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Neighbour has built a bar

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Julshk73 · 20/06/2021 10:25

My neighbour has spent the last three months building every night beyond 10pm. Sawing hammering, no use of my garden this year so far. Yesterday they unwrapped their new building.

It's a bar.

On a raised platform.

That looks right into my daughters bedroom.

She is terrified as a preteen as grown men were staring in all day yesterday.

Then the drinking began.

Until 3am we couldn't even hear our tv for the shouting screaming and chanting.

The council noise team aren't working due to covid. The police don't answer calls anymore on 101 (we tried several times on advice of the council).

What can I do?

My daughter is extremely distressed at losing her privacy and I cannot deal with parties that go on until 3am that are so loud we have no respite.

Help?

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Bluntness100 · 20/06/2021 10:47

I think this is just really hard to understand op. Do you live in a bungalow? How high is the platform?

Soontobe60 · 20/06/2021 10:47

I’d put a great big security light up that shines directly into their ‘bar’ any time there’s someone in the vicinity.

Crowtooyo · 20/06/2021 10:48

I'm confused. Why are they staring in to your daughters bedroom? Can you do us a diagram to make it a bit clearer. I've bought some of that frosted film for my bedroom window due to the layout people can see in when they walk past..it works wonders.

MrsLangOnionsMcWeetabix · 20/06/2021 10:49

Planning enforcement and your local councillor to chivvy them along (there’s a huge backlog in a lot of places but councillor involvement tends to get things moved quicker).

ThatOtherPoster · 20/06/2021 10:50

Environmental Health deal with noise complaints.

Sparklingbrook · 20/06/2021 10:50

I agree a drawing would be helpful. I can’t imagine heights and angles etc

PixieKitten · 20/06/2021 10:52

Can we see a photo?

Bluntness100 · 20/06/2021 10:53

Yes it’s impossible to understand, was your daughter in her bedroom all day? I assume she had to be to think they spent the day just staring in. Why didn’t she come out or shut the curtains? If she wasn’t in the room why would they just stand there staring into an empty bedroom? It all sounds very menacing and odd.

PurpleyBlue · 20/06/2021 10:55

Was she looking at them all day to know they were looking at her all day? Maybe they thought she was staring at them?

Yesyoucantell · 20/06/2021 10:56

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 20/06/2021 10:57

YANBU. I think I'd go with the approach of the structure's possibly being too high.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 20/06/2021 10:57

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

It's pretty unbelievable, isn't it? Who builds a fucking bar in their back garden in a residential area and uses it as party central?
Bluntness100 · 20/06/2021 10:58

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

I don’t think anyone has defended it? Can you point out who has? Most posts are trying to understand it.
LonginesPrime · 20/06/2021 10:58

I second window film, OP.

But also report the noise to environmental health.

They're probably not deliberately looking in at her, but it must be horrible for a child to suddenly have a load of loud drunk men outside her bedroom window.

OTOH if you think they're deliberately harassing her, then obviously report it to the police.

Bigassbeebuzzbuzz · 20/06/2021 10:59

We had something similar.
Grew a nice big tree to block and loads of wind chimes in it to piss them off.

roobicoobi · 20/06/2021 10:59

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

Most people are just trying to work it out because it's as clear as mud.

Lockheart · 20/06/2021 10:59

@Yesyoucantell

Can't believe the people defending the neighbour here.

He's a selfish oik to have built a bar like this when he has neighbours in close proximity.

No-ones defended the neighbour. Asking the OP for more information isn't defending the neighbour.
Newkitchen123 · 20/06/2021 11:00

Do you mean she was scared THAT they were staring in or do you mean she was scared BECAUSE they were staring in?
Ask the neighbours to come round to your garden so that they can see it from your point of view.

Yesyoucantell · 20/06/2021 11:02

Well anything but outright condemnation for a prat building a bar in a garden that's clearly in close proximity is kinda weird.

Utterly selfish behaviour, who cares about the minutiae?

MilduraS · 20/06/2021 11:02

I have a bus stop in front of my house. We use privacy blinds which let light in but stops people being able to see in to our living room and have a second layer for night which stops light completely.

whatabelter · 20/06/2021 11:03

Firstly we need a diagram. Secondly, for now, as in today (!) fit some high trellising and place frosted (easy to remove) film on the lower half of her window.
Then tomorrow morning get on the phone to the council.
I'm sorry Op I would hate hate hate this.

InTheKitchenAtParties · 20/06/2021 11:03

I'm just here for the diagram

Lockheart · 20/06/2021 11:03

@Yesyoucantell

Well anything but outright condemnation for a prat building a bar in a garden that's clearly in close proximity is kinda weird.

Utterly selfish behaviour, who cares about the minutiae?

Quite right, why let the actual facts of the matter get in the way of good old blind anger? I can't ever think that would end poorly.
LEMtheoriginal · 20/06/2021 11:03

This outlines why i fucking hate people

Yesyoucantell · 20/06/2021 11:05

@Lockheart
The facts are there, oik neighbour built a feckin bar in a garden that's in close proximity.

Nothing can excuse that.