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AIBU?

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Original poster

would you do this for your DH?

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LittleGoldfish · 23/11/2007 11:30

My DH has managed to get 9 points on his drivers license for speeding offences, I however in my 36 years have never managed any.

He asked me if I would have the next set of points put on my drivers license otherwise he will lose his license (in other words say it was me driving). I told him to f off and to learn how to stick to the speed limit- I can managed it so why can't he?

AIBU about this, he reckons 3 points on my license wont make much difference but I am in the process of having a CRB check done (applied to study nursing) and don't want any criminal offences although I know they don't take driving offences too seriously, but still.

He is in a major mood with me atm. AIBU about not wanting someone elses points on my license? especially as I haven't been the one speeding.

OP posts:

Tortington · 26/11/2007 12:01

i got my mother to take 3 of mine

i hear that students with provisionals will take three for £100

VictorianSqualor · 26/11/2007 12:05

But they shouldn't custardo, they shouldn't be taking the blame for someone else.
It is illegal.

Should my MIL take BIL's points because she doesn't want him to have points on his license incase it makes his insurance higher??

She doesn't even know the risks involved if she gets caught. BIL tells her 'It's fine, no-one gets caught' so she believes him, and it's left down to me and DP to tell her 'actually people do get caught and it is a criminal offence'.

Chopster · 26/11/2007 12:22

littlegoldfish he may be too busy to read this thread, but show him this story here

Jailed for 6 weeks, fined £1200, disqualified from driving for 6 mnths, and possibly faces disciplinary action at work.

Tortington · 26/11/2007 13:11

not sure what your point is victorian?

VictorianSqualor · 26/11/2007 13:14

That no-one should be taking anyone elses points.
Especially as everyone seems to think it's so easy to do and no-one is going to get caught.
Having three points on your licence is a lot better than being done for fraud I'd assume.

Tortington · 26/11/2007 13:35

so your point is that it is illegal? yes it is.

FluffyMummy123 · 26/11/2007 13:39

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MamaD · 26/11/2007 13:48

Uh Oh, I'm the opposite to the OP - I've actually offered to take dh's points.

DH already has 3 points on his licence (caught doing 77 mph on M4 2 years ago).

About a month ago he received 2 speeding tickets thru the post on the same day. One was for 34 in a 30 and one for 42 in a 30. Both were from a mobile camera and taken about 45 mins apart. He was caught on our drive to and from the beach to walk the dog. First one was at about 8am, 2nd about 8:45am.

This is in the area that dh grew up in and his parents still live. The road in question is not residential, is wide enough to be a dual carriageway (but isn't), has open grassland either side - a beach on one side and a nature reserve on the other, no pavements (but then nowhere to walk to!). It does have street lights, but I think that is because there is an entrance to a large company on the one side so it lights that up.

Dh (and his family) swears blind he thought it was a 40 or 50 road. There really doesn't seem to be a reason it's a 30 - and strangely enough, about a mile further down, where there are houses, it turns into a 40!

When the letter came thru I straight away said to dh that as long as he asked for the photos and checked they were blurred (they are, very) then I will take one of them for him. Our insurance (and maybe others) doesn't make any difference between 0 and 3 points, only about £15 between 3 and 6, but a whopping £150 for 9. We just cannot afford that, so I'd rather take his 3 points onto my clean licence than have him with 9.

(and yes, I've read all the above regarding it being illegal etc, but sorry (cod especially!) I cant see how they will prove I wasn't driving, so am going to do it - I dont agree with speeding in the main, and dont do it purposely, but if I had have been driving I'm sure I would have been doing 40 on that road too.)

Bouncingturtle · 26/11/2007 14:08

Sorry MamaD but you can get caught. The opposite happened to my FIL, he got a speeding ticket and demanded to see the photo as he disputed it when he saw the date and time (he wasn't driving at the time). He was able to successfully prove he wasn't driving the vehicle in the photo - turned out his plate had been cloned, and got the ticket rescinded.
Another friend also ended up with a hefty fine when they tried to claim it was their brother driving their car when it was caught by a speed camera.
I have NO sympathy for the OP's husband and she is absolutely correct not to take his points. If he doesn't want to do the time, then don't do the crime. He clearly isn't learning from his past mistakes and if it takes him losing his licence to give him the wake up call he needs then so be it.

