Would you block her in?

[awaywiththefae]

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? I feel like I need to make a point

Obviously I'm a misery guts with no sense of humour ,but well done OP, you've just created years of bad feeling in your neighbourhood, over something that caused you no inconvenience whatsoever.

Why would anyone ask someone to move from across someone else’s drive?

For the same reasons why I ask people to move when I see them parked in my neighbour's disabled parking bay - in case the resident actually needs it (and in the case of the disabled bay, because it's illegal to park in one without a blue badge)

Disney?! Doesn’t. (This is good but I don’t think it’s quite likely to be turned into a film )

If OP was to get Olaf involved, it might be...

We NEED a diagram

This is hilarious!

yellowsubmarines

I know this might not be a popular opinion, but I think that a minority of doctors and nurses do things like that deliberately, because they think they're more important than anybody else or just like the self-validation of being able to (try to) belittle somebody with "Don't you know I'm a doctor?!" Some of them probably relish the confrontation and any opportunity to play 'occupation top trumps'.

Of course, the vast majority of HCPs are ordinary, decent, non-selfish people, like the rest of us, but you get arrogant people in all professions, so there's no reason why HCPs should be immune from that possibility.

Actual footage of me encountering someone parking on my allocated space

Jo

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

yellowsubmarines

I know this might not be a popular opinion, but I think that a minority of doctors and nurses do things like that deliberately, because they think they're more important than anybody else or just like the self-validation of being able to (try to) belittle somebody with "Don't you know I'm a doctor?!" Some of them probably relish the confrontation and any opportunity to play 'occupation top trumps'.

Of course, the vast majority of HCPs are ordinary, decent, non-selfish people, like the rest of us, but you get arrogant people in all professions, so there's no reason why HCPs should be immune from that possibility.

as an ex NHS worker in the community I think you are right. i didn't manage doctors but I did have to speak to a couple of our HCA's about polite parking. We all carried laminated NHS equipment unloading signs as we delivered and fitted some quite large peces of equipment including wheelchairs and mobile hoists so sometimes we did have to double park or block in really briefly but we knew that our public behaviour reflected on our team and that CF ism was not on!

@HaveringWavering

Disney?! Doesn’t. (This is good but I don’t think it’s quite likely to be turned into a film )

I just thought you were Scottish 🙈

Do you think the CF neighbour might have put the note on the nice neighbour's car (makes sense with the content you remember and the removed cone) and nice neighbour thought sod off and put it back on CFs car?

Will you get an update from nice neighbour tonight?

If you are a healthcare worker visiting someone with a drive, why not park in their drive? When tradespeople visit me, they park at the end of my drive and move if one of us needs to get our car out.

And if people can see you are unloading, they know it's only for a few minutes and they'll put up with it. That's not the situation here, where a CF thought she was entitled to park where she liked and stuff the inconvenience it might cause the OP or others.

I am quite shocked that so many MNers think it's ok to park inconsiderately (and illegally in some cases). Although I suppose it's the same syndrome that allows kids to run around cafes indiscriminately or lets dogs off lead in areas where they should be under close control. All about entitlement and lack of consideration.

@Backhills

Obviously I'm a misery guts with no sense of humour ,but well done OP, you've just created years of bad feeling in your neighbourhood, over something that caused you no inconvenience whatsoever.

Actually the CF Parker would have (and did) caused issue. OP's DH did arrive home before CFer had left. So had OP not told them again to move, her husband would have had an issue parking in the spot he has paid for. The CFer then parked in a neighbour's spot and was still there when he then arrived home, this meant that he was unable to park in the spot HE has paid for. So no, it wasn't a non issue. The CFer was going to inconvenience no matter what.

Thanks again op for this, sure who even needs a television with all this going on outside.
I can just imagine by now most of the neighbours are watching the next move.
Its like a big outdoor game of chess

@beachcitygirl

We NEED a diagram

We've had THREE

I’m amazed at the number of posters who get home visits from the Dr. We had to sign a waiver 6 years ago, so we could sign up to our local Dr surgery. Currently cannot even see a Dr. Just a telephone consult with receptionist or nurse if you are lucky.

