Bitter about missing school occasions

[Rhinothunder]

Just really beginning to hate this government. Parents have been banned from sports days at all our local schools as they say its too much risk and they can't police lots of bubbles as required by govt guidelines.

We've also been banned from assemblies and shows even if can hold them outside. I haven't seen a single thing yet in my 6 year olds school career. We saw so much for the older ones and was a real high for us and the kids.

Meanwhile on the news we are watching g7 encourages, football officalls and z list celebrities swan round the world and mass together.

It's so galling and I'm getting really angry about it.

Struggling to accept it and thinking of how I can take action.

I missed my daughters first Christmas show/nativity which I felt a bit sad about (preschool) but I'm more concerned that we've moved to a new area, applied for schools we haven't been able to visit been given second choice (which is fine) and every induction meeting/chance to meet the teachers has been cancelled.
Just gotta roll with it I guess and I suppose in non covid circumstances people wouldn't necessarily visit the school anyway

Missing a school assembly doesn't really compare with missing someone's funeral though, does it? I've been unable to go to three of those in the last year.

@dodobookends

Missing a school assembly doesn't really compare with missing someone's funeral though, does it? I've been unable to go to three of those in the last year.

No offence but depends on your opinion on funerals- I think once you are dead you are dead and have very little emotional connection to funerals. I live for the living moments as harsh as that may sound.

I think if you are in Scotland (which I am) it's down to your local authority I think sturgeon let them decide
I may be wrong though I often am

@dodobookends

Missing a school assembly doesn't really compare with missing someone's funeral though, does it? I've been unable to go to three of those in the last year.

But no one is really asking to compare.

My dad died seven years ago. He was in his late sixties. Losing him doesn’t even compare with losing a child, or much younger parent. But it still hurt.

You've missed the point. There is usually going to be another school assembly. But you only ever get the chance to go to someone's funeral once to say goodbye, don't you?

Missing a school assembly or sports day is utterly trivial in comparison.

I don’t think I have missed the point. Someone will always have experienced more hurt, pain and loss. That’s how life is. It doesn’t negate your own hurt, pain or loss.

Competitive misery is so tedious. Whatever the situation, you'll usually be able to conjure up a worse scenario.

@dodobookends

You've missed the point. There is usually going to be another school assembly. But you only ever get the chance to go to someone's funeral once to say goodbye, don't you?

Missing a school assembly or sports day is utterly trivial in comparison.

You see a funeral as a goodbye, I don’t as in my eyes they person is already gone. Children are in primary school for 7 years, 2 years ruined to date- how many more?!

You've missed the point. There is usually going to be another school assembly. But you only ever get the chance to go to someone's funeral once to say goodbye, don't you? Missing a school assembly or sports day is utterly trivial in comparison.

Everyone feels differently. My family would say life is for the living. My grandparents would turn in their graves for what we have done to a generation of children.

@Topseyt

I would have loved not having to attend school sports days. They were a PITA.

My daughter was annoyed to get a message from my grandson's school saying that Sports Day would go ahead with spectators!

@JudgeJ I would have groaned at that too.

Thankfully I no longer have school age children so these things are in the past now.

I find it quite sad that so many people seem to not enjoy attending things like plays, assemblies and sports days to watch their dc.

I have so many lovely memories over the years from watching these. It’s one of the most enjoyable things about having kids, even if they’re not the best at it.

It’s like a competition to see who cares the least with some people on this thread.

I don’t think anybody should feel bad if it isn’t their thing but it does frustrate me that some have decided that because they don’t enjoy it or because they can’t go, it should be spoiled for everybody, which is horrible.

My dd is year 2 not seen a single sports day yet as the school don’t do them for reception so missed them all.

She’s at least getting one this year but behind closed doors.

I’m also bitter.

She never got to do concerts or special assemblies. Headteacher makes a real effort and will give out external certificates like swimming or gymnastics in assembly. DD never got one before they closed in her year 1 year so she’s never had that special standing up in front of the school. Some weeks there would be loads who got external certificates and it’d be lovely for all the children to celebrate together.

They’ve missed out on after school clubs run by school like choir and Lego club, some of these are year group specific so they’ll never get the chance to do them.

It’s totally unfair. They’re not even allowed to play with their siblings or other friends if they’re in other classes (2 form entry so could easily have twins in 1 year group but diff classes) at wraparound as they have to stay in bubbles.

Even rainbows isn’t the same for DD, she’s not allowed to go near the leaders, she can’t go near any of the other children and it’s mostly outside. She’s still enjoying it but can tell it’s not the same for her.

Only vaguely normal thing she has is swimming lessons and even then the showers are still closed off and she can’t borrow equipment from the teacher (we were all given a set with arm rings, a pool noodle and a few floats in but it increased the cost of lessons for everyone so they could do this).

@lavenderandwisteria

I don’t think anybody should feel bad if it isn’t their thing but it does frustrate me that some have decided that because they don’t enjoy it or because they can’t go, it should be spoiled for everybody, which is horrible.

Yep

Being happy that everyone misses out because you want to is particularly odd and mean

@Watermelon221

I find it quite sad that so many people seem to not enjoy attending things like plays, assemblies and sports days to watch their dc.

I have so many lovely memories over the years from watching these. It’s one of the most enjoyable things about having kids, even if they’re not the best at it.

It’s like a competition to see who cares the least with some people on this thread.

I completely agree. I don't just object to missing watching them either...I'm upset that my dc are missing out by doing these things. Surely we all want out dc to have enriching lives with all these added extras like after sctclubs, assemblies, plays, trips, music, sport etc? Those are the bits that make childhood fun...I remember all my school plays and residential trips. Childhood is very short, a couple of years out of it is significant.

*after school clubs that should read

Teachers want all of those things too. They are all the things we do on top of our daily jobs. We know they matter to the children and therefore they matter to us. However, they don't matter to the government who have managed to eradicate all of the goodwill in schools by showing their complete and utter disregard for school staff.

Our school events have all been cancelled by public health England (or similar), not the school.

It’s the stupid mixed messages which infuriate me though. Like dc’s can still do their external sports activities, including indoor ones like dance and swimming with parents watching, albeit distanced. (Kids of all ages and from different schools).

But they cannot have sports day at their own school, sitting and racing with their own year group bubble. And they cannot have a school photo with their sibling because they’re not allowed to mix year groups.
But they can share a bedroom with their sibling and walk home with them!

It’s so bloody ridiculous and feels like it’s done to punish kids not keep them safe! I don’t blame schools but those in charge of setting these stupid rules need to give their heads a wobble!

"feels like it’s done to punish kids"

@CallmeHendricks

"feels like it’s done to punish kids"

Why the eye roll?

Perhaps not punish but it certainly feels like children are being expected to take more responsibility and follow the rules more than the adult population are doing

Yes maybe not punish but somewhat forgotten atm

Yes, it does feel like punishment actually. The rules are stupid and pointless. If you are scared of Covid get double vaccinated then let kids grow up in a healthy social environment.