Bitter about missing school occasions

[Rhinothunder]

Just really beginning to hate this government. Parents have been banned from sports days at all our local schools as they say its too much risk and they can't police lots of bubbles as required by govt guidelines.

We've also been banned from assemblies and shows even if can hold them outside. I haven't seen a single thing yet in my 6 year olds school career. We saw so much for the older ones and was a real high for us and the kids.

Meanwhile on the news we are watching g7 encourages, football officalls and z list celebrities swan round the world and mass together.

It's so galling and I'm getting really angry about it.

Struggling to accept it and thinking of how I can take action.

@toomuchfaster

This is odd. DD is leaving Infants to go to Junior. We are attending sports Day, leavers assembly and they are having a leavers BBQ and several sessions at the new school over a few weeks.

As someone who works in a school and has to liase with others in the local area, I think your experience is probably in the minority.

@mummywithtwokidsplusdog

I agree with you- I can’t stand watching all the football supporters meeting up in 100s/1000s and yet we can even join outdoor events at school :( it’s utterly rubbish for families. If Nicola Sturgeon goes on about being cautious etc anymore whilst allowing the Euros to take place etc I will self combust!!!! Wish I knew what we- the ordinary people- can do? So frustrating x

Exactly

@BroccoliRob

Personally I'm more bitter about not being able to attend my 40 year old friend's funeral but each to their own.

I'm sorry for your loss, but sadness isn't a competition. It's perfectly possible to have sadness and empathy for people that have died whilst simultaneously being sad about our children missing out on milestone events.

Hear hear

All seems to be going ahead at school where I work. Think we are taking precautions by being in our bubbles and asking parents to respect the no congregation in groups more than 30!?. I am not going to criticise other schools with different risk assessments that mean it isn't possible.

Yep. Ds2 in yr7, he and more importantly I have missed a lot.

@hapalong totally agree. I have lost a parent during the pandemic, and was devastated at the funeral restrictions. But I’m still angry and gutted we don’t get to attend anything at school for our DC, and if anything, it makes the time we are able to spend together even more important.

I’ve followed all the rules, had my jab and don’t mind not having the life we used to but I do RESENT the huge impact on my children, everything has been cancelled for the end of term, residential gone, no school fair, disco, etc and whilst these may seem trivial this is the stuff that childhoods are made of and you don’t get another chance. It seems totally illogical that you can have huge groups of fans at a football match and in the streets but a class of children, none of whom have ever had covid and unlikely to get poorly from it, aren’t allowed to go out. A residential when they are in school together all week

‘go on a residential’

Finally I don't have to suffer in the sun watching children running with eggs. I'd have hated sports day (not grown up in UK) torture especially in front of everyone's parents...

Agree. It's sad and frustrating.

Protest? Hasn't our right to protest been removed by this dictatorship?

Feel the same, esp as dc is isolating with negative test

@putmyfeetup

I’ve followed all the rules, had my jab and don’t mind not having the life we used to but I do RESENT the huge impact on my children, everything has been cancelled for the end of term, residential gone, no school fair, disco, etc and whilst these may seem trivial this is the stuff that childhoods are made of and you don’t get another chance. It seems totally illogical that you can have huge groups of fans at a football match and in the streets but a class of children, none of whom have ever had covid and unlikely to get poorly from it, aren’t allowed to go out. A residential when they are in school together all week

Yes exactly.

It doesn't just seem illogical, it IS illogical.

Children just don't have any importance on the government agenda.

They have no financial weight, they can't complain, they don't vote.

The are non existent politically.

If they were Google school would have resumed 100% normally in September.

But the government don't care. No skin in the game.

How can we fix it, and fast.

@Glenthebattleostrich

Yep, my DD is year 6 and they have missed so much.

3 normal assemblies
leavers assembly
residential trip
parents evening
transition day to high school
leavers lunch
end of year disco

as well as the normal school events such as disco's, fairs, trips to local education attractions and generally being able to see all her friends.

But apparently their stuff doesn't matter. Her being diagnosed with anxiety and self harming just isnt important.

I work in a primary school and all of this is going ahead apart from transition visit to high school and that I understand tbh. We are a small rural primary school.

Schools are able to do it under the guidelines, many are choosing not to due to logistics, staffing (including how willing staff are to do it, many might be nervous about it) outside space etc. It’s stressful making it happen but we think it’s important. We’ll be being careful and we have lots of covid procedures in place.
I know it’s upsetting to miss these things but school staff are under huge pressure and it’s impossible to please everyone

Not sure what can be done though, that’s the tough part.

I personally hated sports day as a child but some like it and it is their chance to shine.

I completely agree about losing transition days and special assemblies etc- 4 year olds are expected to turn up to buildings they have never been inside and stay with people they have never met. Starting school is a massive event for children. Then you see football fans in massive crowds with no social distancing. I feel very sorry for children, they are paying a high price at the moment.

Me neither.

Yikes, first world issues much…

I'm sad about lack of school photos. I love them. I took my own individual of DD last year and framed it to keep progress, I'll do the same again but now missing two full class :(

@Dandelionstem

I personally hated sports day as a child but some like it and it is their chance to shine.

I completely agree about losing transition days and special assemblies etc- 4 year olds are expected to turn up to buildings they have never been inside and stay with people they have never met. Starting school is a massive event for children. Then you see football fans in massive crowds with no social distancing. I feel very sorry for children, they are paying a high price at the moment.

Yes agreed. It's not sports day per se im dead set one's, it's just the event that's tipped me over the edge as it's 100% outside whatever the weather and being banned from it just rams home the message about how little the people making the rules care about children.

@LaProcureure

How is it a first world issue to want children to be settled into new environments and to be involved in their schooling?

@Blughbablugh

No ideas but I hear you. I found out today that parent's aren't allowed to dd's pre school graduation. We missed out on her first Christmas play as well. Yet my dh went to the cricket last week with thousands of other people. It's just so unfair and pissing me off greatly that yet again kids miss out!

Pre school graduation and Christmas plays are for the parents, not the children. Your children will only feel they've missed out if you encourage them to feel that way

@BroccoliRob

Personally I'm more bitter about not being able to attend my 40 year old friend's funeral but each to their own.

I hear you x

Lots of weirdly similar threads insisting something must be done about this recently.