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Would you block her in?

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 14:03

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit Confused to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? Blush I feel like I need to make a point Grin

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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 07/07/2021 13:28

I agree with earrings too, as annoying as it is, you're asking someone to move from a space so it can sit empty..... different story if husband returns and needs the space.

So, assuming that things hadn't already moved on....

OP has to concern herself with whether the space will be vacated in time for when it's needed, keep interrupting her work to be checking the current situation, liaise with her DH to work out at what point he may arrive home; and then DH has to concern himself with making sure that he doesn't arrive home 'too soon' to use his own private space.

All the while, we're assuming that the CF parker will be easily contactable, amenable and reasonable in moving (and her track record suggests that she isn't), hasn't gone out with somebody else, hasn't had a drink (might have been intending to stay parked there overnight).

The only person out of the three of them who has any say and freedom in when she comes and goes and doesn't have to schedule her day to dance to somebody else's (unknown) tune is also the only one of the three who has no right to park there in the first place.

Imagine if, instead of a parking space, it were a table in a restaurant. In the normal world, you would call in advance to make a reservation at an agreed time - granted they may be running a few minutes late, but nothing problematic. How would you feel if the restaurant owner, instead of taking your reservation to arrive at 7pm, told you that, from noon, you would have to keep calling them every quarter of an hour or so, to check if they could find a spare table and possibly fit you in at some random time to suit them. Would you cheerfully accept that? After all, for all you know, they might just have a table available for 7pm, as you originally wanted (and agreed), after all, so no problem whatsoever, eh?

Georgiah82 · 07/07/2021 13:32

Our private drive looks a bit like bay parking but is right next to our house and clearly states "PRIVATE" in big, bold capital letters in a contrasting colour, along with a bright sign stating "No parking", not to mention, it clearly being marked on all paperwork (newbuilds) and several letters that were sent out to the whole street on various occasions. Yet the neighbours 1/2 way down the road ignored this information and pretended they couldn't understand why we finally got so upset about their guests parking on OUR driveway (after months of being nice about it), that are clearly marked. We started blocking people in before going out for a nice long walk. The cheek and nerve of a few of their attitudes when we finally got back, were absolutely disgusting. In fact one neighbour had the nerve to call me a bitch! So I later parked my car on their driveway and went away overnight (our driveway had our guests cars on) and taught him a lesson. He went off on one saying it was "different" LOL.

We had got so fed up of being 'nice' about people deliberately parking on our drive, that our neighbours quickly learnt I wasn't going to have the piss taken out of us any longer and know now to ensure their guests haven't parked there. Some people just like to take liberties because they're selfish, inconsiderate people. Oh, and for those of you who have asked "where's your car? Why would you have to move it to block her in if it's not on your drive?".....1)double driveway. 2) it's PRIVATE LAND / DRIVEWAY that we have to pay for if it gets damaged and / or for wear and tear and 3) MOST IMPORTANTLY we do not need to explain or give a reason as to why we don't want some cheeky sod parking on our driveway!

LavenderAskew · 07/07/2021 13:45

@AbsolutelySure

I agree with earrings too, as annoying as it is, you're asking someone to move from a space so it can sit empty..... different story if husband returns and needs the space.
So you think that the OP should have left it, waited till he returned and then as he was unable to use his car parking space for his car then, and only then, can something have been done. Also, while he tries to figure out whose car is parked in his car parking space and then ask them to move their incorrectly park car he leaves his car where? (
sunglassesonthetable · 07/07/2021 13:56

agree with earrings too, as annoying as it is, you're asking someone to move from a space so it can sit empty..... different story if husband returns and needs the space.

What interests me is the posters who think all the good manners, courtesy, understanding, inconvenience, forbearance, giving of the benefit of the doubt, taking it in their stride, zen tolerance and kindness should flow from the OP.

Whilst not one iota of consideration or thought to other people's convenience is demonstrated by the CF parker, who has NO IDEA or care that a skip, ambulance, delivery of bricks, carer, visitor, owner or even a GP could be turning up in 10 mins to use that space.

