To think attractive men are a rare thing?

[Strawberryshitfest]

I’ve been single for a lot of my life/only had a couple of relationships. I find it quite rare to meet or even see in the street a man I find attractive, whereas there are stunning women everywhere (I’m straight). I meet more women due to my job, but it seems that the average woman is better looking than the average man.
Even when I meet someone I find handsome/good looking, I often don’t find I’m attracted to them (I can appreciate they are good looking but something about their personality/mannerism/anything really puts me off). 2 of the 3 relationships I have had I’ve started off friends and only found my self attracted to the person after getting to know them. Only once have I met a guy and been instantly attracted to him and ended up in a relationship. Very occasionally (probably 5ish times) I’ve met other men and been really attracted to them (looks, voice, first impression of personality). But on average I find about 90%+ of the men I meet don’t do it for me at all. Is this normal or am I too fussy? How often do you meet a man you find attractive (whether you’re single or not).

Gently, and I say this as a lesbian - are you sure you're straight? I had very similar thoughts and then realised I was gay.

I have similar thoughts too and I cannot find any gay feelings at all. If I were gay, I think as an older, largely GNC feminist, I'd have a much easier time finding potential partners. I have no deep-seated anxieties about gayness or reasons to suppress it, as far as I can tell. If I could suddenly realise I was gay I'd be v. happy but no such luck!

Instead I look at the men I could possibly date and just think... nah. Being single is preferable.

I dream of Mr well-educated, decent, funny, arty, attractive, clean, considerate, thinking bloke who also happens to fancy me and also happens to be available - but he'd be literally one in a million or less.

@JustGiveMeGin

All this talk of suited and booted men from London with chiselled cheek bones makes my poor ovaries want to cry I want a viking! Almost as wide as he is tall, full head of hair, decent beard and little dirty looking..... if you sat one of the lads off Love Island in front of me I'd probably want to mother the poor soul because I certainly wouldn't want to do anything else with them! What we find attractive is so personal, where I live there are very few Love Island look alikes so if that was my thing I would struggle to find it....plenty of rough and ready vikings around though

Yes! Why aren’t men more Viking and less Love Island!!

@MeowPurrGrr I genuinely don't see the attraction to the Love Island crew (and would rather stick pins in my eyes than watch an episode )
Again though attraction is personal....I like body hair on a man, I can't stand a waxed chest! Some of my friends are repulsed by male body hair and prefer them waxed.
All I can say is its a good thing we all like something different!

I like men in suits too. That is a very appealing look, providing they are not too tight. Business suits are best.

I don't think I ever just "see people in the street and find them attractive". I need to get to know someone, or at least have a good conversation with them, to decide whether I find them attractive or not.

Its like peacocks, one sex is more visually appealing than the other.

@JustGiveMeGin

All this talk of suited and booted men from London with chiselled cheek bones makes my poor ovaries want to cry I want a viking! Almost as wide as he is tall, full head of hair, decent beard and little dirty looking..... if you sat one of the lads off Love Island in front of me I'd probably want to mother the poor soul because I certainly wouldn't want to do anything else with them! What we find attractive is so personal, where I live there are very few Love Island look alikes so if that was my thing I would struggle to find it....plenty of rough and ready vikings around though

I found one of those Viking types and married him immediately.

DH still doesn't know what hit him. :D

Although I’m straight I prefer looking at attractive women to men I like looking at their hair their clothes etc I think it’s probably because I’m quite plain myself and I would love to be one of those people who looks good in anything just for a day .

I don't see many attractive men in the UK. Scandinavian men are much better looking (in my opinion).

OP, as far as men in the UK go, I agree with you. Style does not exist any more, unlike in Italy or France, for example.