To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

Good heavens, what a weird mindset. Play dates at my place years ago, would have meant helping to feed the chickens and pigs, and playing in a barn, with not a camera in sight. Wellies needed,and sensible old clothes for all the children.. I don't know anything about this Instagram stuff, children should just have a good time, and that's it.

You're better off putting that money into a savings account for her.

@Summertimelostitsshine

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example. I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

Go for it, I would also be making sure her earrings match, that she has a gold chain around her neck and a couple of those cute little bracelets round her chubby little wrists as well. Don’t forget the shoes! They can make or break an outfit.

Wait, you dress your toddler as a victorian pauper/ghost when you visit old buildings..? 👻

I hope this is a joke? If not, and you are actually buying brand new outfits each time, then it is quite obscene. What an absolute ridiculous waste!

If you are buying used clothes on passing them on, then it's a bit dotty, but each to their own...

“Looks Aesthetically pleasing “

So she isn’t pretty as she is she has to have the right clothes even asa toddler

Think about the message you’re sending here

@WorraLiberty Def not living through her, I hate the thought of that, I’m just not as interested in the way I look at present, I’m sure I’ll get back to myself in the future. I love my daughter and waited 9 years to have her, I’m a good mum, I know I am, I just love kids clothes

@Smallbutnottinykitten Nope, not about her or her being pretty, more the colours of the outfits to match backgrounds etc. I love photography and how things look.
I would never put pressure on her to look a certain way and hate the thought of that

@irregularegular She has a couple of play dates per month on average. When her clothes are used/too small, I always pass them on, either to friends or a local charity

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@Smallbutnottinykitten Nope, not about her or her being pretty, more the colours of the outfits to match backgrounds etc. I love photography and how things look.
I would never put pressure on her to look a certain way and hate the thought of that[/quote]
But that is exactly what you’re doing. She has to look a certain way to be aesthetically pleasing for Instagram. Which are your exact words.

I am too old or something because I really don’t get this.

I might for example put her in a long, white dress if we’re going to old type buildings, so we can get some stunning photos

Why? Just why? To satisfy your ego??? I despair, I really do.

I really think you are giving your DD all the wrong messages here. She is more than the clothes she wears. She is not a doll to play dress up with. I think you may live to regret this approach as she gets older.

@viques Not what I’m saying at all, I find that vile and obscene

@ThePluckOfTheCoward

Wot, so if you are going to the Zoo you mean you'd buy her a lion or giraffe outfit so she'd match her surroundings and look appropriately dressed on Instagram?

Don’t be silly, if you are going to the zoo you wear a blue top and beige pedal pusher trousers like David Attenborough, unless it is a Safari Park when you wear the cutest little camouflage outfit and carry a water bottle at all times.

@Seeline My Dd doesn’t get any messages, she just wears clothes and that’s that

Dear Lord. I want to run my own dictatorship and ban Instagram. What a load of pretentious crap. White dress for an old building? Dressing her like a ghost for the lols??

She climbs trees as a toddler???

@ThePluckOfTheCoward 🤣I like that idea 😆
Not really to that extent, but I know of people who definitely would.
I think people aren’t being honest here

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@WorraLiberty Def not living through her, I hate the thought of that, I’m just not as interested in the way I look at present, I’m sure I’ll get back to myself in the future. I love my daughter and waited 9 years to have her, I’m a good mum, I know I am, I just love kids clothes[/quote]
If you're this over interested in kids clothing, I'd say it probably is related in part to the fact you look a mess.

Anyway, if your DD is going to be the subject of so many photos, don't you want to look good in them too?

Or do you just plaster her across Instagram because you don't like having your own photos on there?

You really are giving your dd all the wrong messages. I really do agree with this.

Why can’t she go to the Victorian house in a pair of bright leggings and a t shirt?

Why does she have to be dressed up to be right for the backgrounds when she has a friend round to play?

I honestly don’t understand how you and see the message your sending her with this.

[quote Summertimelostitsshine]@viques Not what I’m saying at all, I find that vile and obscene[/quote]
What worse than putting your child in “a long white dress” when you go to “an old type building” - whatever that is.

@irregularegular She has a couple of play dates per month on average. When her clothes are used/too small, I always pass them on, either to friends or a local charity

I'm glad to hear you pass them on. But I still think two brand new outfits a month is A LOT. Especially as I'm guessing that she gets plenty of other clothes too, as otherwise she would only have clothes that match your daytrips (long white dresses etc).

If you’re doing this every couple of weeks I don’t see how ALL her clothes can suddenly be old and tatty looking?

Anyway yes, sorry, I find this weird and really wasteful. Rich people are mad!

@HasaDigaEebowai Yes 🤷🏻‍♀️We live next to the woods down to the beach. We go every night to take the dog for a walk and she’s seen her dad climbing them and does small ones with him? She’s 3

I’m not much of a one for the ‘gram.

But I’m tickled by the idea of dressing my kid up as a lion to go to the zoo. I just might 🦁