Would you block her in?

[awaywiththefae]

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? I feel like I need to make a point

OMG OP, how dare you do some actual work today! Pft.

@awaywiththefae Thank you for this magnificent thread. I spotted in your update that nice neighbour saw and read The Note. We need to know what it said! Please tell me you asked him!

That was hilarious. Even the chippy posters.

@HarrietsweetHarriet

Don't block her in...she might be having a really bad day. Try and let it go. If you see her say something like 'I hope we helped you out today with the use of our parking bay..maybe suggest she passes on the favour. Kindness means everything right now. Try and let it go OP x

Kindness means everything right now.

Cringe. This must be a piss take.

Does kindness not matter any other time? Honestly, this ‘be kind’ shit is really starting to piss me off. It’s lost any of its original meaning and is just used to bully people (mostly women) into not being allowed to speak up. And precisely no-one would say ‘I hope we helped you by you selfishly taking our clearly marked parking space’.

I think you should install a parking meter 😂

And clamp anyone who doesn't display a ticket. £10 an hour seems fair

Nice neighbour read the note /essay but what did it say?
Just the abridged version will do as it ws a very very long note

I happened to have this thread open five minutes before the Italy v Spain match kicked off and tried to read it whilst watching, because I'm a woman and can multitask, obviously. Then I looked up at the TV (I was halfway through the thread) and it was half-time. I love football but reading this thread has been so engrossing and entertaining and the most fun I've had for a while!

Congratulations to OP, nice neighbour and the guys who plonked the cone on the car. And those diagrams were just the icing on the cake.

I must make sure that I'm nowhere near MN at 8pm tomorrow, though!

Thank you so much for this x

@awaywiththefae

Oh my gosh I didn’t think this would still be going 🤣 I haven’t had much time today to catch up, too many meetings 😬

I thought I’d provide an update … Some time over lunch I noticed looked that CF neighbours car had also gone. So he would’ve definitely have seen the note.

Then later on whilst I was considering bringing the bin in between rain storms (how heavy was that rain!) I heard nice neighbour talking to what sounded like our postie so I went out to purposely try and catch him and speak to him. I felt like Pam from Gavin & Stacey “It’s the drama Mick, I just love it!” ☺️

So it wasn’t nice neighbour who wrote the note, which he saw and read, nor did he put the cone on the car, which he actually didn’t see but now is also wondering who did both.

He was gutted he had to physically be at work today or he said he’d have left his car there. 😆🤭 Apparently CF neighbour has allowed workmen to park their vans in nice neighbours spaces before and it was the last straw. We had a good giggle anyway.

There it is, no great ending I’m afraid, just more mystery!

I’m sure it will all unravel soon enough and I’m absolutely sure that CF neighbours must know nice neighbour owns the big black VW estate. If they didn’t they will notice it now, just parked around the bend! Haha! They must think the note and cone were him, or me! Well good, to be honest. Maybe they won’t act like our spaces are free for alls for their taking. I’m kind of disappointed that CF Parker didn’t really get any comeuppance but maybe someone did report CF DH’s car … that would’ve been funny.

Anyway thanks for coming on this CF parking journey with me. 🤣 It’s comforting to think I’m not the only one and that CF Parkers are out there still being CFs. If there are things certain in life I guess it’s death, taxes and CF Parkers.

What did the note say! Surely he shared with you? It’s just cruel not to let us know.

Go back to the office and then you won’t know what goes on during the day

Super post @awaywiththefae, most entertaining. Now it’s all calmed down, you should probably do something about that giant rabbit on your roof!

Still can't fathom why anybody thinks they can park their car in someone else's space/or across their drive. I don't always have washing on my line, or sit on my garden furniture - but I'd sure as hell be livid if I came home to someone else's washing hanging there or their backsides on my furniture.

Thing about those fold down bollards is that you have to drive out, then stop the car, get out, lock it upright and get back in your car. That’s a bit of a PITA.

*Kindness means everything right now.

Cringe. This must be a piss take.

Does kindness not matter any other time? Honestly, this ‘be kind’ shit is really starting to piss me off. It’s lost any of its original meaning and is just used to bully people (mostly women) into not being allowed to speak up. And precisely no-one would say ‘I hope we helped you by you selfishly taking our clearly marked parking space’*

Right? It’s just another stick to whip us with and keep us in our place. I’m sick to death of it. The fuck I’m letting anyone take the piss out of me. Don’t say thanks when I hold the door? Grand, I bite my tongue and assume you’re distracted or having a hard time. However ignoring me when you’ve been told your inconsiderate behaviour inconveniences me, you will hear all about it. Because I’m not a fucking chump.

