would you do this for your DH?

[LittleGoldfish]

My DH has managed to get 9 points on his drivers license for speeding offences, I however in my 36 years have never managed any.

He asked me if I would have the next set of points put on my drivers license otherwise he will lose his license (in other words say it was me driving). I told him to f off and to learn how to stick to the speed limit- I can managed it so why can't he?

AIBU about this, he reckons 3 points on my license wont make much difference but I am in the process of having a CRB check done (applied to study nursing) and don't want any criminal offences although I know they don't take driving offences too seriously, but still.

He is in a major mood with me atm. AIBU about not wanting someone elses points on my license? especially as I haven't been the one speeding.

Right in this instance I would certainly tell him that I was not going to take the points. Although when the time came I might take them. My sister took them for my BIL because his job is driving and went on one of those driving courses. But if you say "of course, darling, I will take your points" where is the incentive for him to slow down? He will think that by the time you are up to 9 points then his first ones will have dropped off and he can just carry on as he likes.

My DH got up to 6 points. He does a lot of driving, not that I am excusing him. I told him that if he got up to 9 points there was not way I was sitting in the passenger seat with him. I would be driving everywhere that we went together. He hates being the passenger. But I said it would be my way of ensuring my children's security. If he loses his license, he loses his job.

UANBU but your DH is, what a prat.

I think with a CRB check they are checking you are not a rapist, murderer, or putting it mildly -an aggressive person that would harm a vulnerable person.

I don't think you fail a CRB with 3 points do you?

I don't know you know. If you drive for work every day, it is far easier than you think to clock up points (especially if you drive on roads that have loads of cameras on).

If your job involves driving, or you have to drive to get to your work, then you should take even more care to observe the speed limit.

I can never understand how people think that this is a valid argument!

YANBU and your DH is being ignorant and selfish.

so you've never ever gone over the speed limit, not once? you can absolutely guarantee that? not while overtaking or anything?

Yes I have often gone over the speed limit. But if I was caught, I would admit the offence and wouldn't try to claim that there were special circumstances that meant I shouldn't be fined/punished or try and get anyone else to take my points!

fox - it is easy to clock up up points but I always manage to stick to the limit so why can't others. Ok I appreciate some people drive a lot with their work and might be late for a meeting/presentation whatever but there is no excuse..

Oh, and I drive a lot for work - all over the country.

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aah I get you.

Yes, totally silly to try and get someone else to take the points. I also think on 9 points they are on the look out for you doing that iyswim!

SHAME on him for asking!!....Bloody cheek....You stick to your guns and say NO.

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I think we need to put this in perspective...

I have been driving for 35 years (I know, I know... I am old!!!) and I have had 6 points for speeding in the last six months! I have no idea why... the first three points were for 34 in a 30mph limit, and the second for 36mph in a 30mph limit. I am pig sick about this because prior to this I had been driving for 34 years without any points or problems.

I feel victimised!!!

I feel I was in the wrong place at the wrong time (both mobile cameras) and I am now neurotic about driving within the limit and am a danger to the road! I am constantly slowing up to check speed limits, I am jumpy whilst driving in case I am speeding... stop, start, stop, slow down. I was a far safer driver being left to my own devices before I got six points on my licence! I did manage to drive 34 years without a problem... If I was caught again, I would ask my DH to take my points....

I wish the Road Traffic Police would concentrate on catching uninsured drivers as opposed to me... a safe driver!

If he refuses to stick to the speed limit he deserves to get banned, if you accept his points then you deserve a criminal record.

If soemone is incapable of sticking to the speed limit then they shouldnt be on the road.

Its not that hard to manage not to get points on youtr licence, i've not got any, nors Dh and my parents have 60 years driving between them and neither of them have any.

You'd be a fool to do it for him, tell him to slow down and hopefully there wont even ne a 'next set'

hellibean I get where your coming from. I have been caught doing 34 in a 30mph limit & was a bit peed off about it. It is annoying to think there are people doing much faster speed in their car and getting away with it....

No I wouldn't and he wouldn't ask me.

You should take the points

Why, Lazarou?

Lazarou - Why should the OP take the points? .

cos that's what a wife could do for a husband... a big favour, with lots of payback....

Go on, you know it makes sense

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Lennygirl, a friend of mine did a workshop like that instead of having the points and he got caught speeding on the way back

no no no.. he is being unreasonable asking you.