Neighbour has built a bar

[Julshk73]

My neighbour has spent the last three months building every night beyond 10pm. Sawing hammering, no use of my garden this year so far. Yesterday they unwrapped their new building.

It's a bar.

On a raised platform.

That looks right into my daughters bedroom.

She is terrified as a preteen as grown men were staring in all day yesterday.

Then the drinking began.

Until 3am we couldn't even hear our tv for the shouting screaming and chanting.

The council noise team aren't working due to covid. The police don't answer calls anymore on 101 (we tried several times on advice of the council).

What can I do?

My daughter is extremely distressed at losing her privacy and I cannot deal with parties that go on until 3am that are so loud we have no respite.

Help?

This sounds horrendous, your poor daughter

Those suggesting cameras, you cant have a camera that looks into her neighbours garden. Massive breach of GDPR there.

The camera could be directed at OPs own property along the borders to catch them chucking dog shit and glass over, though.

Op practical solutions I suggest to lessen the noise/privacy issues.
Tinted windows, you can have this applied to your dds window so that she can see our but your neighbour and his cronies cannot see in.
Trellising. Fix this to the top of your fence.
Fast growing rambling roses. I would recommend planting at least one. Make sure it has thorns, they usually do. But a rambling rather than a climber as they grow and spread to a bigger reach.
Fake leaf coverage. Sorry don't know the correct name but in B & M they sell rolls of fake leaves which can be attached to a fence. They don't look great but will offer privacy. The benefit of rambling roses and this fake leaf roll is that it will provide a physical barrier and also help to absorb the noise better than say wood. Plants absorb the sound and also bring wildlife into your garden which will create their own house to help drown out the shouting of vile neighbours. Bamboo is also suggested as a great privacy cover just be careful as it spreads like wildfire.
Maybe also windchimes and a water feature?
I'm not a fan of mindfulness but they might annoy your neighbour and keep them away from coming too close to your garden.
I'm sorry you are having to tolerate this dreadful behaviour.

You can buy one way silver mirror film for her window. She gets light and can see put as normal but from outside it looks like a mirror so no one can see in. An immediate solution to part of the problem at least whilst you work out what to do about the rest of it.

Mindfulness=windchimes

I have a plug in ring camera, it records sound and visual. Cost £189

Then £2 per month if you want to keep recordings

Excellent picture, so would capture anything being thrown over.

I remember someone had this problem and all the neighbours set off stink bombs at the bottom of their gardens , when the noise got too much,
Seems a party can't cope with the smell, they all went home.
Just make sure all your windows are closed.

Why are your daughter's curtains not closed at 3am?

@burritofan

or are you just another Mumsnetter that doesn’t like their neighbours enjoying their garden? I’m going to move next door to you and bellow til 3am each night, “JUST ENJOYING MY GARDEN”

We enjoys ours all the time. If it's not cold/wet, we're out there. reading quietly, or otherwise enjoying our garden. We may enjoy a glass of wine with dinner out there, some weekends. It's a lovely neighbourhood, with lots of trees, and it's really pleasant to sit and enjoy the birdsong.

Every now and then, we'll hear someone's stereo thumping. It doesn't usually last for long, but there's usually a NDN to ask whoever's making enough noise that it disturbs other people to turn it down. "I'm just enjoying some music." "NO problem, but I/we don't want to listen to your music. Turn it down, or put some headphones on."

They usually turn it down.

As noted, it's fairly obvious who the antisocial people are in here.

OP, I'm really sorry you're having to deal with such shitty behaviour and attitudes... from your neighbours and on MN.

@Bollindger

I remember someone had this problem and all the neighbours set off stink bombs at the bottom of their gardens , when the noise got too much, Seems a party can't cope with the smell, they all went home. Just make sure all your windows are closed.

That's damned brilliant.....

@LEMtheoriginal

This outlines why i fucking hate people

My favourite quote ever.

I feel for you OP. Be strong and keep on top of this until it’s sorted.

Call 999 and tell them that suspected pedophiles are looking in your daughters bedroom.

@Lotsolove

Call 999 and tell them that suspected pedophiles are looking in your daughters bedroom.

Don't be such a crashing idiot.

Some of the replies on here, you should be fucking ashamed of yourself and really ask yourself how much are you a part of the problem when it comes to the entitlement of some men!??
And many of these replies are coming from fellow females!!!! Disgusting.

OP, you have some fantastic advice here so I won't repeat it.

What I will say is, stand up to this behaviour, not directly and I understand why but utilise the tools you have at your disposal. Arsehole men like this know you're feeling intimated in your own home, it is not acceptable. You do not need to get curtains or change how you live!!!! Also, show your daughter that we hold people accountable to their behaviour.

I have 3 daughters, 13, 9 and 7. I get it.

EHL etc are definitely working, though i our experience can be very hard to pin down & require more of a fuss to be heard unfortunately.

We've found the police antisocial behaviour team to be very helpful & I'd think it would cover your situation too, especially as you have a DC who feels unsafe. You can contact them via 101& if that doesn't help, I agree with PP about contacting your local councillors. Good luck

Net curtains let light in and allow you to see out but not people to see in (as long as you don't have the main curtains/blind open after dark with a light on). They are cheap, easy to remove if you decide to and don't have to look like something your great aunt would have. Might be a temporary solution until a proper resolution of the issue can be reached?

@2bazookas

Perhaps that chinking sound you can hear is the sound of money as he illegally sells alcohol . HM Revenue and Customs would be very interested in the shebeen.

Your daughter can get net curtains or a venetian blind to protect her privacy.

This is ridiculous. I can tell you that HMRC will not be interested in someone with a garden bar.

would you consider moving house as this will not stop and eventually drive you nuts

Can you add a diagram and how many stories is your house ? As the raised platform makes it seem it's higher than or around 6 ft

Sorry, OP, but I've got to ask, what does "today she's in my room but it's not setup for her miscalculation needs.". I assume it's a typo but can't work out what for.

Get a Ring camera with solar panels. No need for cables, just WiFi (plug in a WiFi extender in your house near the door to the garden to boost the signal). At least then you’ll have evidence of things being thrown over the fence.

While not siding with the neighbours even insinuating that someone is a paedophile is a very serious thing. I know it probably wasn't a serious suggestion though.

She's first floor and they can see in?

Definitely report it ASAP.

Haven’t RTFT but have read your posts so don’t think this was covered. Is there a way to put up higher fences so they can’t see into your garden anymore? I saw a few people suggesting privacy film, I also recommend this. The police should be answering the phone, I can’t see this being the case at all so you need to try calling them until you get through.