Astonishing, the 'what harm's it doing, it's empty' brigade...

Last time I came home off a 14 hour night at work only to have to do the rounds searching for the selfish twat who took my allocated, clearly marked space before I could get to bed, they found out exactly what harm it does. Their excuse too was 'but it was empty'. Wankers.

Sorry, bold fail there. That was in reply to AlGorithim

@HarrietsweetHarriet

Don't block her in...she might be having a really bad day. Try and let it go. If you see her say something like 'I hope we helped you out today with the use of our parking bay..maybe suggest she passes on the favour. Kindness means everything right now. Try and let it go OP x

Can I come round to your house next time I'm having a bad day and wander in and take over your living room and ensure that you can't use it? You wouldn't object, would you, after all Kindness means everything.

Harriet sure, and the person whose space has just been nicked might be having an even worse time. You don't know. So, keep out of other people's property. It's all pretty damn straightforward.

I live right on a pelican crossing. Which is right on the corner of a primary school. I don't have a drive but parking just after the crossing but it is not exclusively mine but when parent park up in the spaces at 1.45pm,eat their dinner and sit waiting in their car until school finishes it pissed me right off as I can not park anywhere at all near my house. I'm off work at moment due to basically long covid but had to go and get some food shopping done today ready for. My daughter cimg back home from her dad's tomorrow
I timed it all wrong and got. Outside my house at 2pm. There wasn't once space on my. Road or the surrounding roads already at that time for me to park and carry all shopping so I just went and parked it on grass verge next to the cars parked on road outside mine. The looks and comments I got were unreal. I've had to do that before and my car had been keyed!! All I want to do is bring my big shop into house without having to carry it miles because lazy buggers decide to park from 1.45pm just to pick up their kids. I move my car off verge as soon as they have all gone but now I. Know I have to time my shopping or when I am going to return home. It may sound like I think I am entitled to thay spot but I know im not but its the fact of people sitting in car for that length of time just to get near school and then they have a pop at me for going on grass verge next to them so I can bring my shopping in. And they have keyed my car!!

Such harsh people on this site no empathy or understanding 😒

Cow! Yes do it. And superglue her tyre valves as a parting shot.

@MaisyMoo2021

There will be a violent end where someone will get beaten up. A doctor will be called, parking in one of the neighbours parking spaces (with no note on the dashboard) and the cycle will start again

😂😂😂😂😂 hilarious

Could she be deaf? If she didn’t answer. Then hasn’t answered the door?

Deaf people are generally not stupid and will tell you if they are deaf.

I've had this a few times, no idea why as it is a) obvious it is my space and b) on a cul-de-sac of disabled people's bungalows.

I've found the local not police, but people who answer the non emergency telephone are quite good at checking information and if they have a number phoning them. For some reason a call from a police station works well.

I have also done the blocking in a couple of times.

@AlGorithim @AGirlCalledJohnny

👏🏼 👏🏼

Agree. “Be kind” doesn’t actually mean “be a complete doormat”.

@MrsP2018

I live right on a pelican crossing. Which is right on the corner of a primary school. I don't have a drive but parking just after the crossing but it is not exclusively mine but when parent park up in the spaces at 1.45pm,eat their dinner and sit waiting in their car until school finishes it pissed me right off as I can not park anywhere at all near my house. I'm off work at moment due to basically long covid but had to go and get some food shopping done today ready for. My daughter cimg back home from her dad's tomorrow I timed it all wrong and got. Outside my house at 2pm. There wasn't once space on my. Road or the surrounding roads already at that time for me to park and carry all shopping so I just went and parked it on grass verge next to the cars parked on road outside mine. The looks and comments I got were unreal. I've had to do that before and my car had been keyed!! All I want to do is bring my big shop into house without having to carry it miles because lazy buggers decide to park from 1.45pm just to pick up their kids. I move my car off verge as soon as they have all gone but now I. Know I have to time my shopping or when I am going to return home. It may sound like I think I am entitled to thay spot but I know im not but its the fact of people sitting in car for that length of time just to get near school and then they have a pop at me for going on grass verge next to them so I can bring my shopping in. And they have keyed my car!!

There is never any justification for keying a car, that is criminal damage and should be reported to the police. However it’s hard without a diagram to tell what the issue was with pulling up on the verge to unload. What were they annoyed about- were you blocking visibility, or blocking them in, or making the road too narrow, or was it something to do with damage to the grass? Seems odd that people who don’t live there would really care unless you were inconveniencing them in some way.