Would you block her in?

[awaywiththefae]

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? I feel like I need to make a point

This thread is brilliant BUT we need to know exactly what the note says! Can you not just pop out again OP and steal it?

A) yes, we visit very sick/dying patients. Ever heard of palliative care?
B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us.
And no, I wouldn’t walk past someone who pointed out it was the wrong place to park; but so many posts on here aren’t stories of someone saying “this is the wrong spot”. They’re just blocking the car in.
I just feel exhausted to live in such a negative place that’s so unkind. It’s tiring watching that, even if from a distance.

I'm not saying that your job isn't very important, but sick/dying (where a GP doing home visits is the preferred choice over an emergency paramedic) still doesn't usually mean that if you don't get there until a minute or two later, having found a suitable parking spot, it will routinely mean the difference between life and death.

Flip it around and somebody is using your designated parking space at work or has pulled on to your drive at home, so you have to park further away and it takes longer every time you need to walk to your car to go on a home visit to a very sick patient.

Would you just smile and 'not be unkind', or would you expect everybody to know you were a doctor (even with no basic clues) and be even the tiniest bit peeved that you had provided for your own parking needs, but somebody else had decided to take it for themselves anyway? What if their selfishness cost you valuable minutes at the start of your journey to the very ill patient, meaning that you were too late for your patient's last minutes, even if you'd been able to pull up right outside the patient's house and dash inside in 5 seconds at the other end?

An honest one-off mistake is fair enough, if you apologise and then move (or even say "Sorry, it's a medical emergency" as you rush in). I really don't see why you have to 'not be unkind' to somebody visiting their friend socially, who ignores and walks past you when you remind them of the very obvious and then stays in your spot for hours - especially when said friend has an empty drive.

The CF ignored all of the free/suitable spaces and deliberately decided to trespass in somebody else's space instead. By way of an analogy, you probably wouldn't harshly criticise a desperately starving, penniless person who shoplifted a loaf of bread; but this is the equivalent of somebody simply running out with a trolley-load, because they didn't want to have to break into a £20 note.

@HaveringWavering

So, curiouser and curiouser- sounds like the note was not written by Nice Neighbour along the lines of “I parked over your drive because your visitor parked in my space, hope you have learned your lesson”

But instead by a THIRD neighbour who (unsurprisingly) objected to a massive Qashqai in the middle of the road but Disney know the history (hence “I don’t know who you are visiting”). Please ask Nice Neighbour for an update when he gets home this eve!

I know and it couldn’t be their direct neighbour as surely they’d know their car? So it’s not me, not nice neighbour and not CF neighbour’s neighbour (who saw he eyeballing the note this morning) it’s someone else!

Also I forgot to say the cone wasn’t in the car this morning so someone had removed that too.

B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us

Bullshit. Our doctors did home visits in a vehicle painted up like an ambulance with 'doctor' painted on the sides.

Like this:

NRTFT so apologies if this has already been suggested. Can the OP install the (in)famous penguin bollards to stop this happening in the future?

@awaywiththefae

Here is my awful photo as you can see it’s a long one!! 😆

Top tip for future OP. Walk past while videoing. You can then take a screengrab from the video that will be loads clearer than a zoomed pic

what happened did you block her in :D

I’m loving this post. Your neighbour is a HERO.

Looks like CF-parking-gate is rippling out across the neighbourhood.

Would love to read that note.

@FatCatThinCat

B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us

Bullshit. Our doctors did home visits in a vehicle painted up like an ambulance with 'doctor' painted on the sides.

On the very rare occasion I’ve ever seen a GP do a home visit they’ve used their own car. The picture is an emergency vehicle.

*FatCatThinCat
B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us

Bullshit. Our doctors did home visits in a vehicle painted up like an ambulance with 'doctor' painted on the sides.
On the very rare occasion I’ve ever seen a GP do a home visit they’ve used their own car. The picture is an emergency vehicle.*

This thread is wild 😄

I would think the GP on the thread knows what car she drives!

In the days before my Dad died (at home) we had the GP visit in his own car and the out of hours doctor visit in something not dissimilar to the picture posted, but not a full emergency vehicle.

They can be in either.

@FatCatThinCat

B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us

Bullshit. Our doctors did home visits in a vehicle painted up like an ambulance with 'doctor' painted on the sides.

