Bitter about missing school occasions

[Rhinothunder]

Just really beginning to hate this government. Parents have been banned from sports days at all our local schools as they say its too much risk and they can't police lots of bubbles as required by govt guidelines.

We've also been banned from assemblies and shows even if can hold them outside. I haven't seen a single thing yet in my 6 year olds school career. We saw so much for the older ones and was a real high for us and the kids.

Meanwhile on the news we are watching g7 encourages, football officalls and z list celebrities swan round the world and mass together.

It's so galling and I'm getting really angry about it.

Struggling to accept it and thinking of how I can take action.

Sports days school including class photos transition days assembly's all happening where I work. A large local authority with a variation of small rural massive inner city. Few weird rules to make it "covid safe" but they are a pain for parents the kids are not noticing

@ineedaholidaynow

Ascot was one of the test events, so needed a LFT and PCR test before attending and will need a further test 5 days after.

Any event they decide they want to go ahead they make a 'test event'. How many test events do they need?

Maybe it is a stealth way of having a COVID passport as you needed a negative test to get in @Haudyourwheesht

What occasions? I’ve never heard of parents ever going to assemblies. Parents have never been able to go to sports days because our school doesn’t have space. Shows? The only show would be a Christmas production, so that would be a shame to miss, but Christmas is long gone.

I'd happily take a test if it meant I could go in to all the school events.

Horrid’ to be relieved temporarily that my own child doesn’t have to be upset because I haven’t been able to be at a non essential event just because I have to work?! What on Earth!?

That looks pretty similar to being glad about everyone else’s upset and disappointment to me.

That’s v rare to have so few events. What about winter/ summer fairs ?

Many Primary schools have a leavers assembly for Y6 and they may do a show too @lemonsyellow

Many working parents miss these in normal times (and sports day). I remember threads pre COVID where parents have said they had never been to sports day, plays etc due to work and their children weren’t impacted.

I don't think schools have any choice.

What makes me angry is the exception made for the great god sport.

The football shouldn't be happening - look at the marauding Scots in London yesterday. And the police did nothing.

Wimbledon shouldn't have crowds but they will because it's sport and money.

That's what will prolong the pandemic.

@lemonsyellow

What occasions? I’ve never heard of parents ever going to assemblies. Parents have never been able to go to sports days because our school doesn’t have space. Shows? The only show would be a Christmas production, so that would be a shame to miss, but Christmas is long gone.

You know, I honestly don’t mean this snarkily but when I read posts like this I wonder.

Eight pages of people discussing it might indicate that just because it’s outside of your personal experience, it isn’t obscure and bizarre.

There would be a summer fair - outside in the yard - but never heard of a winter fair.

That’s rubbish op
Feeling lucky- fingers crossed DS has an outdoor transition afternoon, Sports Day with parents and a school day trip this coming week. All going ahead (barring bubble closures 🤞).
How are private schools managing to do this when state are cancelling everything? Is it the small class sizes?

but never heard of a winter fair.
... Christmas Fair?

There are transition events at most schools, especially year 6 - leavers plays, assemblies, transition days to the new school, sports days, leavers BBQs/parties - I'd be really surprised if your school didn't have them as they are pretty standard.

Sad for them, yes, bitter?! No.

I’ve got a Yr 6 & a Yr 11 who have both missed out on so much, it does make me sad. Yr 11s prom just got cancelled, end of year celebrations, proper GCSE exams etc etc luckily his D of E has still happened, as has Yr 6s residential, so there are bright spots in an otherwise sh*tty last year at secondary & primary for them.

My Yr 9 is only just back in school after 2 weeks as the whole year were sent home to circuit break after 1 positive case. It’s a sh*t show for all of them to be honest.

I feel the same op. Furious.

Maybe this is why schools are being careful

www.tes.com/news/covid-schools-told-plan-more-remote-learning

@ineedaholidaynow

Many Primary schools have a leavers assembly for Y6 and they may do a show too *@lemonsyellow*

Many working parents miss these in normal times (and sports day). I remember threads pre COVID where parents have said they had never been to sports day, plays etc due to work and their children weren’t impacted.

