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Original poster

would you do this for your DH?

313 replies

LittleGoldfish · 23/11/2007 11:30

My DH has managed to get 9 points on his drivers license for speeding offences, I however in my 36 years have never managed any.

He asked me if I would have the next set of points put on my drivers license otherwise he will lose his license (in other words say it was me driving). I told him to f off and to learn how to stick to the speed limit- I can managed it so why can't he?

AIBU about this, he reckons 3 points on my license wont make much difference but I am in the process of having a CRB check done (applied to study nursing) and don't want any criminal offences although I know they don't take driving offences too seriously, but still.

He is in a major mood with me atm. AIBU about not wanting someone elses points on my license? especially as I haven't been the one speeding.

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fryalot · 23/11/2007 11:32

YANBU

They have cameras and will easily be able to tell if it was him or not.

Tis a criminal offence to do what he is asking of you.

FawningBrownNose · 23/11/2007 11:32

if you get caught (highly likely) then you'll face a charge of conspiring to pervert the course of justice and probably end up in prison for 3 months. then you can kiss your new career goodbye.

lissielewzealand · 23/11/2007 11:33

no, yanbu! the speed limit is there for a reason and if he cant stick to it he should accept the consequences!

OrmIrian · 23/11/2007 11:33

YANBU. In principle. However does losing his licence mean he won't be able to work? if that was the case I'd probably swallow my princples.

But he definitely needs to learn what those big black number on round road signs are actually for

ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 23/11/2007 11:33

YANBU!
He must take the punishment if he can't learn to drive within the speed limit.

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LittleGoldfish · 23/11/2007 11:34

I have no intentions of doing it for him- he just thinks I am being unreasonable about it. Why can't he stick to the speed limit? its not hard to do.

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OrmIrian · 23/11/2007 11:35

squonk - I don't think they are permitted to identify the driver from the camera. Only the car.

santaoftheopera · 23/11/2007 11:35

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mishymoo · 23/11/2007 11:35

Not sure if YABU but friends of ours were in the same boat and he had 3 points put on his wifes licence (with her agreement) but he needs his car/licence to get to work (1hour commute).

If it were me, I would probably do the same but tell him that he had to be more careful and that I would definitely not do it again.

DaDaDa · 23/11/2007 11:35

He is being very unreasonable. He does realise that it's possible to avoid getting points by driving legally?!

rantinghousewife · 23/11/2007 11:37

You might want to tell him that there was a news story about someone who took the points for someone else. They were taken to court and charged with perverting the course of justice, if it's a speed camera they can see the driver.

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LittleGoldfish · 23/11/2007 11:37

He has used the "oh, I won't be able to get to work" line on me to make me feel guilty. It hasn't worked btw.

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Camillathechicken · 23/11/2007 11:37

he needs to take responsibility for his own reckless behaviour and drive sensibly, rather than getting cross with you for not taking the rap. surely after 9 points he would have learnt...

FawningBrownNose · 23/11/2007 11:37

ormirian - plenty of people have been caught out this way. the police often check the picture from the speed camera photo and if it doesn't match the person who claims to have been driving then both people are in the shit.

Camillathechicken · 23/11/2007 11:37

will he really not be able to work?

Hekate · 23/11/2007 11:38

The next set of points?

So he's planning to speed again then?

Tell him NOOOOOOOOO!

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LittleGoldfish · 23/11/2007 11:38

rantinghouswife - the camera pics are not clear though are they?

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Tommy · 23/11/2007 11:38

he is asking you to sosomehting illegal which, as someone had already pointed out, could put you in prison.

He needs to take responsibility - a few weeks without driving might be good for him.

I had a friend who was always getting points for speeding and it was really only when he lost his licence for 6 weeks that he changed his attitude

claricebeansmum · 23/11/2007 11:38

Common practice around us...

Zazette · 23/11/2007 11:38

No way. He just has to make sure there isn't a 'next set of points' doesn't he? He is being utterly unreasonable. And a tosser. Does he think he has some kind of right to break the speed limit?

rantinghousewife · 23/11/2007 11:38

Squonk is correct they can tell who is driving the car with some camera's, there was a case where they did just that very recently.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 23/11/2007 11:39

When my dh got points, the letter telling us about it included a copy of the photo, in which you could see perfectly well that it was him driving. If one of those cameras gets him he has not got a hope in hell of getting away with claiming it was you driving, and you could both get into very big trouble.

You can buy, for about £50, a little thing a bit like a satnav that sits on the dashboard and tells you what the limit is (and where the cameras are) and when you are going over it. (Really, really useful for areas where the signage isn't very good, or you miss a sign because there is a lot going on.)

GET ONE!!!!!

inamuckingfuddle · 23/11/2007 11:40

He really ought to jsut try being a bit more careful and driving within the limit, then it won't be an issue! Silly man

peacemakeruk · 23/11/2007 11:41

I've done this for my DH. Its a pain but not the end of the world.

EmsMum · 23/11/2007 11:41

So he wants you to be willing to do something illegal so that he can continue to do something illegal

And even then, with 9 points he could get done by a cop car with no chance of pretending to be someone else.

It may also affect your insurance - I heard they are getting tougher.

HIBU not you.