MrsArchieTheInventor · 26/11/2007 14:16

I've seethed over this post over the weekend and I've finally come up with a rational retort, other than hitting your dh in the face with a wet kipper and yelling in his ear to fucking slow down and take responsibility for your actions, you pathetic juvenile wanker!

What happens when he's filled your licence up with penalty points? Does he then move on to bribing strangers in the street to take the points for him because he can't learn a lesson and slow down?!!

Twunt!

MamaD · 26/11/2007 14:17

Oh, I dont have sympathy for the OPs DH - I really do think she INBU - but I think my DHs situation is slightly different.

Not sure how (or even why) they would question me driving the car tho'. We'll just say one of us drove to the beach, one drove back, both got caught out.

The way I see it the bloody Police will just be happy to see the money......

(mind you, have also looked into one of the 100s of websites that promise 'a failsafe way to get speeding fines dropped' etc etc as in this case I really dont think the fine/points is fair.

Mawma · 26/11/2007 14:31

only read op, to be honest your dh is not going to change the speeds he does, he would of done a long time ago when he received the first set of points. what gets me is how many chances people get when speeding clearly kills, my brother was killed crossing at traffic lights with a man speeding who had 6points on his licence, your dh needs to stand up to his behaviour and take the ban there are many routes to and from work with public transport,bike, train etc, it makes me sick to think people are taking points on behalf of loved ones doing speeding

chodders · 26/11/2007 14:40

I also had 9 points last year & asked my hubby to do the same,he didnt of course but i was just scared incase i couldnt do the school run .the points were so unfair like going 33mph in a 30 zone.I've just gone real careful & now I am down to 3points! Good luck & merry xmas !!
if i dont talk to u again.

chenin · 26/11/2007 15:29

MamaD... your DH has my sympathy. The road I was caught out on was also a very wide road... grass verges either side,no pavements, and never seen a pedestrian walk across it, and I imagined it was a 50 zone! To be caught at 34mph there by a mobile van was sickening.

One query I have is.. you just can't ask anyone to take points for you.. surely they have to be on your insurance policy? Someone earlier talked about students taking points for people (one step toooo far I think), but surely they wouldn't be insured in your car, and surely the Police would realise this?

FluffyMummy123 · 26/11/2007 15:30

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chenin · 26/11/2007 15:32

It also makes me pretty annoyed that you only get 3 points for doing 45mph in a 30 zone... that is a huge difference to my 34mph in a 30 zone.

chenin · 26/11/2007 15:33

that is interesting cod.... i thought they checked your insurance policy.

Original poster

LittleGoldfish · 26/11/2007 15:37

helliebean - I agree - the faster speed you go the more point you should have & a bigger fine- that would make people think twice about speeding.

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Tortington · 26/11/2007 15:37

ah but helliebean the reasoning is that all speeding is wrong - the govt can't be seen to punish by degrees of wrongness!

hayCHingleBells · 26/11/2007 15:45

why not custardo?

A burgular recieves less of a sentance than an armed robber.

FluffyMummy123 · 26/11/2007 15:48

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FluffyMummy123 · 26/11/2007 15:49

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chenin · 26/11/2007 15:49

Yes... all speeding is wrong... but the difference between speeding at 33mph and 45mph in a 30 zone is huuuuuuge! (mind you I would say that, having been caught at the lower speed!)
If I had been doing 45mph I would accept and take my punishment without complaint... I could have been doing 34mph overtaking a bicycle or summat... I wasn't speeding like a boy racer and there is a big big difference, I think...!

FluffyMummy123 · 26/11/2007 15:49

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chenin · 26/11/2007 15:50

and it only goes up to 3 points at 45mph in a 30 . The gap is too large I think.

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