To not check the prices of my DDs birthday presents?

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AIBU to think no-one does this or am I odd?
My DD recently had a birthday.

She’s still young enough to not care how much something costs.

My mum insisted on going through every present with her and then googling it to see how much someone may or may not have spent, and then ranking that on how much the person likes DD. Obviously anyone from her family who spent a small amount (her opinion of a small amount is £20 or under) is struggling for money but anyone from my dad’s family (they’re not together) who spent a small amount doesn’t like DD very much.

So my mums sister and BIL spending £15 were struggling financially, whereas my dad’s sister and BIL spending £12 meant they don’t like DD very much – it didn’t matter to her that DD loved both presents and ended up playing with the toys given together (both got her a doll like a Barbie but not Barbie they each got her a different brand, both ended up in DDs Barbie house and she now couldn’t tell you which aunt got her which doll).

I honestly don’t care what anyone spends on me or DD for Birthdays or Christmas, someones taken time out of their day to choose a present and spent their money whether they’ve spent £1 or £100. When choosing presents especially for family I think less about how much it costs and more about whether the recipient will like it, I am sure my family on both sides think the same.

Mum says everyone checks the prices of presents nowadays and forms an opinion of someone based on how much they spend. She seemed to think I was the odd one.

AIBU to think no-one does this? Or am I really strange in not doing this?

Your mum is horrid.
I can’t believe you’re even asking!

Your mum is absolutely batshit and a very nasty person.

I've never done this. I'd probably raise an eyebrow if a very wealthy person gave a gift from the pound shop...but generally no, I don't care.

Shocking behaviour by your Mum.

I’ve never heard of anyone doing this in my life and it would never occur to me to do this!

Were you there when your mum was doing this?? Why didn’t you stop her, it’s really bloody weird.

That's just awful!

That horrific! Your Mum
is putting mean and twisted ideas Into your daughter’s head, I’d put a stop to this right away

I can't believe you are even posting this! Your mum is shallow and frankly bonkers! Not normal at all!

@LawnFever

I’ve never heard of anyone doing this in my life and it would never occur to me to do this!

Were you there when your mum was doing this?? Why didn’t you stop her, it’s really bloody weird.

Because she'd do it anyway as all presents from her family go via her, and she asks what it is. She also asks DD what Auntie X from my dads family got her.

Your mother is a prime example of knowing the price of everything and the value of nothing.

Refuse to engage.

That is weird.

The only time I've known how much someone has spent on my DDs is when they've bought a voucher!

Don’t ever allow allow your mum to sit down with your daughter googling the price of her presents and telling her who apparently does and doesn’t like her based on the cost, again. That is fucking twisted and is giving your daughter the most appalling message.

Your mum sounds nuts.

Your mum sounds like a mercenary pain in the hole.

I hope she didn't inform your daughter about her 'findings' and how much her various relatives love her, according to the Argos website?

Never heard of this. Hate it when people try to tell you that ‘everyone’ does something you don’t, to undermine your feelings about it

Your mum is overlooking that people might have used two for one deals, sales, bought someone's unused duplicate present second hand from Facebook marketing place or used Boots/Tesco/Nectar points. She is also rude and a bit crazy.

I’ve only checked the price once, when DD got what appeared to me to be a really expensive present from one of the other mums at a baby group who I didn’t even know very well, I later found out her mum (the grandmother) got a staff discount at the shop it was from so although it was technically expensive she hadn’t paid a huge amount for it.

What a horrible thing to do.
As your dd gets older she'll also see how nasty your mum is so she's not really doing herself any favors.

(Based on MN threads) a lot of people seem to stock pile presents when they are on offer. So simply googling the price is not even a particularly good way of doing this! You might find the RRP is £30 whereas the buyer bought if for £10 ...

Jesus fucking Christ! Your mum is off her rocker. I would be keeping my child far, far away from her! What an awful, grabby woman.

In fact, I would loudly say to DD in front of your mum that is a shame people like granny are so grabby and greedy and aren't we glad we're just grateful for people taking the time and effort to give us such lovely gifts?!

That’s vile. I just wouldn’t have stood by and let her do that with my DD.

Your mother is obnoxious.

It wouldn't even occur to me.
Frankly, I couldn't care less who spends what.
It's just stuff.

@LawnFever

I’ve never heard of anyone doing this in my life and it would never occur to me to do this!

Were you there when your mum was doing this?? Why didn’t you stop her, it’s really bloody weird.

Oh my exH's family were like this. I can totally believe it. It's batshit bonkers and totally toxic though.

Oh and I'd rather someone spent a fiver on something the DC loves than 50 quid on something that they have no interest in.