To give baby middle name of deceased sibling?

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Just that really, what are your thoughts on giving my baby the middle name of my deceased sibling?

I feel like it's ok, but I'd like to hear other opinions to ensure I'm not just being a bit blinkered and in case I've not considered an implication somewhere.

Thanks

I've read about people's experiences of being so called 'rainbow babies' and the sense their existence feels like it's in relation to their decreased siblings. The very term rainbow baby first makes reference to the lost sibling than to the baby themselves.

I think yabu for similar reasons to above. They aren't an extension of their sibling, they are your child in their own right. I think naming children after other deceased relatives (grandparents, uncles etc) is very different.

Ultimately it's your decision, I wouldn't do it.

@ItsAboutTimeForANameChange

I've read about people's experiences of being so called 'rainbow babies' and the sense their existence feels like it's in relation to their decreased siblings. The very term rainbow baby first makes reference to the lost sibling than to the baby themselves.

I think yabu for similar reasons to above. They aren't an extension of their sibling, they are your child in their own right. I think naming children after other deceased relatives (grandparents, uncles etc) is very different.

Ultimately it's your decision, I wouldn't do it.

Didn't the OP say it was her deceased sibling though not the baby's deceased sibling so it would be an aunt/uncle of the baby?

@ItsAboutTimeForANameChange

Thank you, I should've been clear, it's MY sibling they'd have their middle name after, so it would be their Uncles name as their middle name, I've perhaps not worded my post very well, will try and edit.

Absolutely fine and a lovely tribute to your sibling.

I would probably seek your parents opinions first though.

@AryaStarkWolf yes, that's correct, it would be their Uncles name as their middle name.

My middle name is the name of my mum's sister who died when they were both children. I like the name itself and also the meaning behind it, I've never had an issue with my middle name coming from a deceased relative

I think that would be absolutely fine and a nice tribute to your sibling.

Both my daughters have middle names that honor their deceased grandmothers.

[quote NameChangeA2Z]@AryaStarkWolf yes, that's correct, it would be their Uncles name as their middle name.[/quote]
I think it's a lovely idea, I'm sure your brother would think so too

Fine if it’s your dead relative, not fine if it’s the child’s sibling

My middle name is that of my deceased Aunt.
My son’s middle name is that of my deceased brother.

I think it’s a nice way to commemorate someone.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult Thank you, and yes, that's a good point about seeing how my Mum and Dad would feel about things.

I think it's lovely!

[quote NameChangeA2Z]@ItsAboutTimeForANameChange

Thank you, I should've been clear, it's MY sibling they'd have their middle name after, so it would be their Uncles name as their middle name, I've perhaps not worded my post very well, will try and edit.[/quote]
You were clear!

@LandoMilkNHoneyBadger Thank you, that's really useful to have your insight

Yes it’s lovely as a tribute. I agree with others that had it been the baby’s sibling it would be a very gentle no from me.
Our son has my husbands brother’s name as his middle name, DHs brother sadly died in childhood.

Thank you @Lindy2

I would be very touched if I was your parent but I'd probably like to know in advance of a public announcement.

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Thank you all for your thoughts and opinions

I would want to be sure that your Mum & Dad approve. I considered it, my parents had another child who died young before I was born, but ultimately decided against it. I do have my living brother's name as one of my DS' middle names though (but it's also a family name on DH's side).

@Disfordarkchocolate I'm so glad I posted because it seems such an obvious thing but wasn't something I'd really thought about until another PP and yourself mentioned it, so Thank you.

@EmmaStone that's really useful, Thank you.

My DD's middle name is the name of my long deceased mother. It makes me feel as though DM is still a central member of my family, even though she is never mentioned by DF.
It helps that it's a beautiful, timeless name.
But yes, mention it to your parents in advance.

One of our dc has my sister who passed aways name as their middle name. I cant see an issue with it

My middle name is that of my Mum’s sister who died not long before I was born. I’ve always liked having that connection to her. I think it’s a lovely idea.

I think it’s lovely - we did this and because a second name isn’t used very often it doesn’t wear out the connection if you see what I mean.
I think as long as the child is not given a sense they are there to replace or make up for someone by being given that name (which they wouldn’t as a nephew) then it’s nice.