AIBU - Saturday Night England Match??

[CityMumma78]

Hey everyone, please help me…
This Saturday we are due to go out with my parents to celebrate their special wedding anniversary. We are going out to a low key basic chain restaurant with our kids and my brother and his kids and we have two tables booked for 7pm. This arrangement has been in place for 1 week and we all live local so no special guests travelling from miles around to attend. Last week when we were arranging the evening we didn’t even consider the Euro fixtures but because England won last night and are playing on Saturday night we REALLY want to watch the game! I asked my parents if they could change the booking by half an hour which would allow us enough time for a leisurely dinner and taking into account the drive home this would enable us to watch the 2nd half. I have checked at the restaurant and there is plenty of availability to make a slightly earlier booking but when I spoke to my parents last night they have refused, point blank refused to change the booking by half an hour from 7pm to 6.30!! There is no reason other than they don’t want to. I haven’t asked them to rearrange the date I just want to bring it forward by 30 minutes but I have been made to feel guilty for even asking and I’m so angry they they can’t be more flexible to allow us to watch just part of the England game in the quarter finals. My husband doesn’t even want to go now.
Am I being unreasonable?

“Their special wedding anniversary”
How special? And is it actually on Saturday? If it is, then it’s probably tough shit. I’d say you should have thought about it before arranging the dinner for the Saturday (all the possible fixtures have been known about for ages), so you could’ve arranged it for the Friday night, or Sunday lunch, for example. But having arranged it, you can’t now pull out, because of the footy. And I say this as a footy fan.

Are they being like this because it’s the football? If you’d just asked for any other reason would they have been ok with it?

Just tape the game, don’t turn radio on or anything on way home and start it when you’re in.

We’ve had to do this before. We’re huge footy fans but family is more important

YABU. If you were that fussed you'd have checked the schedule. If you don't want to go, don't go, but don't get annoyed with them for not changing the time of their dinner.

It’s not fair that they won’t change by 40 minutes. But I bet the game will be on in the restaurant.

@Rachie1973

Just tape the game, don’t turn radio on or anything on way home and start it when you’re in.

We’ve had to do this before. We’re huge footy fans but family is more important

Yeah good idea, do this 😊

Just tape it.

@Rachie1973 is it? 😂

Are you sure they want this to be a two-hour dinner thing rather than a whole evening? What I mean is, could it be not so much the 'moving the time by half an hour', but that in asking that, it's saying that you want to be done with them by 8.45 to get back for the second half? Maybe they want to make a full night of it, so less keen to be flexible.

Record it ffs. And cancel the cheque.

Recording it is not the same! Yanbu op

Just watch it on your mobile at the table

Will it be on iplayer does anyone know?

I'm in a similar position to OP!

YANBU for me, particularly as you're already compromising by missing the first half. Seems spiteful of them.

I'd be really pissed off if I'd arranged a special dinner, was looking forward to it, then be told the evening was going to be rushed through, under pressure, because of the bloody football. Record it.

Just say you’ve had a track and trace notification so can’t go

I’d be thinking of cutting you out of the will if I were them

YABVU. Your parents dinner is far more important than a load of sweaty men running around a pitch.

It was really cheeky of you to even ask and they were right to refuse. Your DH is behaving like a child and throwing a strop now saying he doesn’t want to go.

Yabvu

You want to rush through their special anniversary dinner, and go straight home after 2 hours, to watch football? That’s so rubbish of you I don’t know where to start. These are your parents ffs

It’s also quite reasonable not to want to start at 6.30, which is not a very grown up time. All done and dusted and out of the way by 8.30, eh, OP? Not very special for their anniversary.

I think you have to suck it up tbh, it's quite rude to make people feel like you just want to rush through your special night so you can get home to watch the football

Either England will lose, in which case be glad you missed it, or they'll win and you can enjoy them in the semi final

I think this is one of those things that if you're in to football then YANBU and if you're not then YABU.

I know for a fact if I tried to organise anything over the England football match my parents would be annoyed at me for even considering doing that and wouldn't turn up.

I think your compromise is fair and your parents are just being awkward to make a point. Not really sure what they think they'll achieve though because if they're guilting you into coming on their terms then it'll be pretty obvious you don't really want to be there. They're probably gonna be pissed anyway for that reason. Lose lose situation it sounds like.

and for what it's worth, in my opinion YANBU

YANBU!

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