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AIBU to ignore the notification?

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Doifollowrule · 04/07/2021 17:39

This morning I woke to find a notification on the NHS app telling me I'd been in contact with someone with Covid and need to isolate for 8 days. The only place that can have come from is a farm cafe on Thursday, out for lunch with DH, who does not have the app so has not been told to isolate so isn't going to. He's manager of a large pharmacy and they're on skeleton staff already and have been encouraged to delete app by big bosses. I'm a childminder so will be letting down parents if I close. I've had a pcr test this morning and I'm double vaccinated. The app says to isolate even if its negative as I could still develop covid. But seriously, what's the point of having had 2 vaccines if I'm still going to have to isolate?! But I am usually a stickler for the rules and worry about getting "caught." What do I do?

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TaylorStan · 04/07/2021 20:26

Reset the app and get on with your life. I've had 3 notifications in the last couple of weeks. I'd delete the app if people weren't so uptight about you having to scan in to places

osbertthesyrianhamster · 04/07/2021 20:28

Delete the app, get a burner phone or wave the phone at the scanner and take a photo. Job done.

Babyroobs · 04/07/2021 20:29

No -one seems to be following the rules and it's just spreading like wildfire again. Facebook is full of pictures of huge family groups, no social distancing, all crammed together. My ds has tested positive, thought it would be fine just to hug a few Uni friends as he wouldn't be seeing them again now they have graduated - they are all now testing positive. I'm furious him bringing it into our house, my dh is ecv and we are a household of six, all now needing to isolate for ten days because he thought nothing of breaking the rules.

MySharonavirus · 04/07/2021 20:31

Well, my husband has just had Covid and although I tested negative, I had the same symptoms. We've both had one vaccine and it was still absolutely awful. Laid us both out for over a week. And we think we got it from our toddler, who is in childcare.

If you don't isolate and you have Delta variant Covid and you give it to all the kids you look after, and they give it to their parents, who give it to whoever they come into contact with before they realise they've got it...

I would isolate.

HalzTangz · 04/07/2021 20:33

Delete the app and ignore it. The app is guidance only

HalzTangz · 04/07/2021 20:35

[quote Drovememad]@actorbynight why isolate? The MPs in this country aren't, so why should OP? [/quote]
Except th Mps weren't under instruction to isolate. They broke social distancing which isn't the same as isolating

MySharonavirus · 04/07/2021 20:36

I literally can't believe all this people saying ignore the notification and delete the app. You guys are the reason why we have Covid in our household right now. You guys are the reason why restrictions keep getting extended. I've stuck to the letter of the rules AND the spirit of them since March 2020 and I'm so hacked off that we're now ill because of selfish people who think they are above it all. I'm speechless!

MySharonavirus · 04/07/2021 20:36

*these people

HalzTangz · 04/07/2021 20:38

Track and trace is where someone who tested positive gave your name and number because they were in close contact with you.
The app uses anonymous Bluetooth and can pick up devices through brick walls (or a neighbour) who you have had no contact with at all

Echobelly · 04/07/2021 20:39

If you're contacted without your name it's not enforceable, I literally just found out about it this evening because my mum just told me that at a big family life event last week she'd actually got a 'ping' that meant the event would be the final day of isolation and she was really gutted at the thought of missing.

But she spoke to someone at track and trace, so my mum (double vaccinated by May) was careful and lateral flow tested herself every day to check but was clear on the day.

But given your line of work, you would probably be advised to isolate. I don't have to work with people f2f, so I might not totally isolate once my 2nd vax kicks in (in a fortnight), but if you do have to come into contact with people I think one probably should, I'm afraid.

