would you do this for your DH?

[LittleGoldfish]

My DH has managed to get 9 points on his drivers license for speeding offences, I however in my 36 years have never managed any.

He asked me if I would have the next set of points put on my drivers license otherwise he will lose his license (in other words say it was me driving). I told him to f off and to learn how to stick to the speed limit- I can managed it so why can't he?

AIBU about this, he reckons 3 points on my license wont make much difference but I am in the process of having a CRB check done (applied to study nursing) and don't want any criminal offences although I know they don't take driving offences too seriously, but still.

He is in a major mood with me atm. AIBU about not wanting someone elses points on my license? especially as I haven't been the one speeding.

lgf, what did your dh say when you emailed him the thread? Or is it too naughty to write down?

No, of course you don't fail a CRB for having 3 points on your license.

But you DO fail it if you are found to be taking someone else's points.

Just read the beginning of this thread.

I wouldn't do it, to have 9 points he must have been caught speeding 3/4x, the first time you don't get points.

If he can't learn to drive within the speed limit he shouldn't be driving.

What car does he have??? I know in my dp's car he can set it so the car doesn't allow him to go over a certain limit, he has to set the limit himself and change it when he goes in different limit zones but it does help for driving on the motorway when you can easily put your foot down a little too hard.

I have to say... since getting my two lots of 3 points.. I don't feel I am now a 'safe' driver. I am jumpy... I spend the whole time looking at speed signs and not concentrating on the road enough, and I am driving like a Granny.
All that you have said Cod and Policywonk is totally correct... the worse points to get... both of mine were in 30mph zones,
but
one was on the widest road ever where there really would not be pedestrians.. if there was, you would see them a mile off. TBH I would have put this road at 50mph zone, and not 30mph and I was gobsmacked to hear it was a 30 zone (and it was a mobile van that caught me)
and the other 3 points was on a road with extreme good visibility and I could see there were no pedestrians... again mobile van... this time only 34mph.
Absolutely no excuse for either, but from feeling like a safe competent driver for over 30 years, I know feel like a learner driver and feel far more unsafe.

And, no, not all uninsured untaxed drivers get caught... case in point, neighbours 19yr old daughter got rammed in her car by one... Police can't find him and damage has cost thousands.

BTW, a friend of mine just ignored two speeding letters he received... they were never followed up and he never heard from them again....

Helliebean........we all speed...and it is so easy to get caught out now as there are so many cameras.

What gets me is those who persist in speeding knowing or rather thinking they have a right to it. Not those who are unlucky and say just edge over the limit and get caught.

right firstly YANBU!

but after reading the thread would like to add a story of my own. Was recently talking to my driving instructor (i'm still learning) and told him about dh getting a fine and 3 points for doing 33mph in a 30mph and his responce?!

'ffs what do they want you to do stare at the speedo or watch the road?!?!'

and i think that responce is quite adequate for that situation, as i'm learning at the minute i know how easy it is to slip from 30 to 35 (although this hasn't happened often)

but sometimes you just think, ok so by watching the road and not staring at my speedo is making me a less safe driver?!?! i don't think so!

Well... yes beeper you are right. If I speed it is inadvertently, TBH. I never knowingly speed... but half the time, I have no idea what the speed limit is... is it 30, is it 40 etc. I live in the country and most of the speed signs are obscured by branches and trees... unless I was to drive 30mp everywhere, I have no idea if I am in a 30/40/50 zone. But now, I have to know, so that I don't inadvertently speed because I can't get caught again.

Those that get caught doing 50 in a 30, or 110 on the motorway deserve everthing they get.... I deserve my points too, I just don't feel I deserve them quite as much as persistent over the top speeders.

and victoria you may get points first time as my dh did, even tho it was 33mph in a 30mph zone.

Sleepless... you are soooo right. That is what I mean about me feeling like an unsafe driver! I spend all the time peering at road signs on the road, and then checking my speedo... back and forth... instead of looking for that pedestrian or child crossing.
Both my offences were only just over the limit... both wrong of course, but....

I can see why people take a husband or partner's points, but the fact is that is a FAR, FAR, FAR more serious criminal offence than a minor speeding offence. If caught, you will probably go to prison.

I therefore don't think (with respect to all the people who have posted to this effect) that it's just a question of weighing up the inconvience of points to you (low) and to him (high) and doing it. It is weighing up the risk of going to prison, losing your job (if you have the sort where it matters) and being away from your children for X weeks or months. That's not a risk I would take.

YANBU - definitely not IMO.

3 points on your license would not affect your CRB check but conspiracy may.

If you are going to do this he needs to drive in a wig, falsies and heels from now on - those cameras take clear pictures.

If you can't manage to read the speed limit signs and drive at the same time may I suggest you just aren't a very good driver? You are supposed to be able to do both in order to pass a test...

My mother got up to nine points (six of them from the same camera, durrr) and then drove very, very carefully, avoiding a ban. My father got up to nine points and continued to speed, earning himself a six month ban. I think anyone with an ounce of sense would say the first option was better (although obv. not as good as not getting nine points in the first place).

I'm afraid I don't buy "can't look at speedo and drive at the same time", and am pretty shocked that this comes from a driving instructor. Does he also think you shouldn't bother looking in your mirrors?

As for the Op, no, of course you're not being unreasonable. It's not rocket science not to speed. And just wanted to comment on www's post about midnight in Devon - I live in a rural area with no pedestrians on the roads at midnight. But who's to say the one night I choose to speed a couple of teenagers get pissed and wander out for a walk? There isn't a curfew, ffs!

Lazorou - my DH reckoned he was too busy at work to read the thread .

edam - it was my DH that was speeding with 9 points not me.

YANBU.
My Mum recently got done (again) for speeding but had her points revoked as she went to a 'learn to drive' session or something. She had to pay the fine still, but they wavered the points as she attended this special class.
May be something your DP could look into then he wouldn't need your points?

ynbu why should you take his punishment!he needs to drive below the speed limit not only to avoid points but to be safe.my dad got a crystal clear photo of himself speeding so you would probably get caught anyway

I should have made it clear the 'you' in my post was hellie, hers was the most recent remark while I was writing but thread had moved on by the time I hit 'post'.

OK, it can be easy to speed, but you also have to read the road - if you know the area, you know where the cameras are, but you never know where a cop car could be. If you dont know thwe area, then you need to take more care!

Goldfish, no way should you take his points. Not only wwill you feel incredibly guilty, but even if you werent found out, if you want to work in a branch of nursing that will require you to drive, eg district nursing, health visiting, any other domicilliary work, you may well be asked for a clean license.

Oh and re the lack of pedestrians in the Devon countryside - theres enough lunatics round here without pedestrians!

Last night someone drove their car over a hedge into the MIDDLE of a field about a quarter of a mile outside our village. I saw the wreck being removed today. I have no idea what happened to the occupant(s), no doubt it will be in the local rag next week.

Any experienced driver knows how their car feels at certain speeds, lets not pretend its that hard to not break the speed limit

Re www's post, my dh hit a deer at speed on a Devon road so I agree it's not the pedestrians you have to watch out for at night, but the local wildlife!

I'm appalled that a driving instructor would take such a cavalier attitude towards speeding.

Couldn't be bothered to read the whole thread but by taking the points for your DH you'd be giving him carte blanche to carry on driving like a wanker and when he does (God forbid) kill someone will he expect you to take the wrap for that too?

LG, that means he definitely read it!