How many weekends in advance are people booked up ?

[vaccinelover]

I think my social life just totally sucks clearly. Everyone I know is literally booked up for at least a month every weekend ( if not longer ). Is that how everyone's life is ? Or just the people I know ?

Lighthearted post.

I used to book in advance but my health issues are pretty variable. I really don’t want to let people down so we tend to play it by ear a lot more. An old friend has invited me to stay back in our home town, a very pretty rural area by the sea. She has a lovely house as well. But it’s a 250 mile drive.

I am a happy introvert.
An empty diary is my idea of heaven.

I've the next two weekends booked, but it's all house maintenance stuff and catching up on work rather than social

I have something booked in for most weekends until the end of September, but mostly those are for one evening rather than the whole weekend. But then, if you consider each half day and each evening as one unit, I wouldn’t arrange things for more than two units anyway- I’d make sure I had enough free downtime for it not to feel overly busy, and mornings are accounted for by food shopping and exercise. So I’d book up Friday night and Saturday afternoon but then if someone wanted to do something Sunday afternoon as well I’d probably say no.

@notacooldad

This didn't happen to me! It was an example ! Ok then.

It was the example based on my answer which the OP has now totally twisted 🤷‍♀️

It's a thing nowadays - competitive busyness 🙄

We have a few things booked but I don't get that organised tbh & like to do impromptu things too.

Some people I know are booked up for months ahead. It sounds exhausting tbh

Sounds my idea of hell having weekends booked up for months.

Quiet time is very precious to me.

I have my second vaccination booked. Does that count?

First one felt like a day out. Really enjoyed it. I got to sneak off by myself leaving DC with DH (during weekend "FAMILY TIME", no less...). I even went for lunch by myself afterwards.

Have made sure to book the next one for a Saturday afternoon as well .

Definitely need to get out more!

It's a thing nowadays - competitive busyness* 🙄
I think there's a feeling of making up for lost time for many people.
I'm enjoying having things to look forward to. I'm not booking any holidays so having plans to socialise, having theatre tickets, rescheduled concerts and so on to look forward to is nice for me.
I'm certainly not in competition with anyone because my friends and family are feeling the same way.

Op its hard agree. Im meeting 2 this week. One is a walk then coffee after. Find mid week bit easier. Some people seem have loads friends. I have just a few!

17th July next available Saturday but I am free all Sunday nights which I like!

But if my friends who I need to book two months in advance, want to go to the park on a Saturday in late august- and it happens to be the weekend that my parents decide on a whim they want to come and see me from abroad, I know what I'll choose. I wouldn't tell my parents not to come because I'm going to the park with friends who I needed to book two months in advance.. To go to the park may I add. Not even a birthday or anything.

See, if someone (anyone) wanted to visit from abroad I’d expect them to check the dates worked with me first if the reason for the visit was to see me. Then I could let them know I was free or not. I wouldn’t ever dream of bailing on plans with friends because another offer came up. But if you would want to choose to cancel long held plans with someone to see someone else it definitely makes sense to not make far ahead plans at all.

I like to have stuff to look forward to. I've got bouldering sessions, meals with friends, a couple of mountain hikes with a group booked, some visits to attractions, a tattoo session and two weekends away.

I hate sitting around the house.

I have plans next weekend (birthday) and provisionally have some sporting events in the diary but nothing else.

I have one weekend booked up in June, one in July and one in August. That’s it.

One of the things reported about what people liked about lockdown was the lack of planning.
Don’t get sucked in by those that like busyness. Most don’t.

So Passion if your parents asked if you will be free next month for them to come
visit you from another country, you would say ‘no, sorry I’m meeting a friend at the park’? If I was your family I would think you hated me and if I was the friend you were meeting I would be mortified and very freaked out by your intensity!

I hate booking things in advance as I'm quite flakey anxiety, health etc. I have some things booked in and only a few weekends free until September and that makes me anxious but used to be the one with full weekend plans with different sets of people and that made me happy.
I have less time for things that annoy me now so prefer to be able to decide on the day and my friends are all booked up til November. I have a partner and kids so I don't need to be off socialising all the time. I dunno I think it depends on your age and stage of life

Single 33 year old.

I have a handful (4 or 5) of good friends. I have 'Booked in' plans for about 3 weekends for 2021. They are more or less the same with their friends. I can make plans with about 2 weeks notice.

The thought of being 'fully booked' until November fills me with dread. I did have a very good friend like that...it fizzled out.

Just the next 2 Saturday nights and then a couple weekends in July for weddings and one weekend in August.

I do like to keep in close contact with friends and have things in my calendar but try to keep weekends free until closer to the time where possible. I'll meet people on weeknights if I can, its much easier to get pub and restaurant bookings on weeknights at the moment too.

I have something on lots of weekends, and for that reason I'm protective of the hours that aren't booked up.

I think a lot of people have realised similar and are cutting down on their "on" time.

Much as it's nice to be spontaneous, you need to leave gaps to be spontaneous in (then spontaneously decide to chill out instead...)

One of the things reported about what people liked about lockdown was the lack of planning
It was one of the things I hated!
I didn't like not having things to look forward to. I'm not talking about having every day or minute planned out but having concerts, plays, art exhibitions, trips away, events, farmers markets, and things to enjoy with my family and friends.
I know my colleagues have felt the same when we've talked over zoom about how we are all feeling when we've had check in.

I just checked my calendar. I don't have a free weekend until 14th August.

I have friends like this and it does my head in a bit that we have to plan stuff so far in advance. I keep busy at the weekends but with home stuff or things with kids during the day and usually that can be moved if needed. I couldn't bear to have evening plans every weekend night for months on end. I'd be exhausted!

Competitive busyness!! Yes that exactly describes what it means to me

I had a flatmate once who was exactly like that. Would ask me what I was up to the following weekend and when I said not sure (because it was Monday!) I would get the patronising head tilt and say oh really no plans?! We always ended up having filled weekends

Now I think about it I think it’s her that has made me detest people who constantly have to “check their diary”