To be annoyed by DH and his comment about my work?

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I’ve been a sahm for three years and have recently gone back into a job that I really wanted but is totally different from anything I’ve done before.
It’s involving meeting lots of new people, DH has been a bit heckles up when any of them have been men. Mainly I’m working at home but I’m having a few in person meetings now.
A couple of weeks ago I had a Teams meeting and one of the men on there said it would be good to have a meeting between my organisation and his. He then emailed me to arrange a meeting and would like to meet face to face, probably because he’s sick of meeting everyone virtually like the rest of us.
DH came into the room whilst I was working and read the email over my shoulder and I could see he wasn’t very happy about it and he said ‘why does he want a meeting with you?’ so I said he’d just requested one as we work in the same field and with the same sort of people. He made a sort of huh noise and asked how this man knew of me, I said we’d ‘met’ on a Teams meeting once before and DH said ‘yeah, he’s obviously thought that’s a nice little hottie with good tits, I’d like a piece of that.’
Aibu to find this massively annoying? The worst thing is it makes me defensive and I haven’t even done anything! Also I’m late 30s and I don’t believe this man has ANY ulterior motives in suggesting we meet. None at all.

Not just annoying, but also an astounding insight into what he thinks about his female colleagues!

and DH said ‘yeah, he’s obviously thought that’s a nice little hottie with good tits, I’d like a piece of that.’

This is fucking disgusting.

This is all you are to him you know? He thinks other men think this way because he thinks this way.

Is there anything more unattractive that a jealous man who’d rather you had no life behind closed doors for his own convenience? Ugh.

You oh needs to put his big boy pants on, you going to meet other people when you working.

Bloody hell. Not only would I be majorly pissed off I'd also think that this insane level of posessiveness was a major red flag. It wouldn't even occur to most normal people to be jealous of their partner going to a work meeting.

Your DH sounds vile in so many ways just from that one comment!

Don't let his jealousy and control issues get in the way of you working. It's disrespectful towards you and he doesn't have much respect for you.

He sounds like a horrible controlling misogynist.

a nice little hottie with good tits

It's bad enough that he sees you in these terms.

But no doubt he also thinks the same of some of his female colleagues.

He is a sexist p*g. Sorry, but there's no other way of interpreting what he said.

Jealousy is always rooted in projection in my view. What they think is going on in your head is what’s actually going on in theirs.

I take a zero tolerance approach to it in relationships - first hint and they’re dumped.

I'm sorry you are married to a vile pig OP. He really is projecting his own thoughts here.

My XH behaved exactly like this. Any male colleague, my hairdresser, my dentist, chaps I met on my regular commute- all trying to get into my pants. Every single one of them.
Did I mention we’re divorced?

I agree with pp that this tells you everything about the way he thinks about women and nothing about your colleague’s motives.

‘yeah, he’s obviously thought that’s a nice little hottie with good tits, I’d like a piece of that.’

This is what your husband thinks when he sees women, which is why he thinks all other men are the same. The most jealous and possessive men are usually cheaters themselves.

Is this the kind of person you want your sons/daughters growing up with?

Well now you know what your husband thinks about women, what are you going to do about it?

Is he from a 70s sitcom?!

Your husband sounds dreadful as well as possessive.

You also shouldn't be allowing him to read your work emails. They should be confidential for employees only. In some industries, this could get you into a lot of trouble.

JFHC what a pig

LTB

He sounds like he's projecting.

Ask him if this is how he views his female colleagues.

He sounds like an absolute dick. Is he often like this? Nosy, possessive, sexist, rude? I would not put up with this at all.

I have a confidential mailbox and more general mailbox.
However he just appeared and starting reading.

He has always been suspicious about other men, he takes on a tone and an expression.

Sounds like he's just given you a fair idea of how he views the women he comes into contact with through work. What a charmer.

I think you're getting a good insight into your husband's thought processes regarding women.

Your H is disgusting, OP. You deserve much more.