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vaccinelover · 2021-06-19T10:41:04+00:00

I think my social life just totally sucks clearly. Everyone I know is literally booked up for at least a month every weekend ( if not longer ). Is that how everyone's life is ? Or just the people I know ? Lighthearted post.

Scarby9 · 19/06/2021 16:54

First aid course next weekend
Visiting parents the weekend after
Visiting parents the weekend after...
Not society city here!

LadyCatStark · 19/06/2021 16:56

0 😂

HotChocolateLover · 19/06/2021 16:59

No firm plans with friends. Work one Saturday in 6 and DSS every fortnight from Fri night until Sunday afternoon. I’m sure social events/weekends away will crop up but they’ll be ad hoc.

converseandjeans · 19/06/2021 17:00

notacooldad

I think there's a feeling of making up for lost time for many people

It was the same people who were super busy before lockdown tbh. I think I'm getting more anti-social the older I get. I really need down time to clear my head. Teaching this last year has been really full on so if anything I feel less sociable.

3totheright4totheleft · 19/06/2021 17:14

I'm following all this with interest. I often feel bad that we don't have a zillion invites for every weekend, but on the other hand we are trying to encourage DD in her friendships at the moment, and her meeting up with them happens at relatively short notice (like a few hours, in the case of today). I was glad to be able to say she could go out as we had no pressing plans (we were going shopping but it wasn't urgent), and also it meant that when she came back earlier than we thought, we were just here poodling around the house.

PassionfruitOrangeGuava · 19/06/2021 17:14

@Peppapigforlife

I never ever make plans with people. I'd rather just enjoy life as it comes along. The only thing I book in advance now is festivals and this summer I'm going to a wedding but that's rare. When I lived in Barcelona my brother messaged me around march to tell me he was booking to come and see me. I said oh okay what day are you coming? He said a date in August. I was like okay tell me again in August.

See, to me that shows you’re not that arsed about seeing your brother. If you were genuinely happy about seeing him, surely you’d make a note somewhere that you had plans with him on that date?

Honestly when someone says ‘remind me nearer the time’ I consider the plan cancelled. It takes seconds to make a note in your calendar or phone, you can even set up electronic reminders. Not bending over backwards to be someone’s secretary when they could just manage their own engagements like everyone else :)

shouldistop · 19/06/2021 17:16

Peppapigforlife
I never ever make plans with people. I'd rather just enjoy life as it comes along. The only thing I book in advance now is festivals and this summer I'm going to a wedding but that's rare. When I lived in Barcelona my brother messaged me around march to tell me he was booking to come and see me. I said oh okay what day are you coming? He said a date in August. I was like okay tell me again in August.

That's really rude, I'd be really upset if my brother treated me like that.

PassionfruitOrangeGuava · 19/06/2021 17:18

@Flippanty

So Passion if your parents asked if you will be free next month for them to come visit you from another country, you would say ‘no, sorry I’m meeting a friend at the park’? If I was your family I would think you hated me and if I was the friend you were meeting I would be mortified and very freaked out by your intensity!

If they asked if I was free and I had plans then I would say not on this date, how about a different one? Or If they were coming over anyway I’d still pop to the park with my friend anyway while they did something else. It’s less that I hate my parents and more that I value my friends equally. My friendships aren’t inferior in terms of quality and value to me compared to family relationships :)

PassionfruitOrangeGuava · 19/06/2021 17:21

I wouldn’t mind if a friend asked me to reschedule if the situation was the other way around by the way, unless they did it regularly/last minute, and I got the sense they weren’t really respecting my time. I would find it really rude when you have plans for a few weeks with someone then the day before they cancel to do something else. But that’s not how I feel or would behave to others. Many of friendships are ‘intense’ in the sense that they are family to me and vice versa.

Nowifi · 19/06/2021 17:24

I have no plans either! Friends always seem to be busy and it makes me feel like a loser!

Flippanty · 19/06/2021 17:33

My close friends are like family to me as well which is why they would find it very bizarre if I told them I had fobbed my parents off from coming over from a different country because we were meeting at the park for an hour.

PassionfruitOrangeGuava · 19/06/2021 17:54

@Flippanty

My close friends are like family to me as well which is why they would find it very bizarre if I told them I had fobbed my parents off from coming over from a different country because we were meeting at the park for an hour.