Barrequeen · 07/07/2021 14:04

Block her! I remember a few years back I was looking for a blue badge spot at the hospital. A man parked in the last one ( without a blue badge) and went in.. so I blocked him in and told the car park attendant if he wanted to find me I would be on the kids ward where my daughter was having her 2 hour chemotherapy… when the man finally appeared on the ward fuming asking me to move my car I says sorry he would have to wait until my daughter was finished ! The most brazen thing I have done but people need to realise they cannot go about doing what the F they like!

SamW98 · 07/07/2021 14:16

@sunglassesonthetable

agree with earrings too, as annoying as it is, you're asking someone to move from a space so it can sit empty..... different story if husband returns and needs the space.

What interests me is the posters who think all the good manners, courtesy, understanding, inconvenience, forbearance, giving of the benefit of the doubt, taking it in their stride, zen tolerance and kindness should flow from the OP.

Whilst not one iota of consideration or thought to other people's convenience is demonstrated by the CF parker, who has NO IDEA or care that a skip, ambulance, delivery of bricks, carer, visitor, owner or even a GP could be turning up in 10 mins to use that space.

Also freaking lately

Can't believe all the comments digging at the OP for daring to not want some random using her personal private property for their convenience

Theres one person at fault here and that's the entitled CF who thinks its her God given right to park where the feck she wants and not giving a shit about who it inconveniences

rantymcrantface66 · 07/07/2021 15:21

Then why bother being on a post at all? Honestly, not bring rude but why come on to a post and not even want to read just the OP's posts to find out what you're reading about?

@OhRene and @HaveringWavering Tbf you are being a bit rude though (not you havering just tagged you as well as you'd replied) as told me off for not reading but you didn't bother to read my couple of sentence long post. I had read the ENTIRE THREAD. OP's and every single posters. It was a lot of information and took a lot if time . I got to the end and realised I didn't know the the CF neighbour had left, I'd somehow missed or not remembered that fact. I was hoping someone else might have had a better memory than I as the thread had already taken up a good chunk of my morning and I didn't have time to go through the multiple messages from OP - for a second time. (Which again I clearly explained 😊)

HappyGoLuckyLuLu · 07/07/2021 16:18

Just musing that letting someone park on your drive while it is empty is a bit like saying you wouldn't mind if people came and sunbathed in your garden when you're not in it. Most people wouldn't like this and would consider it an invasion of their privately owned space & not appropriate - parking on someone's privately owned drive is not OK in my opinion. But clearly some of you on here would be fine with a neighbours family setting up camp and picnicking on your lawn when you're not using it - each to their own but I don't think anyone should ever assume to have this right over someone else's privately owned land!

DdraigGoch · 07/07/2021 16:29

@RedToothBrush

Remember at school when the teacher told you to read the whole question properly otherwise you might answer something completely irrelevant?

MN is the adult manifestation of failing to listen to this infinite wisdom in life.

Imagine a world where this message was burned onto the minds of every teenager never to be forgotten.

wistfully fantasises

In one of my A Level Geography exams, I answered the wrong section by mistake, only realising when I was halfway through.

I got better marks for that section than any of the ones I'd actually been taught!

HaveringWavering · 07/07/2021 16:39

@rantymcrantface66

Then why bother being on a post at all? Honestly, not bring rude but why come on to a post and not even want to read just the OP's posts to find out what you're reading about?

@OhRene and @HaveringWavering Tbf you are being a bit rude though (not you havering just tagged you as well as you'd replied) as told me off for not reading but you didn't bother to read my couple of sentence long post. I had read the ENTIRE THREAD. OP's and every single posters. It was a lot of information and took a lot if time . I got to the end and realised I didn't know the the CF neighbour had left, I'd somehow missed or not remembered that fact. I was hoping someone else might have had a better memory than I as the thread had already taken up a good chunk of my morning and I didn't have time to go through the multiple messages from OP - for a second time. (Which again I clearly explained 😊)

Hold on. I answered your question, gave you a tip about how to read all OP's posts as you didn't seem to know, then made a self-deprecating joke about how you had cunningly managed to delegate your reading to me!