There are doctors from different settings that visit patients. Dr's from GP practices don't have those "ambulance" vehicles, they use their own non-marked cars.

If you read the thread you’ll know what happened.

Too many CF parkers.
Woman who lives around the corner came out to find someone parking across her neighbours' driveway (with gates to garage and clear "No parking" sign).
She asked the driver to move and pointed out the sign.
Driver said, "They're not using it. They never use it. There are cobwebs on the gate." and walked off.
Don't know what the outcome was, unfortunately.

WutheringBites Mon 05-Jul-21 21:33:20 this is such a depressing thread. I'm a dr and do home visits. I've parked in COMPLETELY THE WRONG SPOT because I don't know where I'm visiting/didn't know it was a reserved space/am more bloody worried about visiting a sick patient (and the next two I've got to get to before I have to start afternoon surgery). fortunately, I work in a nice bit of the world where no one has blocked me in (yet). and, no, there's not a "dr on call" note to put in the window. sad people are such twats.

My neighbour FREQUENTLY has dr and nurse home visits and they always ALWAYS park on the footpath across my drive. ALWAYS!! There is absolutely no excuse for it. There is a large sign Number 14 right next to my drive that they park in front of. And they will not move when I ask them because 'I'm a doctor' or 'I'm a nurse'. I don't care who you are you have no right to block me getting in or out of my private drive. Meanwhile the neighbour's drive Number 15 is sitting empty. If someone doesn't know which house they're going to or can't read clearly marked signs then how on earth are they a medical professional surely they park on a bit of road that doesn't completely block any drives? Or if the road is that difficult then surely you figure out which house you're going to then move from blocking a neighbouring drive? If it's some sort of life death emergency then how would the blocked drive person know that? If I need to leave and there is a car blocking my drive I have no idea who it is or why it's there, I phone the police. The police then phone you and tell you to move and I have to wait. Meanwhile I've missed my own dr appointment.

For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us

I’m surprised that these would be left unattended in the car while the ‘Doctor attending’ letter was on the dashboard.

Anyway, back to the thread!

@WeatherwaxOn

Too many CF parkers. Woman who lives around the corner came out to find someone parking across her neighbours' driveway (with gates to garage and clear "No parking" sign). She asked the driver to move and pointed out the sign. Driver said, "They're not using it. They never use it. There are cobwebs on the gate." and walked off. Don't know what the outcome was, unfortunately.

Why would anyone ask someone to move from across someone else’s drive?

@HaveringWavering

Disney?! Doesn’t. (This is good but I don’t think it’s quite likely to be turned into a film )

I assumed you were Scottish and had dictated your post

Your diagrams are very impressive OP!

Maybe you need to remove the wheels* of the CF Neighbour's car scatter them around the neighbourhood (with the aid of you DH, Nice Neighbours and Cone Neighbours) and leave a diagram of where they can find them.

• for those that are too serious to realise that this isn't an real suggestion it's not a real suggestion.

Why would anyone ask someone to move from across someone else’s drive?

Presumably because she’s good friends friends with the neighbour and knows that they need access in and out of the driveway. Maybe they have caring responsibilities, maybe they attend hospital appointments, any number of things. If someone parked across my neighbour’s drive and fucked off I’d speak to them as I know her circumstances and she’d do the same for me.

A) yes, we visit very sick/dying patients. Ever heard of palliative care?
B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us.
And no, I wouldn’t walk past someone who pointed out it was the wrong place to park; but so many posts on here aren’t stories of someone saying “this is the wrong spot”. They’re just blocking the car in.
I just feel exhausted to live in such a negative place that’s so unkind. It’s tiring watching that, even if from a distance.

I do palliative care for a living, I visit patients at home all day everyday. And not finding any parking is rare - satnav is genius, takes you straight to the front door. Only about twice a year do I end up with a long walk.

And we never carry opioids - how often are you using them? With anticipatory prescribing 99% of patients have them at home, those that don't you can get them the same day, loads of patients now need different to what you would have in your bag anyway. Lots of GPs have got rid as it's not worth the hassle. If fulltime palliative care docs can manage without, so can you.

If you really want a sign, just laminate one.

@awaywiththefae you have started a neighbourhood civil war and I am HERE FOR IT!

@VodkaSlimline I AM Scottish but as far as I know I have never dictated anything into my phone, however that autocorrect happens to me all the time and it does make me laugh for exactly that reason .