To wear mostly black to a wedding?

[CornishGem1975]

When I say black, it's a black dress with a light pink/white floral pattern on it, but I'd be wearing a black jacket too, nude shoes.

Is black too dismal and dreary for a wedding?

Personally, I am getting married soon and if people wore black to my wedding I doubt it would register but I'm aware that everyone has different views.

@percheron67

I would not wear so much black to a wedding. Slightly off track - Tautology -f you say I there is no need to add personally. So many Mumsnetters do this. It is so annoying.

You were missing an 'i' and also a comma in that little outburst

@percheron67

I would not wear so much black to a wedding. Slightly off track - Tautology -f you say I there is no need to add personally. So many Mumsnetters do this. It is so annoying.

I tell you what, I will heavily police my tautology when you heavily police your typing, spelling and use of capital letters? What do you say?

I dread being asked to a wedding and having to buy clothes for it after my washing machine went funny in lockdown and shrank my clothes.

No bride or groom who isn't completely self absorbed would want you to stretch yourself financially just to be look conventional.

Wear what you want to and feel good in. Honestly if the bride and groom even notice they have bigger problems with their marriage!

I couldn't tell you what a single person outside the wedding party wrote to my wedding. What matters is the people you love being there happily celebrating with you not what they look like.

If we aren't allowed to wear black to a wedding, I wouldn't be able to attend at all. Everything I own is black! My MN name rings true.

I'm sure you'll be fine, OP. People wear black to weddings and no one bats an eyelid. My two aunts wore black to my wedding and it didn't bother me in the slightest. To this day, I regret not bring able to have the Halloween Gothic wedding that I wanted!

If you intended to wear white, I might raise an eyebrow at that...

It sounds perfectly fine to me but I’m someone who would love to have a black wedding dress and often opt for darker colours when attending special occasions as I’m just not a fan of brights/pastels or even patterns!

@Lockheart

Most men wear mostly black or other dark colours to weddings and no-one cares.

I wouldn't go in full funeral attire but I can't see the problem with a floral dress with a black background.

I have never seen a man wearing black at a wedding unless it was black tie and/or he was part of the wedding party.

Dark colours are fine - a navy dress for a woman would not raise any eyebrows for me. But a black dress, unless the pattern is very light, and very busy, would feel wrong.

Personally I never wear black to a wedding, this includes patterned black dresses

if you have instagram look up #weddingguest. many gorgeous outfits like the ones you have described,

it you were wearing a white lace dress on the other hand.....

Thanks all. I'll probably go with it, but I've found a lighter jacket online that might work so I'll order that and see what it looks like.

I'd ditch the black jacket and have a colourful jacket or pashmina. I see you don't want to spend much, could you borrow this?

I would never wear a plain black (or white) dress to a wedding.
A woman wore a white outfit that looked like a less formal ballet-length wedding dress to my sister's wedding

Just thinking back on the last few weddings we've been to DH never wears a black suit to a wedding.

This bride wore black (and a mahoosive black veil, and carried white lilies) to her wedding.
I think tbh people would be disappointed if I did not wear black to their weddings, but then I am a goth of a certain age.

I think it sounds fine, especially if it's a floral pattern. Jacket probably won't even be worn. Just don't wear calf length black leggings underneath it like one of my wedding guests did BTW the bride does notice what her guests are wearing, there is photo evidence too !

I’ve worn this dress to a couple of weddings, with black strappy sandals and a pink pashmina round my shoulders- maybe try something like that instead of a black jacket?

A wedding appropriate black dress is more than fine to a wedding,

but a floral one? Total non issue. What is wrong with that outfit?

As long as it's not a bridesmaidy dress, as it's a fairly common colour for bridesmaids, you're fine.

@MrsRussell

This bride wore black (and a mahoosive black veil, and carried white lilies) to her wedding. I think tbh people would be disappointed if I did not wear black to their weddings, but then I am a goth of a certain age.

A woman after my own heart!

I've worn black-based florals to weddings. I think they look chic, and summery but not 'beachy' or too casual. Go for it.
I'd actually not wear a black jacket; think I'd feel like a cashier in a bank or something. But if that's what you've got!
And of course nude shoes are fine with black

Side note, but I've been to weddings in the US where women guests have worn black ,as in just black, not florals. I got blank looks when I asked in advance if it'd be OK if I wore black trousers with a coloured top. Black seemed to be just considered a smart look, not to carry any anti-wedding association at all.

Just don't wear calf length black leggings underneath it like one of my wedding guests did
What's so wrong with that?

My DM wore a black dress with flowers pattern to my wedding.
She looked gorgeous and is nearly fonder of my DH then me so was in no way making a statement

I think it's one if those things that most people couldn't care less about, but we know some people do, so you wear something else. Definitely not a plain black jacket.

@MrsJBaptiste

The black and pink combo! Yes! I wore something similar to a winter wedding many years ago. Black outfit but it was a floaty lacy thing and pink knee boots and pink bag. I was complimented on it by many and I still have a couple of photos which I am not ashamed of ( I looked fab if you really want to know) as there is another photo of me wearing the palest of green against my blonde hair and pale skin at another wedding and I looked ill. I am due to attend another wedding this December and I intend to wear autum colours which suit me well. Pastel colours do nothing for me. Ok there are in between choices like red or turquoise etc but I know what the bride and groom's mothers are wearing so I know I won't clash with them.

@IsolaPribby

Do nude shoes really go with a black jacket 🤔

Of course they do, they’re both neutral. I had to be strongly dissuaded from wearing black for my own wedding.

@IntermittentParps

Just don't wear calf length black leggings underneath it like one of my wedding guests did What's so wrong with that?

What's wrong to wear LEGGINGS to a wedding? The guest could make at least a bit of an effort and chose something a bit smart. Without the leggings...

@mibbelucieachwell

I dread being asked to a wedding and having to buy clothes for it after my washing machine went funny in lockdown and shrank my clothes.

No bride or groom who isn't completely self absorbed would want you to stretch yourself financially just to be look conventional.

@mibbelucieachwell Your washing machine, too?! So did mine! There’s an absolute ton of them doing it. It’s been happening to quite a few of my friends as well. I mean, the strange part is that it appears to have shrunk clothes that were hanging in my closet, which just proves the scope of the problem, I figure. It’s all verraaaaa mysterious.

I've ordered a pink jacket and a white jacket as the dress has both colours and I'll see which looks best! Thanks for all the advice.