To want covid vaccine even though bf says I cant

[Trumanshow]

So my bf lives with his mum who is pretty old. Apparently her dr has said she shouldn't have the covid vaccine as it's not safe and no one who has had it can come into contact with her for 10 days. So my bf says Im not allowed to have it done. As far as I know the vaccine can't shed and if his mum is old (80s but otherwise healthy) she will be fine having the jab herself! She believes crystals heal....

I'm pretty well educated and they are starting to make me doubt myself, Im booked to have first dose tomorrow (my hometown has had a massive surge in cases) but I'm scared of the fallout if I do. AIBU just to go have it done even though he says I cant?

It is conceivable that the doctor told his mother she shouldn't have vaccine for medical reasons, it is stated that about 5% of residents in care homes can't receive the vaccine. It is inconceivable that a doctor said no one in contact with his mother should have vaccine, in fact in the case of an elderly ir vulnerable person that can't have vaccine it is more important that their carers do. My dad can't have vaccine so my mother who can was delighted to get it at earliest opportunity as it helped keep my dad safer, he is several years older and on polypharmacy.

No doctor would say this.

Your BF is lying.

Get the jab if you want or need it.

It's up to you if you want to tell your boyfriend if you've had it.

Be very very careful where you go in this relationship with this man, if you continue to get serious with him there may come a point in your life where he is in a position to be making decisions about your health. If something happened to me I have the utmost confidence that my husband would listen to medical advice and make decisions in my best interests not to suit some personal agenda. I know ots not romantic to think of these things, but i could not be in a relationship with someone I could not trust with my health

@FadedRed

1) have the jab tomorrow as planned. 2) get yourself a nice boyfriend who has an IQ in at least double figures.

This

Tell him to FRO and get your vaccination, OP.

What a thick pillock!

Also I have friends who use crystals, and I use herbal medicine sometimes, but the vast majority of us do so alongside more formal kinds of medicine, and they have been vocal about how happy they are to be vaccinated. I've found honey impregnanted dressings great for infected cuts (i do woodwork so this happens more often than it should) but when i just bdd a bad bacterial chest infection I sought medical advice and took the antibiotics I needed. It doesnt have to be an either or, and people who eshew all forms of formal/doctor led medicine do sometimes tend to be more down the anti vax, conpiracy theory side of life which would be a red flag in a relationship for me

So, why are you with this guy?

You say he cheats on you with multiple women, he's trying to control and blackmail you and doesn't want you making your own decisions about your health.

How long are you together? How serious can the relationship be if he's living with his mum in his 40's?

He’s full of shit and sounds controlling, why on earth does he think he can tell you not to have a vaccine if you want it? Imagine if you had kids and he said you couldn’t vaccinate your kids

Have the vaccine
Get rid of him

You really want to be with someone who dictates what you can do with YOUR OWN BODY?

Boyfriend says you CAN'T!

Fuck that.

If anyone, least of all a MAN says I can't do something, I will fucking well be more determined to do it.

@Trumanshow Get the vaccine, and get a grip!

Do you need a man so desperately that this is the one you picked? Out of the 8 billion humans clogging up the planet you thought your shitty boyfriend was the ideal? Come on now. Just embarrassing.

So come on OP, what gives? What is it about this guy that makes you want to be with him?

Have the vacc, Trumanshow. You'll be fine.

Perfect, have your vaccine & then take a 10 day break from his bullshit

I recommend that you:
Get the vaccine
Lose the bellend
Celebrate your good fortune in dodging a bullet

Have the vaccine then find yourself a new boyfriend without the mindset of a medieval peasant.

Just get the vaccine without telling him and when you’re all totally fine afterwards, tell him and prove to him that his mum’s voodoo witch doctor talks shit. Oh and then LTB.

Just read your last thread from 6 months ago where you spoke about all the serious problems in this relationship.......you were planning to break up with him then, what happened?

I couldn’t date someone with such ridiculous beliefs

It’s important that you have the vaccine.

It’s even more important that you ditch the nob head!

Your bf is chatting shit, no dr would say that

There are people all over the world who cannot have access to vaccines. Please be kind to yourself and go get the vaccine. Never let a man dictate any of his health issues to you. Best of luck and stand up for yourself.

@Trumanshow

I'm not allowed to see him for 10 days after vaccine either apparently... Because he lives with his mum (at 43) he says he will take it home with him. Never mind the countless people they both see everyday, it's just a control thing I think. I was starting to doubt my stance on this so thank you for reassuring me

Please just dump him

What do you mean your bf says you can’t?! How old are you? 12?! For crying out loud grow up and tell him you’re having it and when you do tell him to sod off at the same time