To think its immoral to charge children rent?

[CatsArePeople]

Unless you're saving/investing it for them.

Bring on the biscuits

@CandyLeBonBon For context my mum and stepdad both work, joint income well over £60k and live in a HA house for ~£400 per month rent.

It was a definite money grab in my eyes, £30 a week token board for the principle fine, but the constant upping of it frustrated me the most.

I charge my adult boomerang children a small amount for rent/housekeeping. We don't need the money but I don't think it would do them any favours to treat them like kids and give them a free ride. They are working and should be contributing. I keep it in a separate account and when they are really getting on my nerves I use it for a treat!

I don't save it or invest it for them but we have helped the ones who bought somewhere as a gift. We will do the same for the others when the time comes.

(Father passed away - so only kept him in annual World Book Of Records every birthday before that)

I share a home with my adult children who have full rights and with that comes full responsibilities. I don't charge them rent, we split the rent, CT and bills. Every week we're robbing Peter to stop Paul's enforcement order.
We've had a horribly destructive pandemic here and are lucky to still have a home.If anyone stops contributing everyone's homeless, but we'll be paying for other peoples else's better more comfortable pandemic for a long time to come. Rather more immoral than adult kids and parents depending on each other.

viques Early twenties.

I was working class privileged, if that matters.

YABVU
If a teen is working then yes they should contribute towards the household budget.

Cats

YABVU by the way.

Really ?

Dd (24) plus boyfriend who I didn't know moved in with us because they lost their jobs due to Covid

6 months later they have £4K a month between them now they're working

They have takeaways or go out to restaurants constantly and get taxis everywhere

And complain they can't save even though their last flat (rent and bills) cost them £1400 a month

Still think I shouldn't charge them ?

I’ve seen too many adult children not doing themselves any favours to think it’s a good idea to charge them nothing. They move in temporarily then have no incentive to move out, plus get the perks of not having to do real adulting in terms of all the admin that comes with living independently eg managing bills, things breaking, negotiating chores without storming off like a teenager or letting your mum do it etc. I think it’s irrelevant if the parents are well off, as long as the adult child is not also in significant education/training then it’s for their own good to have a sense of responsibility and that things in life don’t come for free.

Up to the parents if they save it for the child, I don’t think they should be obligated to. That’s like saying they should buy them a property so they don’t have to pay rent if they could afford to - sure, it might be a nice thing to do, but why should it be an obligation?

I think it all depends on your household budget. I worked from 16 whilst I was at college. My mom was still getting tax credits and CB so didn't ask for anything towards the household and still paid for my bus pass. Once the child tax and child benefit stopped when I turned 18 she worked out a budget so I paid half towards the bills and weekly food shop.
This worked out well for us.

Charge them Laurie.

The figure is up to you.

£100/m

£2000/m

Sometimes it's not just about the principle. Many people simply cannot afford to let other adults live rent/board/food free in their homes.

Nope kids should pay board

@PurpleHoodie

viques Early twenties.

I was working class privileged, if that matters.

Sorry?

As long as our 5 were in full time education we wouldn’t have dreamed of expecting ‘rent’ from them. If they were working and living at home we expected a contribution.

viques

I was in my early twenties.

@LuxOlente

A 7 year old, yes that's mean.

A 27 year old who won't move out - not mean.

totally

As soon as they are working and left education, of course. My mum always charged me, pointing out that I need to understand how to budget for when I move out. For some years, she needed that money. She continued to charge me even when she didn't. I managed to save up enough money to get a deposit on a house and move out. It cost me £20 a month more to pay my mortgage alone. It gave me a good grounding. She had also put some of the money aside and helped me to furnish my house. I am pleased she did. Most of my friends were charged £10 a month, I was charged £200. I also got my house a decade before they did. Obviously, this was many years ago now, but I am still grateful to my mum for doing this and will do this for my child.

Silly question- too many variable factors.

My other dd doesn't work, but i don't take her benefits. She has to pay her own phone and insurance, I don't buy her clothes or shoes she gets them.

@CatsArePeople

Care to explain your position a bit more? Or just bored already on a Weds afternoon?

Yup, bored.
Really just thinking over some of the threads i read previously. That as soon as a teenager gets their first part-time job or apprenticeship, parents get grabby. Even to the point that an earning child has to pay pocket money to non-earning siblings. So maybe "immoral" its too strong off the word. Grabby it is.

I didn't think of full salary earning adults and pensioner parents.

What a shitty thread and shitty attitude.

I know a couple of people who could barely afford to keep a roof over their kids' heads and feed them, despite their best efforts.

Like fuck they should stay living rent and board free once they're earning and have disposable income their parents could only dream of.

Each to their own!🤷‍♀️
I didn't charge, some of my friends have charged theirs, others haven't.
Mine haven't ended up entitled brats. They seem to manage their finances and their homes ok.
It didn't cost me much , if any more having Ds with us post 18 years. Water and council tax is the same whether he lives with us or not, no mortgage. He is out a lot and stays at girlfriends so hardly an electric used. He buys food and treats us to meals out or takeaways.
We didn't need the money. We thought his wages was better in his savings account than ours.

This isn't a moral issue, it's a family one.

If they're working they should contribute. How are they supposed to get a sense of budgeting/the cost of living otherwise?

@CatsArePeople

Care to explain your position a bit more? Or just bored already on a Weds afternoon?

Yup, bored.
Really just thinking over some of the threads i read previously. That as soon as a teenager gets their first part-time job or apprenticeship, parents get grabby. Even to the point that an earning child has to pay pocket money to non-earning siblings. So maybe "immoral" its too strong off the word. Grabby it is.

I didn't think of full salary earning adults and pensioner parents.

I didn't think

What a shame. Try it next time.