Neighbour has built a bar

[Julshk73]

My neighbour has spent the last three months building every night beyond 10pm. Sawing hammering, no use of my garden this year so far. Yesterday they unwrapped their new building.

It's a bar.

On a raised platform.

That looks right into my daughters bedroom.

She is terrified as a preteen as grown men were staring in all day yesterday.

Then the drinking began.

Until 3am we couldn't even hear our tv for the shouting screaming and chanting.


The council noise team aren't working due to covid. The police don't answer calls anymore on 101 (we tried several times on advice of the council).

What can I do?

My daughter is extremely distressed at losing her privacy and I cannot deal with parties that go on until 3am that are so loud we have no respite.

Help?

[Imapotato]

How high is the bar if they can stare right into your daughters bedroom? I’m a bit confused by that, but maybe I’m being thick.

I’d speak to your neighbour, then having a bar in their garden shouldn’t have such a massive impact on your life so long as they’re not having parties until the early hours every weekend. Also if the men really are staring into your DDs room, I’d have a word at the time abs remind them they’re staring inappropriately at a child. That should stop them in their tracks.

[Soontobe60]

I’d put a great big security light up that shines directly into their ‘bar’ any time there’s someone in the vicinity.

[Crowtooyo]

I'm confused. Why are they staring in to your daughters bedroom? Can you do us a diagram to make it a bit clearer. I've bought some of that frosted film for my bedroom window due to the layout people can see in when they walk past..it works wonders.

[MrsLangOnionsMcWeetabix]

Planning enforcement and your local councillor to chivvy them along (there’s a huge backlog in a lot of places but councillor involvement tends to get things moved quicker).

[ThatOtherPoster]

Environmental Health deal with noise complaints.

[Sparklingbrook]

I agree a drawing would be helpful. I can’t imagine heights and angles etc

[PixieKitten]

Can we see a photo?

[Bluntness100]

Yes it’s impossible to understand, was your daughter in her bedroom all day? I assume she had to be to think they spent the day just staring in. Why didn’t she come out or shut the curtains? If she wasn’t in the room why would they just stand there staring into an empty bedroom? It all sounds very menacing and odd.

[PurpleyBlue]

Was she looking at them all day to know they were looking at her all day? Maybe they thought she was staring at them?

[Yesyoucantell]

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

YANBU. I think I'd go with the approach of the structure's possibly being too high.

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

It's pretty unbelievable, isn't it? Who builds a fucking bar in their back garden in a residential area and uses it as party central?

[Bluntness100]

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

I don’t think anyone has defended it? Can you point out who has? Most posts are trying to understand it.

[LonginesPrime]

I second window film, OP.

But also report the noise to environmental health.

They're probably not deliberately looking in at her, but it must be horrible for a child to suddenly have a load of loud drunk men outside her bedroom window.

OTOH if you think they're deliberately harassing her, then obviously report it to the police.

[Bigassbeebuzzbuzz]

We had something similar.
Grew a nice big tree to block and loads of wind chimes in it to piss them off.

[roobicoobi]

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

Most people are just trying to work it out because it's as clear as mud.

[Lockheart]

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

No-ones defended the neighbour. Asking the OP for more information isn't defending the neighbour.

[Newkitchen123]

Do you mean she was scared THAT they were staring in or do you mean she was scared BECAUSE they were staring in?
Ask the neighbours to come round to your garden so that they can see it from your point of view.

[Yesyoucantell]

Well anything but outright condemnation for a prat building a bar in a garden that's clearly in close proximity is kinda weird.

Utterly selfish behaviour, who cares about the minutiae?

[MilduraS]

I have a bus stop in front of my house. We use privacy blinds which let light in but stops people being able to see in to our living room and have a second layer for night which stops light completely.

[whatabelter]

Firstly we need a diagram. Secondly, for now, as in today (!) fit some high trellising and place frosted (easy to remove) film on the lower half of her window.
Then tomorrow morning get on the phone to the council.
I'm sorry Op I would hate hate hate this.

[InTheKitchenAtParties]

I'm just here for the diagram

[Lockheart]

@Yesyoucantell

Well anything but outright condemnation for a prat building a bar in a garden that's clearly in close proximity is kinda weird.

Utterly selfish behaviour, who cares about the minutiae?

Quite right, why let the actual facts of the matter get in the way of good old blind anger? I can't ever think that would end poorly.

[LEMtheoriginal]

This outlines why i fucking hate people

[Yesyoucantell]

@Lockheart
The facts are there, oik neighbour built a feckin bar in a garden that's in close proximity.

Nothing can excuse that.