does this sound like a rubbish wedding?

[weddingquestion12]

name change as probably outing.

i’m wanting to get married next year but our budget is pretty low. tbh even if our budget wasn’t low i can’t see us being the big fancy wedding type as we’re both a bit awkward in settings like that.

we’ve agreed on ceremony at the registry office - 50 guests allowed (hopefully). followed by hiring out a bar and just having a sort of evening party with a buffet.

a relative has said it’s your wedding day you should be doing something nicer than that. are they right?

It doesn’t sound rubbish at all - I’d want there to be enough food for a meal though.

Oh dear looks like the guests allowed are only 49 now. Opinionated relative is now off the list .

Sounds nice!

Still sounds posher my dream wedding.

I want registry office and a picnic in the park on the band stand. Home in bed at a reasonable hour.

Do what you want, what you're comfortable with both financially and socially.

I had registry office, 30 guests at local restaurant and cake and champagne at parents’ house with big garden. It was lovely.

Mines was exactly like this. Register Office then hired a local social club with dj and buffet. Was a great day as was only family and our closest friends and didn't break the bank.

Sounds good to me!

My cousin did similar - ceremony in their lovely back yard, then to a boutique bar they booked out for the night. Best wedding I've been to.

We had fewer guests than that, and the reception back at the house! Sod what anyone else thinks!!

We went to Vegas just him and me and used the witnesses the chapel provided.

Then when we got home we hired a pub, put some snacks out, put some cash behind the bar and layered big, medium and small chocolate cakes from Tesco for the cake cutting.

We had a blast with friends and family that we actually like spending time with and music we enjoy, no speeches and zero formality.

Have whatever kind of wedding you want and only invite people you enjoy spending time with and who will enjoy whatever you put on because they like you and want to celebrate the start of your marriage.

Sounds perfect to me. Your relative probably didn't think before opening gob.
Nothing to do with anyone else.

No sounds great.

Sounds great op. Nice relaxed event. People will enjoy attending, if you'll enjoy it too go for it.

In my opinion (and it is only that) all that is needed as a guest is something to eat/drink (appropriate to the time of day), somewhere to sit and a bride and groom who are happy.

If what makes the bride and groom happy is matching the ushers socks to the table decorations then so be it.

@weddingquestion12 what you are planning sounds lovely

Sounds fab! Perfect! Low key, no faff. Tell your relative if she/her wants you to do something nicer, he/she is welcome to pay for it.

I really don't like these all day weddings that drag on and on, or require travel and staying over in some expensive place, hours between food or standing around bored AF, speeches (god, why not just a toast and tuck in), etc etc

Short and sweet is perfect.

Sounds absolutely fine to me. Perfect.
Besides, it’s the marriage itself that’s the most important.
Enjoy your wedding x

@k1233

My cousin did similar - ceremony in their lovely back yard, then to a boutique bar they booked out for the night. Best wedding I've been to.

I went to one in Canada where it was the wedding in the backyard and the reception - in and out of the house, a BBQ. It was great.

That’s pretty much what we did. It was lovely and we would have hated a stiff, formal event with loads of guests.
The relative should mind their own business. It’s incredible how so many people think they have a say in other people’s weddings and tell them what they “should” do. She’s the kind of person I wouldn’t want to invite, in case she pisses off other guests by whining about “what a shame” you didn’t have more guests, bigger venue etc.

My wedding was even smaller and we had a lovely day.

Sounds great! We wanted to do something similar but somehow it has exploded into a big event.
Stick to your guns, OP! If nothing else, you'll save bucketloads of money.

Sounds lovely- go for it!

Sounds great! Nice and relaxed!

DH colleage is loaded and invited to our do. DH was expecting a huge blow out wedding but actually, they are getting married in a church and then hiring the local pub for a "wedding breakfast" and drinks.

As long as you get the day you want, it shouldn't matter shoud it?

Sounds good to me!

It's your wedding, if you want a picnic in the park or an afternoon tea, it's entirely your choice!

As long as the guests are clear on what to expect, do whatever you want.

When I get married this will be my type of wedding I hate a fuss.