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Pregnant immediately after abortion

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 15:13

I feel like an absolute idiot.
Had abortion mid may. Yet to have a period, just tested positive so I guess that’s why.
Not much else to say really. I’m devastated. Have been on the pill the whole time. Not sure even how far along i am, as I’ve had sex a couple of times a week up until last week since two weeks post abortion.
I’ve already called the abortion provider for another consultation and they were lovely and non judgemental but I feel so embarrassed and disgusted in myself. Has anyone else been through this? How did you feel? I am hoping they’ll be able to post the tablets out to me again but as I can’t pinpoint my gestation I feel they might want me to go in to their clinic
Thank you

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CatherinedeBourgh · 01/07/2021 15:15

If you have been on the pill you are not an idiot, just very unlucky.

Maybe it would be worth exploring using a backup contraceptive? You must be super fertile.

So sorry you are going through this.

NamingBabies · 01/07/2021 15:23

Is there any way the first abortion was not successful and this is a continuation of that pregnancy? It may be worthwhile going into the clinic to check gestation. You’re not an idiot, you’ve just been unlucky and I’m sure you’re not the only one to have had this happen to them.

If you fell pregnant on the pill both times it might be time to look into alternative contraception though, as perhaps it just doesn’t agree with you for whatever reason?

TheVanguardSix · 01/07/2021 15:26

I tested positive for weeks after my termination. Could it be possible this is the case here?

Tucancrossing · 01/07/2021 15:27

If you used birth control then it's not your fault, but I would look into a different method of birth control (or use two like a condom as well) because clearly it's not an effective method of contraception for you

Tucancrossing · 01/07/2021 15:28

And yeah I second the fact that you could still have pregnancy hormones in your body and that's why you're testing positive?

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 15:29

No, it’s been 7 weeks since I passed the previous pregnancy and I had a follow up scan which showed an empty uterus so definitely a new pregnancy. The line on the test was very dark and I have got sore boobs and cramping like I always do when pregnant (two children already and obviously previous pregnancy)

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mindutopia · 01/07/2021 15:30

Realistically, I think you probably need a scan. It's possible that the first one didn't work or didn't work fully (you can have tissue that is retained, which can cause a pregnancy test to show a positive, it can also cause an infection). Your hormones also just don't necessarily go away right after. I think you probably won't know unfortunately without a scan.

Ikeatears · 01/07/2021 15:31

Was it a digital test? Apparently, they can show positive up to 8 weeks after an abortion

Gladiolys · 01/07/2021 15:32

You’re not an idiot, just very unlucky. I agree with PPs, it might be worth looking into a form of contraception which is more effective for you. In the meantime, please remember you’ve done nothing wrong and have nothing to feel ashamed of.

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 15:35

Well my uterus was completely clear on my scan post abortion (I had a scan as I didn’t feel I’d passed enough to complete the abortion) so it’s not continued pregnancy or retained tissue. I also only had faint positive tests two weeks after the abortion and the one I have taken today is a strong dark positive. I believe 100% that it’s a new pregnancy. I’m just hoping that the provider will post me the tablets again so I can have another at home abortion, it was so much less traumatic than I imagine going to the clinic is

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StrikeItLuckyShuffle · 01/07/2021 15:35

You may have some tissue left inside still from the first one if you have not had a period yet
as the abortion was not that long ago this may be why there is still a positive result
I had one in lockdown in October (non surgical ) and it took about 8+weeks before I got a negative result and my first period didn’t come till after that
not long before i had the negative result a large lump of tissue removed itself when on the toilet.

daisyjgrey · 01/07/2021 15:36

You're not an idiot. You've been really unlucky and you're making smart decisions in that you're not having children you don't want.

Do what you need to do and don't feel bad about it, it's not your fault at all.

StrikeItLuckyShuffle · 01/07/2021 15:37

Just seen your reply after posting

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 15:38

Thank you for not being judgemental everyone. I feel so mortified at this. They couldn’t get me a consultation until ten days from now and previously I had to wait another week for another appointment after that one. I’m just so embarrassed at it all and so stressed out, I thought it was over when I finished my previous abortion

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 15:41

Last time I called to book a consultation where they did an initial consult. Then an actual consultation with medical history taken etc. Then had to wait another week for someone to call me to finalise then they posted the tablets which took about three days to come. So I’m looking at around three weeks from now I guess. I just wish it was quicker

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funinthesun19 · 01/07/2021 15:54

The pregnancy hormones can take weeks to settle down back to normal.

If you had the termination mid May then that’s 5 or 6 weeks ago. Still time for it to go to negative. Is it a strong positive or faint?

Even if it is a new pregnancy, you’re not an idiot and you’re not a bad person. Flowers Anyone who tells you that you are is bang out of order.

Bellringer · 01/07/2021 15:58

What a nightmare, poor you. Just get checked for ectopic pregnancy, it can be missed if no scan. Best of luck, make him put a hat on it!

Mistlewoeandwhine · 01/07/2021 16:00

Just wanted to give you a hug. This happened to my sister too.

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Badsituations · 01/07/2021 16:11

Thank you everyone for your kindness. I’m booked in for the end of next week so will see what they say. Just hoping I don’t have to go to the clinic. I wouldn’t mind so much being comfortable at home as last time I didn’t experience any pain or extreme bleeding. It’s just a nightmare that it’s happened again

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dworky · 01/07/2021 16:30

Why are you the idiot? Why isn't he taking responsibility for his sperm & not impregnating you?

HermioneKipper · 01/07/2021 16:33

You poor thing. Absolutely no judgement. Hope they can get it sorted really quickly for you. Sending a big hug

Tavelo · 01/07/2021 16:37

Well it does happen. It's a shame the pill didn't prevent it for you, but that isn't your fault. If you don't want to give birth birth that's your choice to make whether it's happened before or not.

VettiyaIruken · 01/07/2021 16:53

You're not an idiot.
You took precautions.
It's just really unfortunate.
Probably best to double up for a while and get scanned again. I know you said there was nothing but it doesn't hurt to check again.

Muddydoor · 01/07/2021 16:54

If you do have to go to the clinic, it really shouldn’t be that bad. Depends on how far along you are. Beyond a certain point, the pills don’t work.

Fernando072020 · 01/07/2021 17:07

This really isn't your fault at all. It's just unfortunate that the pill wasn't working for you. Sorry you're having to go through it again.

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