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To want covid vaccine even though bf says I cant

318 replies

Trumanshow · 18/06/2021 22:47

So my bf lives with his mum who is pretty old. Apparently her dr has said she shouldn't have the covid vaccine as it's not safe and no one who has had it can come into contact with her for 10 days. So my bf says Im not allowed to have it done. As far as I know the vaccine can't shed and if his mum is old (80s but otherwise healthy) she will be fine having the jab herself! She believes crystals heal....

I'm pretty well educated and they are starting to make me doubt myself, Im booked to have first dose tomorrow (my hometown has had a massive surge in cases) but I'm scared of the fallout if I do. AIBU just to go have it done even though he says I cant?

OP posts:
Truenorthmum · 18/06/2021 23:46

Have the vaccine, ditch the boyfriend.

MountainDweller · 18/06/2021 23:46

Am wondering if the boyfriend is related to my DH's relative who won't let anyone in her house if they've had the vaccine. Because apparently Covid is a hoax. Not clear what she thinks will happen Confused Confused Easy way for us not to see her. For the sake of your health I recommend ditching the boyfriend AND his mum and getting the vaccine!

thumpingrug · 18/06/2021 23:49

Leave him now. Get jabbed and go live a happy life away from this idiot.

Longdistance · 18/06/2021 23:55

@Trumanshow why are you not just dumping him? He’s cheated and trying to control you. Dump him and get on with your life.

Sylvan92 · 18/06/2021 23:55

@whatisheupto

Either your bf is lying or he is a massive numpty for believing his mother's lies.

Either way you need to learn that you are responsible for your own health, nobody else gets to tell you what you do with your body.

Ext
Castlepeak · 18/06/2021 23:55

Have the vaccine. Don’t see him for 10 days.
I suspect he is lying, but I suppose there is some medical condition out there that I’m not familiar with that requires isolation from people who have been vaccinated. No need to argue the matter. Just don’t see him.

Ostara212 · 18/06/2021 23:57

@Trumanshow

I'm not allowed to see him for 10 days after vaccine either apparently... Because he lives with his mum (at 43) he says he will take it home with him. Never mind the countless people they both see everyday, it's just a control thing I think. I was starting to doubt my stance on this so thank you for reassuring me
I think after 10 days of not seeing him, you'll feel pretty good.
ineedaholidaynow · 18/06/2021 23:58

Have the vaccine and don't see him again, so he won't have to worry about you shedding anything

caringcarer · 19/06/2021 00:01

Pick the vaccine over the idiot bf everyone.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 19/06/2021 00:03

You can't get Covid from the vaccine, what a plonker. Go and get it.

ajs8 · 19/06/2021 00:04

This is completely batshit crazy!! How can a vaccine that has been put in your body affect someone else?! It’s your body and your choice, and to be honest he sounds like a controlling twat!

GrandDuchessRomanov · 19/06/2021 00:06

How old are you OP?

Anna727b · 19/06/2021 00:08

@SheilaWilcox

Have the vaccine and tell him that the doctors there told you not to see him or his mum for at least 10 years and go and get on with your life.

He's either thick and a liar or completely batshit and you're better off without him!

What SheilaWilcox said!

Definitely get your vaccination- the whole basis of your boyfriend's reason makes absolutely no sense!

Lalliella · 19/06/2021 00:10

@TestingTestingWonTooFree

Have the vaccine, ditch the lying/stupid/controlling boyfriend.
^^ this with bells on
Lalliella · 19/06/2021 00:11

@MountainDweller

Am wondering if the boyfriend is related to my DH's relative who won't let anyone in her house if they've had the vaccine. Because apparently Covid is a hoax. Not clear what she thinks will happen Confused Confused Easy way for us not to see her. For the sake of your health I recommend ditching the boyfriend AND his mum and getting the vaccine!
If Covid is a hoax then surely having a covid vaccine would have no effect on anyone so that argument is a load of rubbish!
SemperIdem · 19/06/2021 00:14

I’d not bother seeing him permanently to be honest. He has no right to dictate to you what choices you make about your own health.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 19/06/2021 00:20

@ajs8 technically some vaccines that are live give you a mild dose of the illness and you are briefly slightly infectious. The covid jabs are NOT live. Most vaccinations are also not live.

UnRavellingFast · 19/06/2021 00:31

Oh dear. His poor mum is no doubt being fed a stream of nonsense from him. My 82 yo dm was delighted to get her jabs and had no issues. Your OH is a silly little boy and if he’s influenced by his ageing mum then shame on him for not helping her to feel confident about the life saving jab.

Merryoldgoat · 19/06/2021 00:32

Why the fuck are you still with him?

PickAChew · 19/06/2021 00:35

He's a boyfriend. He could be your ex boyfriend before the year is out. Have your jab.

PickAChew · 19/06/2021 00:37

Sorry, could should have been should. In government speak, make that must.

gotalottolose · 19/06/2021 00:45

Get your jab and don’t see him for ten days. Then extend that to ten weeks, and then ten years… you get the picture.

MumInBrussels · 19/06/2021 00:47

Have the vaccine, dump the controlling, stupid boyfriend with his lunatic mother. There are no redeeming features which outweigh trying to forbid you to have a vaccine or any other medical treatment that you consider appropriate for yourself, let alone for such ridiculous reasons.

GiveMeNovocain · 19/06/2021 00:49

I think you'd be best ditching bf. He's controlling and cheats.
If you want the vaccine get the vaccine. Don't discuss it with him. Hopefully he's gone by now but you don't have to tell him if you decide to stay with him. How would he know?

GiveMeNovocain · 19/06/2021 00:50

@PickAChew

He's a boyfriend. He could be your ex boyfriend before the year is out. Have your jab.
Even better before the hour is out.