How was that rude?

HaveringWavering · 07/07/2021 16:41

Oops, I missed "not you Havering just tagged you as you had replied"-who has crap reading skills now? Blush Suggest you find someone more capable to delegate to!

Itsmeagainandagain · 07/07/2021 16:42

Throw food on her car and watch the birds scramble on top of her car, when it's covered in bird shut she will no better never to park there because she'd need to keep washing her car.

rantymcrantface66 · 07/07/2021 17:00

Tbf you are being a bit rude though (not you havering just tagged you as well as you'd replied)

@HaveringWavering see the bracketed bit of my last post highlighted for you above that says I'm not calling you rude, just tagging you in as you'd replied to @OhRene too . Lots of not reading of posts going on today 🤣🙈

rantymcrantface66 · 07/07/2021 17:01

And I also take too long to reply so cross listing happening. Might just give up and never know when CF left 🤣

SnitchyBitch · 07/07/2021 17:07

@Itsmeagainandagain There’s a car dangerously parked in my road, it’s been there for flipping weeks and weeks, caused so many near misses.
The bird seed is a good tip, if they ever come back and take it that is.

berry271909 · 07/07/2021 17:48

@rantymcrantface66

And I also take too long to reply so cross listing happening. Might just give up and never know when CF left 🤣
HaveringWavering replied to your question at 09:10 this morning.
rantymcrantface66 · 07/07/2021 17:51

@berry271909 I'm talking about her response I missed and cross posted with at 16.41. I'm getting a hard time for asking a simple question today - mostly from other people who accuse me of not reading posts not reading my posts 🙈🤣

berry271909 · 07/07/2021 18:03

Anyone who wants to know when CF left - look at the post at 09:10 this morning.

GileadTurnsYouIntoABitOfACunt · 07/07/2021 18:47

berry271909

rantymcrantface66

And I also take too long to reply so cross listing happening. Might just give up and never know when CF left

HaveringWavering replied to your question at 09:10 this morning

Oh, the irony! Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 07/07/2021 18:52

we do not need to explain or give a reason as to why we don't want some cheeky sod parking on our driveway!

THIS!

Your property - your decision.

rantymcrantface66 · 07/07/2021 19:12

@GileadTurnsYouIntoABitOfACunt

berry271909

rantymcrantface66

And I also take too long to reply so cross listing happening. Might just give up and never know when CF left

HaveringWavering replied to your question at 09:10 this morning

Oh, the irony! Grin

I've no idea who this is even aimed at anymore. I've never had such a reaction over such a simple question in my life 🙈😆
BlaBlaSmthSmth · 07/07/2021 20:27

[quote rantymcrantface66]@berry271909 I'm talking about her response I missed and cross posted with at 16.41. I'm getting a hard time for asking a simple question today - mostly from other people who accuse me of not reading posts not reading my posts 🙈🤣[/quote]
I think she was saying that Havering answered your original question at 9:10 Wink

Havering said I think the CF left some time in the evening before the CF neighbour’s DH got home. Smile

threatmatrix · 07/07/2021 22:46

I’ve said this before. Empty your bin on it.

Jux · 07/07/2021 23:11

SchadenfreudePersonified

Doctor of Philosophy doesn't count.

"Emergency, which service, please?"

"Moral theology crash team, please - it's a suspected semiotics abrogation regarding the chi-rho in 2nd century Constantinople"

"Don't let any one move - there's someone on the way. Just keep calm . . . "

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Brilliant!

Blossomtoes · 07/07/2021 23:13

@threatmatrix

I’ve said this before. Empty your bin on it.
You have. And it was pointed out that you’d have to pick it all up again when the car had driven away. It’s called cutting your nose off to spite your face.