Soft play. Lack of supervision

[mysterytoddler]

I take my 19 month old DD to soft play most weeks since they’ve reopened. I’m 7 months pregnant with DC2.

I’m so sick of parents not supervising their kids properly. Today was a classic. Another mum with 2 boys, at a guess I’d say that the oldest was 7, youngest 3. Both really boisterous kids. The mum spent most of the time sat at her table on her phone. She checked on them now and again but mostly left them to it. At one point she even took the toddler to the toilet and left the older one completely unsupervised.
I took DD to the large bit of the soft play that’s recommended for older ones which is my own doing but DD is really headstrong and finds the baby bit really boring now. But they were running all over the place and she got knocked over twice.

I also don’t understand why the 7 year old wasn’t at school. Part of the reason we go on weekdays is because it’s quieter and usually full of toddlers. I wouldn’t go on weekends cos I accept that there will be school age kids there.

I’m just sick of it. I manage to clamber all over the equipment and supervise my toddler despite being heavily pregnant. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for others to do the same

Yes, I'm all too familiar with it. Hence the misspelling.

[quote kowari]**@HiHoSylvie That 'misspelling' is an offensive slur.[/quote]
If you're implying with your passive aggressive quote marks that I used that word on purpose to attack gender critical women, you are very much 'mistaken'.

@mysterytoddler

I forgot to mention that the area the boys were in was an over 5s area. So the 3 year old (who was the one who knocked over my toddler) shouldn’t have been in there unsupervised.

It’s not an inset day in my town and i didn’t get the impression they were homeschooled. The mum looked very young maybe late 20s

Get a grip

I went to soft play for the first time about a week ago (fucking hell ish)

I have an 18 month old.

Anyone that takes a child that size into the bigger area must be mental.

Of course they're going to get wiped out by older kids, that's why there's a toddler area.

I don’t understand why the OP thinks the other mother was lazy. Surely letting your toddler into an unsuitable area where she’s not safe and is spoiling the enjoyment of other children because you don’t want to tell her “no” is the height of laziness?

'Not an autocorrect, a misspelling. Is that ok with you, or will you be alerting the spelling police?'

Might alert the lady who's job it is to shout at children in the soft play

Whose? Interesting autocorrect there. So nice when someone leaps on your minor spelling and grammar errors isn't it?

@HiHoSylvie

Whose? Interesting autocorrect there. So nice when someone leaps on your minor spelling and grammar errors isn't it?

You’re so unnecessarily combative.

Did you have a traumatic soft play experience as a child?

Sorry, were you not being combative? Because if I've misread your intentions then apologies, because your posts came across to me as unecessarily cuntish. So, you think the word terf is funny bantz? Do you really? And "traumatic experience at a soft play" is you trying to... what? Smooth over the situation?

You also waded into a conversation which had nothing to do with you, to have a go. If anyone is overly combative, I'd say that was you my dear. And also pedantic with a slightly nasty sense of humour at best. Hth.

Give over with the terf stuff, ffs. She's explained it was a typo

You shouldn't have had your toddler in the big section. They're SUPPOSED to be running all over the place, that's the whole point of soft play. That's why they have a baby section, so the smaller children don't get knocked down by the older ones.

A lot of children are homeschooling for various reasons, its none of your business why he wasn't in school.

[quote kowari]**@HiHoSylvie That 'misspelling' is an offensive slur.[/quote]
It's also a phonetic spelling of the word Turf in many accents, which predated the acronym considerably.

Can we get back to the brightly coloured Hunger Games bunfight?

@HiHoSylvie

Sorry, were you not being combative? Because if I've misread your intentions then apologies, because your posts came across to me as unecessarily cuntish. So, you think the word terf is funny bantz? Do you really? And "traumatic experience at a soft play" is you trying to... what? Smooth over the situation?

You’re accusing me of being combative while simultaneously calling me a cunt?

@HiHoSylvie

Sorry, were you not being combative? Because if I've misread your intentions then apologies, because your posts came across to me as unecessarily cuntish. So, you think the word terf is funny bantz? Do you really? And "traumatic experience at a soft play" is you trying to... what? Smooth over the situation?

You also waded into a conversation which had nothing to do with you, to have a go. If anyone is overly combative, I'd say that was you my dear. And also pedantic with a slightly nasty sense of humour at best. Hth.

Also, no I don’t think TERF is “funny Bantz” no one does. Which is why you were pulled up on using it.
And as for “wading in to a conversation with has nothing to do with” me, this is a forum. It’s sort of the point.

So, it wasn't you pointing out an "interesting typo" to engage in playful banter, you were in fact picking a fight with me when you had not been involved in the conversation I was having with a different person? You picked a fight with me on a completely unrelated thread over a typo? And then you gaslight me by saying "oh aren't you a bit combative" when you were the one picking a fight by accusing me of using a disgusting slur, because I was talking about SOFT PLAY?

I didn't call you a cunt either. I said that, if you were trying to be friendly, I apologise, because I had read your posts as unnecessarily cuntish, which now you've confirmed, they were.

If you were pulling me up because you thought I was deliberately using that word to attack gender critical women, you are so very wrong. It's actually a hilariously stupid assumption to make. What do you think it was? I was rubbing my hands together thinking; "oh yes, I hate terfs. I'll bide my time on Mumsnet, posting on numerous threads about fashion, covid and step parenting. Then, when the moment is right, I'll strike! Yeah, I'll get 'em good, by posting it as a misspelling on a COMPLETELY UNRELATED post mwahahahaha! They'll rue the day..." .

If you have waded in with a comment about soft play, I'd not be annoyed in the least. But that isn't what you did, so don't play the fucking innocent "it's a forum, I was just joining on the debate"

Um.....what is terf?

And then you gaslight me by saying "oh aren't you a bit combative" when you were the one picking a fight by accusing me of using a disgusting slur, because I was talking about SOFT PLAY?

You said that I was being "overly combative" because I defended myself against your unnecessary, completely inaccurate and not so subtle accusation. When you knew I was absolutely right to think you'd accused me of something pretty nasty. Ugh.

Sorry OP. Yabu. You should have your little one in the little ones area. The bigger area is for older kids. A 7 year old is definitely old enough to go around soft play unsupervised. For me, I would have been closely supervising a 3 year old (in fact, any child under 5). But that’s my choice

Christ alive, AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken, what's the matter with you?
I'll refrain from the ridiculous MN classic "Are you ok?" - but really...

And why on earth are you being judgey about someone in their 20s being a mother?

Why on earth are people going on about terfs on a post about soft play btw?

I have actively avoided these hideous germ pits since having my two who are now six and ten.

Revolting places < shudders>

@GreyhoundG1rl

Christ alive, AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken, what's the matter with you? I'll refrain from the ridiculous MN classic "Are you ok?" - but really...

I think I’ve entered the twilight zone here