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Who is right in this scenario?

131 replies

ToffeePennie · 05/07/2021 13:15

Partner A has a broken ankle and cannot weight bear for long. They are laid up on the sofa at home as they are self employed and have rearranged their work to fit with their injury.
Partner B works a salaried position, never off the phone or computer and always goes above and beyond. They have a lot of love for their job and really enjoy it, as well as being able to work from home.
Partner A was bought a single drink from partner B this morning. Since then, nothing. Not seen partner B since 9am.
Partner B has been on phone calls all morning and has been busy with work. The time slipped their mind and they thought partner A would be able to make another drink or even a sandwich fairly easily, as they can weight bear, just not for long.
Should partner A be more considerate because it is work after all and they can weight bear, and they have the option of changing the goalposts or should partner B be more considerate because it is a temporary inconvenience to say to the caller that their partner is injured and needs?

OP posts:
RainCloudz · 06/07/2021 11:59

I hate when the op doesn't come back to these threads.

Cocomarine · 06/07/2021 13:47

@RainCloudz

I hate when the op doesn't come back to these threads.
OP is no doubt person A and has been told to grow up - so I can see why they haven’t!
cheesecrackerz · 06/07/2021 15:01

Or OP is going to come back and try to pretend they're person B but have just been TOO BUSY with work to come back to the thread Grin

AryaStarkWolf · 06/07/2021 16:44

@LondonJax

Sorry but if B was me or DH I'd expect A to be having a word if we'd left them to just get on with it.

I would hope that B would bring the other one a drink if I/he were at home and making ourselves a drink whilst the other one was incapacitated.

Surely B has a drink and makes lunch - or don't they drink or eat from 9am to close of business? If so, what's hard about making another cup or sandwich? DH and I do this every day on the days we're both WFH. It's common curtesy even if you've not snapped a bone.

Or, if B doesn't stop for a drink, a wee or a sandwich (which is very weird) all day, then leave a jug of water, flask of coffee and a sandwich by A's side before 9am.

You don't have to be at someone's beck and call but if you're in the house, making something for yourself, surely you'd check if the other person needs something. Ill or not. Just poking your head around the door to say 'I'm making a cheese sandwich, would you like one and do you need a drink?' if you're making for yourself. Even our 14 year old knows you ask if anyone would like a drink he's getting a glass of something from the fridge. It's called manners.

And, yes, I would be able to hobble to do all this if DH wasn't home (or vice versa) but if DH is in the house and making his own drinks/lunch, he'd automatically get me something just to make sure I'm not likely to fall (and cause him more work).

Anything else is just odd I'm afraid.

Totally agree, I don't know which person is the man or the woman in this scenario but it doesn't matter
Youdiditanyway · 06/07/2021 16:51

A should’ve text to ask for a drink if they couldn’t manage it.

Billandben444 · 06/07/2021 21:47

OP you're a disgrace to just run for the hills like this (or hobble if you're the one with crutches). At least let us know if you're A or B.

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