Ok maybe there is a tiny chance it's medical but my moneys on it being a CF

@Bargebill19

I’m amazed at the number of posters who get home visits from the Dr. We had to sign a waiver 6 years ago, so we could sign up to our local Dr surgery. Currently cannot even see a Dr. Just a telephone consult with receptionist or nurse if you are lucky.

We have, unfortunately had a lot of medical home visits over the last 3 months. Physio, nurses at various levels and doctors from the Hospice, but it's true that whilst GP kept in touch with monthly "appointments" he never actually met DH during the entire cours e of his illness.

We did have doctors visit though, just not the GP.

@Backhills

Sorry to here that. 💐

Our choices are ambulance or other way to get yourself to a and e. Or nothing.

If you are a healthcare worker visiting someone with a drive, why not park in their drive?

I v rarely park in people's drives as it takes longer! If you are driving down a street looking for number 149, you have probably driven past it by the time you have spotted it. Much easier and quicker to park somewhere on the street vaguely nearby, get out and find it by foot.

Also, and sadly, sometimes you visit people who you really don't want to know which car you came in.

So was the note from, you never told us?

Well I would only go and knock if your husband gets home from work and she’s still there! Other than that I couldn’t get worked up about it.
🤷‍♀️

@wowee

Read the op posts. You can select just those to do a quick skim through.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

A) yes, we visit very sick/dying patients. Ever heard of palliative care? B) no note. For the very reason that we visit dying patients and may have a medical bag with opioids, etc with us. And no, I wouldn’t walk past someone who pointed out it was the wrong place to park; but so many posts on here aren’t stories of someone saying “this is the wrong spot”. They’re just blocking the car in. I just feel exhausted to live in such a negative place that’s so unkind. It’s tiring watching that, even if from a distance.

I'm not saying that your job isn't very important, but sick/dying (where a GP doing home visits is the preferred choice over an emergency paramedic) still doesn't usually mean that if you don't get there until a minute or two later, having found a suitable parking spot, it will routinely mean the difference between life and death.

Flip it around and somebody is using your designated parking space at work or has pulled on to your drive at home, so you have to park further away and it takes longer every time you need to walk to your car to go on a home visit to a very sick patient.

Would you just smile and 'not be unkind', or would you expect everybody to know you were a doctor (even with no basic clues) and be even the tiniest bit peeved that you had provided for your own parking needs, but somebody else had decided to take it for themselves anyway? What if their selfishness cost you valuable minutes at the start of your journey to the very ill patient, meaning that you were too late for your patient's last minutes, even if you'd been able to pull up right outside the patient's house and dash inside in 5 seconds at the other end?

An honest one-off mistake is fair enough, if you apologise and then move (or even say "Sorry, it's a medical emergency" as you rush in). I really don't see why you have to 'not be unkind' to somebody visiting their friend socially, who ignores and walks past you when you remind them of the very obvious and then stays in your spot for hours - especially when said friend has an empty drive.

The CF ignored all of the free/suitable spaces and deliberately decided to trespass in somebody else's space instead. By way of an analogy, you probably wouldn't harshly criticise a desperately starving, penniless person who shoplifted a loaf of bread; but this is the equivalent of somebody simply running out with a trolley-load, because they didn't want to have to break into a £20 note.

Absolutely spot on, @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll!!

Ok so some doctors have clearly marked doctors cars and others don’t, surely that proves the general point that it’s not an issue for people to know the car is a doctors and you can leave a sign if it worries you. If the doctors in cars with DOCTOR. printed on the sign don’t regularly get mugged for opioids nor will the doctor commenting on this thread.
Step 1. Sigh heavily that these signs are not just sold at the Waitrose
Step 2. Type up and print out sign
Step 3. Pause again to sigh heavily at how difficult life is.
Step 4. Attach sign to inside window.
(I’ve even skipped laminating to keep it easy)

Really surprised by the GP post here - I do home visits at times, and would never dream of blocking a drive or parking on someones designated space.