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Soft play. Lack of supervision

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mysterytoddler · 25/06/2021 20:03

I take my 19 month old DD to soft play most weeks since they’ve reopened. I’m 7 months pregnant with DC2.

I’m so sick of parents not supervising their kids properly. Today was a classic. Another mum with 2 boys, at a guess I’d say that the oldest was 7, youngest 3. Both really boisterous kids. The mum spent most of the time sat at her table on her phone. She checked on them now and again but mostly left them to it. At one point she even took the toddler to the toilet and left the older one completely unsupervised. Confused
I took DD to the large bit of the soft play that’s recommended for older ones which is my own doing but DD is really headstrong and finds the baby bit really boring now. But they were running all over the place and she got knocked over twice.

I also don’t understand why the 7 year old wasn’t at school. Part of the reason we go on weekdays is because it’s quieter and usually full of toddlers. I wouldn’t go on weekends cos I accept that there will be school age kids there.

I’m just sick of it. I manage to clamber all over the equipment and supervise my toddler despite being heavily pregnant. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for others to do the same

OP posts:
HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 19:18

Why? It was clearly a fucking typo. What sinister thing do you think I was hoping to accomplish on a thread about fucking SOFT PLAY?! Sweet Jesus.

You've entered a zone of your own my love. I have been on here on and off for many years. I am female and proud owner of a uterus from which my dcs were born. I breast fed with breasts (not chest fed). I do not have any sort of anti feminism or TRA agenda here. If you can't wrap your thick head around that I can't really fucking help you.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 27/06/2021 19:27

@HiHoSylvie

Why? It was clearly a fucking typo. What sinister thing do you think I was hoping to accomplish on a thread about fucking SOFT PLAY?! Sweet Jesus.

You've entered a zone of your own my love. I have been on here on and off for many years. I am female and proud owner of a uterus from which my dcs were born. I breast fed with breasts (not chest fed). I do not have any sort of anti feminism or TRA agenda here. If you can't wrap your thick head around that I can't really fucking help you.

Your replies are excessively angry. You are being combative. It’s misplaced. No one is attacking you.
HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 19:28

Oh sorry, now you've said that, it's totally fine you accusing me of having a nasty agenda to slip in offensive slurs. You wrongly accusing me of that is a ME problem. Righto!

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 27/06/2021 19:31

@HiHoSylvie

Oh sorry, now you've said that, it's totally fine you accusing me of having a nasty agenda to slip in offensive slurs. You wrongly accusing me of that is a ME problem. Righto!
I never accused you of any such thing! I didn’t even mention your “TERF” misspelling. I only referred to it when you brought it up in a direct quote to me.
Biancadelrioisback · 27/06/2021 19:32

Anyone else quite fancy a trip to the softplay now?

HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 19:35

And the last time you called me overly combative, it was because I corrected your grammar and said, "see, it isn't nice when people leap on your minor spelling and grammar mistakes"? Admittedly since then, I have got annoyed with you, but initially I was perfectly calm and you still called my too combative. Is that just what you do? You don't like someone and maybe disagree with them on something minor, you come up with a low, unrelated blow eg you accuse them of something unpleasant which is unrelated to the conversation band then say they're getting too combative when they respond, even mildly? And this is a me problem.

Lemonwoe · 27/06/2021 19:36

@HiHoSylvie I am completely baffled as to why anyone is offended by your misspelling. In the context it was written, it clearly meant “turf”.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 27/06/2021 19:37

@HiHoSylvie

And the last time you called me overly combative, it was because I corrected your grammar and said, "see, it isn't nice when people leap on your minor spelling and grammar mistakes"? Admittedly since then, I have got annoyed with you, but initially I was perfectly calm and you still called my too combative. Is that just what you do? You don't like someone and maybe disagree with them on something minor, you come up with a low, unrelated blow eg you accuse them of something unpleasant which is unrelated to the conversation band then say they're getting too combative when they respond, even mildly? And this is a me problem.
I’m not that poster. Just take a step back from the thread for a bit. You’re really angry and not thinking clearly. You’re throwing around a lot of insults that just aren’t warranted.
Crockof · 27/06/2021 19:38

@Biancadelrioisback

Anyone else quite fancy a trip to the softplay now?
Too fucking right. Best I've ever been too was an a family holiday park with a bar, in the end it wasn't safe for any child as the parents went wild. They weren't allowed in until after 9pm mind.
HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 19:42

Oh of course, you were just jumping on to the bandwagon when someone else had a go at me persistently for a fucking typo. Then you got your personal dig in when the others had already had a go, and then clutched your pearls when I said your posts to me (not you) were unecessarily cuntish.

