To be pathetically relieved regarding this name?

[FRODailyM]

First off, obvious name change.

I'm fully aware that this is an utterly ridiculous thing to have emotions about, but I did and do. I'm quite cringey that I care so much, but shrug, it's me.

The details:

DD1 is 23, in a long term relationship with a lovely man from university, and they're talking of the future.

One is babies.

They've picked their first child's name. And told me. I'm, ahem, not a fan underfuckingstatement.

Unusually for me, I remained wise and just glossed over the matter and deflected the conversation [straight outta toddler years] so as not to hurt their feelings.

Now I'm wise enough to know that it's nothing to do with me, and whatever the name is, put that newborn into my arms I will be 100% head over heels and be proud to introduce my grandchild to the world.

But this has been causing me angst. I cannot believe they'd settle on this name, when there's so many others out there.

The name is from a TV show they love, it's quite niche, but if you know, you know,!and, I think, is ugly on its own. But boyfriend's surname is very very close to character's surname, so it's pretty fricken obvious it's a nod the this character 😭.

However, it could be years (if at all) till this naming is pertinent, and many things could change in that time. But, I'm a certain sort, and I dwell on things 🙄.

HOWEVER, boyfriend's brother has just had a puppy and used this name 🎉🎉🎉. thank feck

She's quite upset that it's been "stolen" from her.

I've soothed etc, but by gosh I feel so happy that I haven't got to introduce baby Speculum to the U3A. 😂

So: AIBU to feel relieved?

PS the name was deemed to be unisex it's not. So that wouldn't have been a swerve.

PPS, I'm not revealing the name. You'll have to be happy with Speculum. Okay, vipers?

I'd be more concerned with encouraging her to talk about a future of travel and career advancement, and To put babies to the back of her mind for the next few years.

I echo @CassandraTrotter. I have visions of OP’s daughter practicing her signature that is her initial and bf’s surname.

It's not Jamie Lanister is it?

Oh wait. Jamie isn't very niche!

Chandler?

My money was on sansa

My dmum wanted me to call ds 'Rutger'. She was obsessed with the name, went on about it for years, and I MEAN YEARS! She swiftly went off it one day when she was told the English equivalent was 'Roger'😂. Don't worry op, I'm sure by the time any little ones arrive, she will have thought of many more appropriate/inappropriate names by then.

I mean unless it’s first name Hannibal surname Letter it doesn’t really matter. If you get the grandchild it’s their name now, and you just ignore their daft name.

@EditedbySKSS

I echo *@CassandraTrotter*. I have visions of OP’s daughter practicing her signature that is her initial and bf’s surname.

So what if she is? If she’s happy and that’s what she wants, it’s nobody else’s business or place to judge.

@CassandraTrotter

I'd be more concerned with encouraging her to talk about a future of travel and career advancement, and To put babies to the back of her mind for the next few years.

Ahha yes I agree.

She halfway through a grad scheme at the mo, grand travel plans have been recently scuppered.

This was sort of a casual where do you see yourself in 10years conversation.

She's got her head screwed on. No idea why she likes the programme so much

@Uniontea

You don’t know what name they’ll come up with now. You may find yourself thinking wistfully of Speculum.

I think this happened to DMIL. She really didn't like the first name we chose for DD, so much so that we were eventually out off it (DH was put off, he wasn't a huge fan to begin with). I know she was much more disappointed with her actual name, which we didn't tell anyone to avoid being put off it too! Don't get me wrong, she adores her DGD, but I'm fairly certain she regretted being so anti our first name (especially when we registered DD and she looked very disappointed and said - 'oh, you're really sticking with this name then?' - disclaimer - I adore DMIL and have no ill feelings as DD name is lovely and DMIL adores her regardless of her name.

Why on earth won't you say the name? It's obviously not that rare or ungrard of that it could be outing in any way.

It's like when an OP won't say what dh's hobby is in case it's outing. When it's cycling. About as outing as saying I had toast for breakfast.

She's halfway...

*unheard of

What’s the point in name changing if you won’t reveal the name…

@CassandraTrotter

I'd be more concerned with encouraging her to talk about a future of travel and career advancement, and To put babies to the back of her mind for the next few years.

What's wrong with this? She's obviously in live and looking forward to a future with this man. Might work out. Might not. But don't begrudge a women some happiness whilst in a relationship!

Dont worry, I expect the next name they come up with will be even worse.

@PurpleyBlue

Dog could die or get rehomed.

In which case OP will have to get a puppy herself, and re-use the name .10 more years covered safely. Phew

Buffy
Daenerys
...scratches head....

Tell us the name or the puppy gets it!

I was going to ask if it was Bubbles (trailer park boys) but remembered he doesn't have a surname, so it can't be. Just think op, it could have been Bubbles.......😬

Arya?

@Monr0e

Why on earth won't you say the name? It's obviously not that rare or ungrard of that it could be outing in any way.

It's like when an OP won't say what dh's hobby is in case it's outing. When it's cycling. About as outing as saying I had toast for breakfast.

Because you won’t get half as much attention that way

Considering all the posts on here that say it doesn't matter if someone else or their dog has your chosen baby name, go for it anyway. I'm amazed they're giving up that easily. I wouldn't be surprised if they pick it anyway. The child will be around far longer than the dog after all.

Iggle piggle?

Demi?