Hotcuppatea · 04/07/2021 20:39

Ignore the sanctimonious brigade on here. Ignore it and delete the app.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 04/07/2021 20:39

@Saoirse82

Yes but there's a difference knowing you'd been notified as a close contact and not having the app at all. So yes, if you'd knowingly been minding my child after you'd been notified there would be hell to pay, I don't care if there's a legal requirement, there's a moral requirement to at least let the parents know. And I've family members who are CEV and I've known people who have died from it and my uncle is suffering from long covid after spending weeks in hospital. So yes, it would be a massive problem!
Hell to pay from whom? How do you intend to mete out this 'hell to pay'?
TheDinosaurMum · 04/07/2021 20:40

Nah ignore it. Not even sure why people have it anymore.

I've managed the whole pandemic in a key worker community role, front line. No app, service users definitely didn't follow any rules. Never caught covid, family members never caught covid. I still don't know one person personally in my close contacts who has actually had covid 😳

osbertthesyrianhamster · 04/07/2021 20:41

@MySharonavirus

I literally can't believe all this people saying ignore the notification and delete the app. You guys are the reason why we have Covid in our household right now. You guys are the reason why restrictions keep getting extended. I've stuck to the letter of the rules AND the spirit of them since March 2020 and I'm so hacked off that we're now ill because of selfish people who think they are above it all. I'm speechless!
People get Covid because they breathe. The reason restrictions are extended is because people continue to put up with them. I've contracted many viruses and bacterial infections from others. It happens. How selfish of people to go round respiring.
kazillionaire · 04/07/2021 20:42

Just isolate like thousands of others have to, if you were my childminder I would go berserk if you put my child at risk, and would be cancelling you asap. You are not special, nobody likes isolating but then if you have no morals and a grand to throw away then crack on, and hope to god that you don't infect anyone while you are being selfish

PuffItsGone · 04/07/2021 20:42

I don’t have the app. I pretend I scan in when I go to places.

nanbread · 04/07/2021 20:44

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LST · 04/07/2021 20:44

@MySharonavirus

I literally can't believe all this people saying ignore the notification and delete the app. You guys are the reason why we have Covid in our household right now. You guys are the reason why restrictions keep getting extended. I've stuck to the letter of the rules AND the spirit of them since March 2020 and I'm so hacked off that we're now ill because of selfish people who think they are above it all. I'm speechless!
So if the op didn't have the app like many many people she wouldn't have had the notification.
nanbread · 04/07/2021 20:46

[quote dementedpixie]@nanbread the app is separate from test and trace.

The app uses Bluetooth to assess how close you are to another phone running the app and if they put in that they test positive then you get a notification to isolate. It can be a complete stranger that causes you to isolate.

Test and Trace ask you for your known contacts and then contacts them to tell them to isolate. Its a legal requirement to isolate if T&T tell you to do so. The app isn't legally binding as there are no names divulged so it won't know who has been told to isolate[/quote]
Ah thanks. Weird that they're not connected.

Roonerspismed · 04/07/2021 20:49

I haven’t received these. I have obeyed all rules. But I’m done with it all. Just done.

MySharonavirus · 04/07/2021 20:51

@LST Yep, and I can't believe those people!

Nocutenamesleft · 04/07/2021 20:54

I think you’re being absolutely selfish to not do so

Friend of mine had covid. We isolated. Everyone else did not. Everyone else became positive. We did not

So 20 odd people didn’t isolate. 18 developed it. Those 18 were in contact with around 15 people each.

You can see how it spreads

My 7 ye old is CEV. So although I wasn’t happy. I’m so glad I did. We stayed negative. But I’m furious with those who didn’t and passed it on

RIPworkingmums · 04/07/2021 20:55

This is why I have never had the app and most people I know have deleted it! I would say you have to isolate because how would you feel if you infected any of the families of children in your care (regardless if they are following the rules or not).

mam0918 · 04/07/2021 20:55

I cant currently be vaccinated and Im high risk, Im also a carer for other high risk people. If my child caught covid off you as a child care provider and brought it home and risked me and my patients because you thought you where above the rules there would be living hell to pay.

mam0918 · 04/07/2021 21:00

osbertthesyrianhamster - well for a start she would be getting reported and sued.

She willfully endangered people and contrary to what people think even if you delete your app after notification it still tracable and provable.