Thank you to people who have seen it for what it was - a fucking typo. Mother of God this place sometimes.

BastardMonkfish · 27/06/2021 19:44

@HiHoSylvie

Whose? Interesting autocorrect there. So nice when someone leaps on your minor spelling and grammar errors isn't it?
Yeah I don't really care Confused sorry if I offended you though.
cansu · 27/06/2021 19:44

7 years old is fine. Three year old should be kept more of an eye on and should have been in toddler bit. Soft play is a bit lord of the flies. You need to chill out if you use them as your kid will get pushed over etc etc

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 27/06/2021 19:44

@HiHoSylvie

Oh of course, you were just jumping on to the bandwagon when someone else had a go at me persistently for a fucking typo. Then you got your personal dig in when the others had already had a go, and then clutched your pearls when I said your posts to me (not you) were unecessarily cuntish.

Thank you to people who have seen it for what it was - a fucking typo. Mother of God this place sometimes.

Have a pleasant evening.
HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 19:45

Just take a step back from the thread for a bit. You’re really angry and not thinking clearly.
You’re throwing around a lot of insults that just aren’t warranted.

Oh that's so patronising. You are back pedalling and simultaneously making me out to be in some way unstable or unhinged, instead of just saying "woops we got you wrong there. It really was just a typo wasn't it"? Disgusting. If you don't like any of my posts, do feel free to report them and if there are any personal insults in them, they will be deleted.

opalescent · 27/06/2021 19:48

As the parent of a 19month old, yes, you have to traipse round and monitor their safety. As the mum of a 7 year old, you will neither want or need to. Your time will come.

HiHoSylvie · 27/06/2021 20:06

sorry if I offended you though.

Thanks. At least you apologised instead of gaslighting! Appreciate it.

user1468526274 · 27/06/2021 20:09

Good grief. Sounds like your child was in the wrong bit. Soft play is dog eat dog and that’s exactly where a 7 yr old is meant to be able to charge around. What were you expecting- a line of kids on tip toe reciting Beowulf?
And it is absolutely fine to leave a 7 yr old unsupervised for a couple of minutes to take the younger child to the loo- some toilets don’t allow other sex kids in around that age, so what is a mum with a boy meant to do?
And have you ever heard of home schooling/ inset days?
I think you need to give your head a wobble TBH, or find somewhere else to go which is a bit more gentile.

bishbashbosh99 · 27/06/2021 20:14

Literally the whole point of soft play (for us shit Mums who love a phone scrolling session😂)

Chippingbird23 · 28/06/2021 12:12

My boys are 4 &5 and boisterous. My eldest is 8 and guess what that’s the whole point of soft play. You are judgemental and must be a real joy to be around. (Not)

LizzieW1969 · 28/06/2021 12:55

I’d never heard the term ‘terf’ until I read this thread just now. So, to me, HiHoSylvie had clearly just misspelled the word ‘turf’.

This thread also makes me grateful that my DDs have grown out of soft play now. Grin

Jellybabiesforbreakfast · 29/06/2021 10:52

All DC should be armed with knee guards, a riot shield and a distress flare before being sent into soft play.

Biancadelrioisback · 29/06/2021 11:26

Think I'm going to open up a co-working space meets softplay. A place where parents can get some work done while their kids roam free in a padded environment... Over 5s only though

kindaclassy · 29/06/2021 12:24

Toilets that don't allow a 7 year old? In the UK? WHERE? Confused

kindaclassy · 29/06/2021 12:25

some toilets don’t allow other sex kids in around that age

sorry, forgot the quote in my post above!

SoupDragon · 29/06/2021 12:41

Over 5s only though

Unless they are headstrong.