To wear mostly black to a wedding?

[CornishGem1975]

When I say black, it's a black dress with a light pink/white floral pattern on it, but I'd be wearing a black jacket too, nude shoes.

Is black too dismal and dreary for a wedding?

Personally, I am getting married soon and if people wore black to my wedding I doubt it would register but I'm aware that everyone has different views.

@CornishGem1975

I've ordered a pink jacket and a white jacket as the dress has both colours and I'll see which looks best! Thanks for all the advice.

Careful OP. You’ll get the people along now lambasting your for daring to wear any hint of white to a wedding

I honestly have never met anyone offended by people wearing black, especially with bright float patterns, to a wedding.

Ha I thought that @MikeWozniaksGloriousTache but I'm probably safe from being confused with the bride on this occasion...

Wear it! Absolutely no reason not to.

I've worn black to a wedding. Who really cares?

Wear what you are comfortable with OP.
Seriously, no-one will give it a moments thought - as long as you're clean!

As an aside, @kindaclassy, what are "the right legs?"
I've got 1 left one and one right one - will these be ok?

I really don't see the issue with wearing LEGGINGS (your caps) under a dress to a wedding. Leggings with a hoodie and T-shirt, yes, I'd raise an eyebrow.

Didn't you realise it's only a proper wedding if all the guests are horribly uncomfortable in things they'd never usually wear I'd assume leggings under a dress were for a chubb rub rub situation.

I'd assume leggings under a dress were for a chubb rub rub situation.

obviously underwear are nobody's business but as part of an outfit? not so much.

Does anyone even wear dresses and leggings anymore? I thought even the school run had abandoned that style.

How about a pink pashmina instead of a pink jacket, @CornishGem1975 - less expensive.

Does anyone even wear dresses and leggings anymore?
I'd still entertain the idea, personally. I find it practical. Last summer I had a lovely shirt dress but when I wanted to wear it it never seemed quite warm enough to get my legs out. Leggings are a great solution. Otherwise I wouldn't have worn the lovely dress.

Nude shoes? You mean bare feet?

I don't wear black at funerals. Hardly have any black clothes. One long sleeved tshirt and a pair of black velvet trousers. Oh, and a long black cardigan with big red flowers embroidered on it.

Nude shoes? You mean bare feet?

no.. nude colour shoes? Is that even a question?

I wore black to the last wedding I went to. It was sort of heavy lace with nude underneath it so not solid black. Several others had black on.

I don't like black wedding dresses unless it’s a really well thought out goth/Victorian themed wedding. Only really works if your style is always edgy and alternative.

Oh I mis-read your post. You’re a guest, not the bride. I don’t think you should wear mostly black to a wedding. Sounds like funeral attire.

There needs to be a photo!

I really like nude shoes if that helps - I think they can lift a black or navy dress to make it suitable for something like this.

I’ve worn a navy dress with nude courts to a wedding.

Dress sounds fine especially with the floral pattern, pink jacket and nude shoes.

I think the UK etiquette is no black at weddings (unless black tie is specified and then black cocktail dresses for ladies) but things have got much more "anything goes" the last couple of decades so I doubt anyone will disapprove.

In the US and Australia (I don't know about other countries) its very common for guests and even adult bridesmaids to wear black especially if it's an evening wedding. Though at my friend's wedding some of her Swiss relatives came. The Dad wore formal morning suit. The mum wore black trousers and a baggy black shirt (like you'd wear to the office if the dress code was business casual) and their teenage daughter wore a black velour tracksuit. They were clearly delighted to be there so it wasn't intended to make a statement, it was just how they dressed for weddings.

I got married in a black trouser suit, I dont think anyone was bothered

I don’t think black is appropriate for a wedding unless you’re trying to express disapproval!

Do you not have any other dresses?

Can you get something secondhand on eBay in a light, bright colour? Loads of good condition formal dresses for low prices, some only worn once or twice!

Black sounds dreary and depressing for a wedding even with a pattern.

The only time I’ve worn black to a wedding was a very colourful dress with a butterfly pattern, shimmery and mostly green/turquoise and blue with a touch of back as the colour faded to ombré at the knee. It’s silk, loose but formal and I wore it with turquoise shoes and matching turquoise jacket and jewellery.

People might think you're a jilted girlfriend?

@ComDummings

I think that sounds fine. Completely head to toe black with a veil is maybe inappropriate but black as part of a patterned dress is OK

Oh bum. But that's my go to evening outfit!

I didn't realise wearing black to a wedding was such a 'faux pas' I've worn black to plenty of them. Then again I don't own anything that isn't black soooo..

@sueelleker

People might think you're a jilted girlfriend?

A few MNtters might, the rest of the world won't bat an eyelid to an appropriate dress, black or other.

It's WHITE/ cream/ivory etc.. which looks embarrassing for the wearer. Black is fine.

I used to work in the industry. In terms of traditional etiquette it's a faux pas so rather depends on the bridal couple and type of wedding.

I would never advise a guest to wear black and I think the outfit you describe is potentially quite problematic.

I would check with the bride out of courtesy.

It needn't be expensive to get a lighter jacket, I got a gorgeous cream one out of Tesco years ago that did me 3 weddings and 2 christenings and general wear - cost £15 but was beautifully made, fully lined and I got asked where from and there were shocked gasps and even disbelief when I said.

Even primary do nice smart blazers on occasion. Nobody need know.

You could also try a scarf/wrap

I had a small wedding, a couple of people worse black. It was fine. 😁