To wear mostly black to a wedding?

[CornishGem1975]

When I say black, it's a black dress with a light pink/white floral pattern on it, but I'd be wearing a black jacket too, nude shoes.

Is black too dismal and dreary for a wedding?

Personally, I am getting married soon and if people wore black to my wedding I doubt it would register but I'm aware that everyone has different views.

Personally, I would never wear black to a wedding. I often see people wearing black at a wedding and I consider it very inappropriate but it does seem to be surprisingly common.

If the dress has a pink pattern can you not at least get a pink jacket?

Are you the MIL of one of the people getting married?

I wouldn’t.

I think that sounds fine. Completely head to toe black with a veil is maybe inappropriate but black as part of a patterned dress is OK

I would not wear so much black to a wedding. Slightly off track - Tautology -f you say I there is no need to add personally. So many Mumsnetters do this. It is so annoying.

Dress sounds fine but I would wear a light coloured jacket.

Nobody will notice or care, especially not the people getting married. I wouldn’t worry at all. If you want to brighten it up you could add a colourful accessory (scarf, flower, large brooch etc.)?
But genuinely, I think the only people who would disapprove are the kind who are just looking for something to disapprove of, and with luck there won’t be any of them at the wedding!

I would not wear black to a wedding, but floral including black should be fine
Can you wear a jacket/wrap in one of the floral colours?

Completely head to toe black with a veil is maybe inappropriate grin

I'm doing this when DS9 gets married. I plan to dab at my eyes with a white lace hanky though, so probably OK.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

Completely head to toe black with a veil is maybe inappropriate grin

I'm doing this when DS9 gets married. I plan to dab at my eyes with a white lace hanky though, so probably OK.

Make sure you wail loudly to add to the drama

Do nude shoes really go with a black jacket 🤔

A friend of mine very decently asked me if I minded if she wore black to the wedding. I said 'of course not', she looked fab and we all had a great time. So I suggest dropping the bride and groom a line to ask if it would bother them.

@jackstini

I would not wear black to a wedding, but floral including black should be fine Can you wear a jacket/wrap in one of the floral colours?

I don't have one and I'm loathed to spend lots of money, I'm hoping as it's July looks out of the window that I won't need a jacket at all. Positive thinking but perhaps I'll look and see if I can find something reasonable.

And thanks for the English lesson @percheron67

@ComDummings I don't want to overdo it. I'm planning on one loud wail, right after he says 'I do.'

@IsolaPribby

Do nude shoes really go with a black jacket 🤔

I've seen lots of people were nude shoes with practically every colour jacket, dress, trousers. Because they're nude.

When I got married my now MIL wore a black dress with a white hem, black fascinator, black shoes / handbag. I don't think it was deliberate... but people did notice and point it out to me (in a half jokey half serious way).
Depending on how big the flowers are you may be better with a lighter jacket to balance out the black of the dress.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

Completely head to toe black with a veil is maybe inappropriate grin

I'm doing this when DS9 gets married. I plan to dab at my eyes with a white lace hanky though, so probably OK.

By the time he gets to be a miserable teenager like mine you'll probably be gladly waving him off Good luck to the person that ends up with my DS.

YANBU.

we went to a fabulous wedding where the bride wore black!

Most men wear mostly black or other dark colours to weddings and no-one cares.

I wouldn't go in full funeral attire but I can't see the problem with a floral dress with a black background.

Where is the wedding taking place? You definitely get more black at city weddings. I went to one recently where about 40% of women were in black or grey. It looks really chic.

I almost always wear black but I’m a big fan of a bright accessory, so I’m obviously not in mourning.

Would you wear the complete outfit to a funeral? If so, it's probably not ideal for a wedding. But the dress you describe doesn't sound like funeral attire, so you should be fine.

Even the royals wear black to weddings, of course it's fine.

Just keep it appropriate and festive, as long as you avoid the widow look, what on earth is the issue. It's 2021, if you have the right legs, you don't have to wear stockings either

It's rude to wear white/cream/ivory and to try to attract attention. A pretty black dress is doing none of that.

@bathorshower

Would you wear the complete outfit to a funeral? If so, it's probably not ideal for a wedding. But the dress you describe doesn't sound like funeral attire, so you should be fine.

No, i wouldn't wear this dress to a funeral.

I wore black to my brother's wedding - black dress, huge pink hat and pink heels. My favourite wedding outfit so far!

[quote JesusInTheCabbageVan]@ComDummings I don't want to overdo it. I'm planning on one loud wail, right after he says 'I do.' [/quote]
@JesusInTheCabbageVan

🤣
I'm going the opposite way, I'll be fist punching the air and shout YESSS!

although I've also been considering to narrow my eyes and interject "Are you SURE?" when my future DIL/s say/s "I do".