To think it’s ok that my sister collects her kids that have been exposed to covid?

[TableFlowerss]

My sister and ex bil have a fantastic relationship and share access between 3 kids 8, 13, 14 about 50:50. Works brilliantly, has done for years. Kids thriving, patents get on really well.

Kids were with dad since Saturday. Dad started feeling unwell Monday so got tested and he has covid. So kids are with dad at the min self isolating, so my DSIS can’t physically see them. She’s dropped stuff off like food, but keeps her distance and drops it off at the gate and talks through the window and uses face time.

Kids are fine generally, although a bit bored. Stil happy to be off school though!

She’s really missing them though an is struggling not being able to hug them etc…. She said she doesn’t give a shit about covid and she’s going fo collect them tomorrow as they’re bored shitless at dads house as poor sod is still having fo work do can’t entertain them.

She will self isolate and her DH will have to as well, but she’s not bothered as she just wants to hug her kids and can’t wait until next Saturday to see them properly and cuddle and give them kisses.

Her DH thinks she’s being silly, but I can totally see her point of view. She will isolate but she’ll have to be off work next week but so what?

Thoughts?

@PoliteNotice

Anyone else think OP is the Mum?

Why would it matter? If I was mum, dad, uncle, sister… not everyone has MN some people look/ask for advice from an unbiased basis.

I always find these theories quite funny as who could possibly know whether it’s a reverse etc… 🤣

@EarringsandLipstick

Thanks for explaining TableFlowerss it seems so strange that tests aren't required. I understand that if the isolation period is extended that probably covers what is needed but even from a statistics, numbers POV you'd think that the UK government would want to know.

No problem 😃

Actually @TableFlowerss I checked the NHS website again, as it seemed so odd.

It clearly states that if self-isolating due to a positive case in the household (as is the case here), that if you go onto develop symptoms, a PCR test is required.

Here's the link: www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-and-treatment/if-youre-told-to-self-isolate-by-nhs-test-and-trace-or-the-covid-19-app/

Here's the text: you get symptoms of COVID-19
Get a PCR test (test that is sent to a lab) as soon as possible if you get any symptoms of COVID-19 (a high temperature, a new, continuous cough or a loss or change to your sense of smell or taste) while you're self-isolating.
Anyone you live with must self-isolate until you’ve been tested and received your resul

It's clear that while self-isolating, you need to get a test if you develop symptoms.

@EarringsandLipstick

Actually *@TableFlowerss* I checked the NHS website again, as it seemed so odd.

It clearly states that if self-isolating due to a positive case in the household (as is the case here), that if you go onto develop symptoms, a PCR test is required.

Here's the link: www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-and-treatment/if-youre-told-to-self-isolate-by-nhs-test-and-trace-or-the-covid-19-app/

Here's the text: you get symptoms of COVID-19
Get a PCR test (test that is sent to a lab) as soon as possible if you get any symptoms of COVID-19 (a high temperature, a new, continuous cough or a loss or change to your sense of smell or taste) while you're self-isolating.
Anyone you live with must self-isolate until you’ve been tested and received your resul

It's clear that while self-isolating, you need to get a test if you develop symptoms.

I’ll tell my sis. This is why MN is great, you do get some helpful advice or something that you’ve perhaps missed.

She was under the impression that they didn’t need to get tested as the isolation period covers this. I suppose for numbers it’s good to know.

Thank you for that. Literally going to call her now

God, don't rely on me as I'm in Ireland BUT all I included was directly from the NHS site so I was just wondering why it was different from the text exBIL got.

Hopefully she can check it out herself & clarify.

PCR tests are required, you're correct @EarringsandLipstick. The dad will have been told that by T&T though.

It's not just about 'numbers' that they need testing if symptomatic it's because they will need to isolate for longer - isolation starts again as you're infectious for another ten days from the onset of symptoms - this is why people are telling you to get the kids tested if coughing !!

@Thirtyrock39

It's not just about 'numbers' that they need testing if symptomatic it's because they will need to isolate for longer - isolation starts again as you're infectious for another ten days from the onset of symptoms - this is why people are telling you to get the kids tested if coughing !!

Yes, we’re aware of the longer isolation period!

@MRex

PCR tests are required, you're correct *@EarringsandLipstick*. The dad will have been told that by T&T though.

The dad said he wasn’t told to get them tested apparently. Bizzare.

@EarringsandLipstick

God, don't rely on me as I'm in Ireland BUT all I included was directly from the NHS site so I was just wondering why it was different from the text exBIL got.

Hopefully she can check it out herself & clarify.

🤣😂 you done good!

I’ve just spoken to Dsis and she’s going to arrange for them to get tested today. It was assumed they had to self isolate for 10 days after their symptoms started, as it said on the text.

Anyway she said to say thanks 🙏

She’s definitely not going to pick them up, apparently dad is feeling quite rubbish and he’s had one of his injections.

Your response to my earlier post OP I don’t think that’s true. You don’t have to get them tested. From what we’ve been reading on the NHS website they’ve just got to isolate, which they are doing.

Also, they’re her kids not her mates with your FFS and it makes no odds to anyone else as they’d self isolate anyway….

Lastly she’s going to leave them with their dad. She’s decided against picking them up, more so because she doesn’t want them cooped up stuck in longer than necessary.

Glad to see you’ve finally learned the kids do need to be tested.
No idea what you’re on about re mates - I never referred to them not being her kids
It means dad and kids now have to isolate for 10 days from the last child getting symptoms

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I think the issue us you should avoid spreading it as much as possible. It's impossible to tell how badly her or her DH will get it. It's not just about the fact that they have to isolate which you've said would be no problem. They could get very ill and put further strain on an already stretched NHS.

If they were with some feckless father then that's one thing. They're with a good father and are safe. Just a bit bored.

It's actually pretty ridiculous to even think about moving them

It doesn't matter he works from home, she shouldn't put anyone at risk, what if she or her DH are one of the people who end up really sick from covid, one of the ones who might die.

Yes she might miss cuddles, but its literally just a few days. She should order PCR tests for them all to take too if they are showing symptoms

How will they be any less bored by going to the mother's house. They will still need to isolate.

They should also get tested. Which potentially could increase the number of days they have to isolate if positive.

If anything, the sensible thing to do is test all 3 kids. If any or all are negative pick them up to continue to isolate. If any or all are positive they stay at dads until their new isolation date has been reached.

But equally they might not have it and can all return home

Yeah I've heard it's impossible for viruses to spread of its inconvenient for someone......

Isolation is 10 days from first symptoms. Nhs direct 14 days isolation if sneezing still