I mean the word “impacted” is extreme, I doubt I would have gone down the heroine route had my dad not taken the morning off to see me in an assembly but I have fond memories of him being there. Tbh I don’t want to attend school events for my kids benefit but for mine- one of the few joyous parts of having children imo.

@HazeyJaneII

but never heard of a winter fair. ... Christmas Fair?

There are transition events at most schools, especially year 6 - leavers plays, assemblies, transition days to the new school, sports days, leavers BBQs/parties - I'd be really surprised if your school didn't have them as they are pretty standard.

But most of those aren’t things that parents would go to, surely. Eg, what’s a transition day to new school? As children all go to different secondary schools, I can’t see how a transition day would work or why parents would go. There was a leavers’ party but it was for the children, not parents, unless you were helping. As I said, parents never could go to sports day because there was no space. Parents never went to assemblies because there was no space. Those things aren’t standard to me.

Parents don’t usually go to transition days round here, but there are usually days when you can look round the schools.

@lemonsyellow Parents do go to transition days for reception children. It's normally the first chance to meet other parents at the school.

My youngest started in reception last year and I hardly know any of the other parents. We had a few outdoor meet ups last year but have been very limited this year,
not least due to staggered pick ups. Not really an issue for me as I have other DC at the school but if it's your first child, it's nice to get to know other parents and it's how you find out a lot.

I really feel for this year's reception intake, many of whose parents have had to choose the school without setting foot in it.

@lemonsyellow

When I moved to secondary school there were open evenings where you looked around with your parents. Transition days you generally went as a year group (those moving up to that school). State school is generally catchment based so probably about half the class went to each.

Reception wise - yes parents used to be allowed to go in with their children and have a tour/ meet the teacher etc.

I personally don’t know any schools where parents aren’t invited to sports days and special assemblies / shows and judging by this thread it appears you’re in the minority.

In theory parents are still being invited into the secondary Ds is starting just in smaller groups - I have a feeling that will be cancelled though as they have their first bubble burst since reopening

[quote Passthesauce]@lemonsyellow Parents do go to transition days for reception children. It's normally the first chance to meet other parents at the school.

My youngest started in reception last year and I hardly know any of the other parents. We had a few outdoor meet ups last year but have been very limited this year,
not least due to staggered pick ups. Not really an issue for me as I have other DC at the school but if it's your first child, it's nice to get to know other parents and it's how you find out a lot.

I really feel for this year's reception intake, many of whose parents have had to choose the school without setting foot in it.[/quote]
But why do you need to meet other parents? The kids go to school, not the parents.

You know, I honestly don’t mean this snarkily but when I read posts like this I wonder.

Eight pages of people discussing it might indicate that just because it’s outside of your personal experience, it isn’t obscure and bizarre.

Exactly. The fact that people in this thread assume that all schools do things the same way is precisely the point I’m making!

"But most of those aren’t things that parents would go to, surely. Eg, what’s a transition day to new school? As children all go to different secondary schools, I can’t see how a transition day would work or why parents would go. There was a leavers’ party but it was for the children, not parents, unless you were helping. As I said, parents never could go to sports day because there was no space. Parents never went to assemblies because there was no space. Those things aren’t standard to me."

My children's transition days have been cancelled which are usually standard.
Secondary school pupils have them to help them in their transition from primary to secondary which is a big change. I obviously wouldn't have gone but it would have been beneficial to my child but it has now been cancelled.
My youngest would have had some transition days with me going along for their step up to reception which would have been beneficial for them. Again that has been cancelled.
Sports days we were always able to go along to, the same with watching their plays.
My kids have missed out on opportunity's beneficial to them which is frustrating as a parent whether it's something I could attend or not.

I am sick of kids missing out on things that would benefit them and sick of seeing other people continuing to take the piss for example football supporters or people winging about having to pay for tests when coming back from a holiday from an amber country that they have been advised not to go to.