads listed on here which were blatantly trolls or posters desperately embellishing to keep attention, yet everyone laps it up then begs for more then wonders why MN is full of fake CFs, parking and bullshit neighbour/PIL threads.

However, I suppose it’s marginally less awful than the misery tourism on here.

‘Ooh, I’d love to know what happened to that woman whose DH was abusing her!’

‘OP, is there any update? Has he punched you in the face again? Please tell us!’

CrunchyKnot · 12/07/2021 21:18

Not a particular thread but I always remember shineonyoucrazydiamond and wonder if she is still on here.
And the poster that had a disabled child and David Cameron visited her because of an MN thread (I think?!)

Geamhradh · 12/07/2021 21:20

@CrunchyKnot

Not a particular thread but I always remember shineonyoucrazydiamond and wonder if she is still on here. And the poster that had a disabled child and David Cameron visited her because of an MN thread (I think?!)
Riven. Election time. That's really why he visited her. I think Shiny went to other social media platforms. She made me buy some posh face cream once. Grin