AIBU - Saturday Night England Match??

[CityMumma78]

Hey everyone, please help me…
This Saturday we are due to go out with my parents to celebrate their special wedding anniversary. We are going out to a low key basic chain restaurant with our kids and my brother and his kids and we have two tables booked for 7pm. This arrangement has been in place for 1 week and we all live local so no special guests travelling from miles around to attend. Last week when we were arranging the evening we didn’t even consider the Euro fixtures but because England won last night and are playing on Saturday night we REALLY want to watch the game! I asked my parents if they could change the booking by half an hour which would allow us enough time for a leisurely dinner and taking into account the drive home this would enable us to watch the 2nd half. I have checked at the restaurant and there is plenty of availability to make a slightly earlier booking but when I spoke to my parents last night they have refused, point blank refused to change the booking by half an hour from 7pm to 6.30!! There is no reason other than they don’t want to. I haven’t asked them to rearrange the date I just want to bring it forward by 30 minutes but I have been made to feel guilty for even asking and I’m so angry they they can’t be more flexible to allow us to watch just part of the England game in the quarter finals. My husband doesn’t even want to go now.
Am I being unreasonable?

YANBU. Can the meal not be rearranged given the unforseen circumstances. I would for others if it was for my birthday I'm not into football normally but even I can see it's a big match and will be watching it myself!

I can just imagine the response of my DS’ YANBU I don’t think, to change it by half an hour, make everyone’s life easier. I am not a football fan at all, but I watch England matches.

YABU. It's a football match that will ultimately have no consequence or affect on your life whatsoever, compared to your own parents special celebration?

If it was really that important you'd have made plans for a time that didn't clash with a match that England might be playing in.

Well at least your parents know where they stand in your priorities

They will know that you won’t be relaxed, be wanting to rush off and it’s not going to be the evening they wanted for their celebration

To be fair it won’t be anyway now as their will be a massive elephant in the room regardless what you end up doing

So you WERE being unreasonable to ask in the first place as it has now caused an atmosphere

Yabu to want to rearrange everyone else just so you can watch a ball being kicked around

• anniversary NOT birthday

@TeapotCollection

They’ll be in a, presumably busy, restaurant/pub. Someone is bound to make noises about it

I suspect the restaurant will be a lot quieter than a typical Saturday night.

Don't bother going if you're just going to speed through the meal and worry about getting back in time for football

OP is asking for just a 30 minute change, and as ThatWasCrazy has pointed out, most places have got time restrictions on meals

@sweeneytoddsrazor

Actually I have just realised you made this booking 1 week ago so yes you are totally unreasonable. It was very easy 1 week ago to work out there were only 2 possible nights for quarter finals so if you knew you would want to watch you should have said so then.

This. And your husband manchild having a strop about it is frankly pathetic. I cringe just imagining that. Your poor parents.

@LadyPenelope68

It’s a special Wedding Anniversary for your parents, but your priority is a football match? Nice! YABVVVVVVU

Both can easily be accommodated, heck I'd be moving it back 2 hours. My parents would agree too.

@musicalfrog if its been shown on bbc1 then it'll be on i player. I checked because I wanted to watch England/Germany again!

If we'd have been in this position, it would have been my dad cancelling his own dinner.

I assume the people who say "watch from start" all live in gated mansions far from other people.

Normal places, you know the result from the sounds of your neighbours.

Your parents are being unreasonable.

I think they’re being a bit unreasonable if there’s no reason why they can’t change it unless they were anticipating spending the whole night together
We cancelled our anniversary dinner Saturday (hadn’t expected England to go through) and have rearranged but then it doesn’t affect anyone else

Go out for a meal on Friday or Sunday so you can see all the football as it happens and have a nice leisurely meal with your parents.

If they're having it at a 'low key basic chain restaurant' and everyone's local, it's not like they're making a massive deal out of it anyway and the actual day/time they meet up with you all is unimportant.

You already made the commitment, you should honour the prior one. It's very rude to start trying to rearrange / refuse to go (in DHs case) because something more interesting has come along.

Honour the prior commitment.

I guess it will feel to them that you’re prioritising the football over their anniversary meal. Like you’re seeing it as a bit of an inconvenience.

I guess it will feel to them that you’re prioritising the football over their anniversary meal. Like you’re seeing it as a bit of an inconvenience.

My thoughts exactly.

A week ago the England Quarter final place was pretty much set wasnt it - we were through top of the group so it was clear which slot we would have.

And I cant understand why if it was that important you didnt check. They probably dont want to change it because either way it is ruined rather than a relaxing meal you will be rushing to get home for the second half. That is not how I would want my special anniversary meal to go people wishing to be somewhere else

I think if you have that much of a shit about the football to start with you would have factored in the date / time in a “just in case” scenario. Doesn’t sound like you’re dedicated fans. I’d be upset if I’d planned a special evening with my family for them to want to rush through the evening to go somewhere else.

Wendyball does really turn people into self absorbed arseholes like.

People going on about how important the meal is, and how terrible to change the time which has been set in stone, it was booked only a week ago!

I think your request is reasonable!
England don’t play quarter finals very often… you’re not saying move the whole thing. Why does half an hour matter?

@Theluggage15

People going on about how important the meal is, and how terrible to change the time which has been set in stone, it was booked only a week ago!

Sure, but they still agreed to go. They should respect that and stop trying to change it to suit them / refuse to go.

Surely we even teach children that you honour your commitments and don't try to dodge them because something more interesting has come along?

@Theluggage15

People going on about how important the meal is, and how terrible to change the time which has been set in stone, it was booked only a week ago!

They can still have the meal. There is no reason at all why it has to be on that exact day and time. With just the tiniest amount of flexibility, they can do both.