I mean, I did say I would consider going to the park anyway while they visited, or suggest they visited on another date. So if you would decide to simply ‘fob’ them off full stop then that would be on you, and it’d be a pretty strange/black and white approach.

HotWeather · 19/06/2021 18:11

I have nothing planned except a week in Norfolk next month

Thecatsawinner · 19/06/2021 18:22

I normally have plans for four weekends at a time

Lau52 · 19/06/2021 18:37

I’m not a planner either. I prefer spontaneous decisions. A have group friends and we tend to only find date where we are all free twice a year. We did manage a weekend away recently but that was booked year in advance. They all have diaries and have so much planned. I can’t function like that. Mum of 3 too and like to do random stuff at weekend or whatever we decide. If we meet friends that is probably planned month or so in advance now but most weekends I decide dependant on the weather.

garlictwist · 19/06/2021 18:49

Unless it's something that needs to be booked like a holiday, I never really plan that far in advance. I just tend to wake up on the weekend and decide what I want to do.

I am meant to be on holiday right now but have to isolate so that's cancelled, and I have a wedding in July to go to but that's it.

FishInCarparks · 19/06/2021 20:04

Our weekends are busy until the new year!! DH and I do like to plan things in but we also love to just chill so when I say we have plans I mean one thing for the weekend. That means for us that we get to be spontaneous for the rest of the weekend if we want to or just sit on the sofa and relax if we want too.

Friends staying for weekend
Family visiting
Camping
Kids sleep over
Dinner out

All these things don’t cover the whole weekend so we can go for a coffee or a drink etc but also means we are making sure we are seeing our friends and family that live a long way away too

Maryjane3227 · 19/06/2021 20:34

I'm living in an area that has very high covid rates so not really that fussed about being a social butterfly right now.

traumatisednoodle · 19/06/2021 21:02

I would say we were now "booked" through to September for big/ saturday night plans. Of course I could find time to meet a friend for coffee in that time:
Next W/Ecseeing friends
3/4th July visting DH's cousin
10th/11th July MIL coming
17/18th on call
Then holiday
DH's brother
2 separate weekends away in August
I think we may have no plans for thw B/H weekend

tsmainsqueeze · 19/06/2021 21:02

My idea of hell !
One of my favourite things is a saturday with absolutely nothing planned.

MargosKaftan · 19/06/2021 21:15

For the no plans people, do you not have lots of life admin things like dentists and opticians to fit in over weekends? They seem to have all hit over the next month or so. Plus now you need to book so much that you didn't before - eg for dc1s secondary school uniform, limits on numbers in the shop means they've insisted you have to book an appointment to go buy it.

Are you all SAHM/WFH and able to get life admin stuff done in the week?

That's seems to be taking half a day every weekend for the next few weeks, before I've even got to the fun plans!

MargosKaftan · 19/06/2021 21:18

Oh but theres a feeling here that even though our cases are v low, if the government isn't prepared to do tiers again, then all this freedom will be snatched away again, so book that restaurant, book those tickets, get plans to see friends ASAP. As it might end up being another 4 months with nothing but work and cleaning. Squeeze as much living and joy into the little pockets of time we've got.

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 21:21

@MargosKaftan

For the no plans people, do you not have lots of life admin things like dentists and opticians to fit in over weekends? They seem to have all hit over the next month or so. Plus now you need to book so much that you didn't before - eg for dc1s secondary school uniform, limits on numbers in the shop means they've insisted you have to book an appointment to go buy it.

Are you all SAHM/WFH and able to get life admin stuff done in the week?

That's seems to be taking half a day every weekend for the next few weeks, before I've even got to the fun plans!

I tend to do those kinds of things during the week actually. I sometimes have hospital appointments on Saturday. Once or twice a year! Hahah actually I have one coming up in July! So I am busy that weekend after all..

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Oobahdoobs · 19/06/2021 21:23

I'm currently booked up every weekend until mid October right now

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vaccinelover · 19/06/2021 21:26

@Oobahdoobs

I'm currently booked up every weekend until mid October right now

Are you around for brunch tomorrow ?

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