To give baby middle name of deceased sibling?

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Just that really, what are your thoughts on giving my baby the middle name of my deceased sibling?

I feel like it's ok, but I'd like to hear other opinions to ensure I'm not just being a bit blinkered and in case I've not considered an implication somewhere.

Thanks

Absolutely fine. I think it's lovely actually! 💕 pretty normal thing to do. Many people are named after relatives who have passed on!

My daughter has my sister’s name as a middle name. She died a year and a half before she was born. I can’t imagine why it wouldn’t be a normal thing to do. Many children have names of relatives who have died.

I think if it's their Uncle's name as their middle name it's a lovely tribute

I was given the first name of a cousin who died aged 10. I was born 5 months later and my Dm said she was asked to call me that by her brother which I can't understand. As we had a large family and they had all lost a niece I would have preferred to have been called anything else.
As a middle name it would have been fine but I always hated having to carry the name.

I think it’s lovely. I’d double check with your others but I imagine they wouldn’t object.

But then I also call my rainbow baby my rainbow baby from time to time. I hope I’m not going to cause deep personal issues by doing so 😂

What are you on about? Did you actually read the post?

OP. I think it's a lovely idea.

My daughters middle name is the name of my younger sister who passed away as a baby. It’s a beautiful name and it felt right to carry it on somehow. I did check with my parents first though.

My child has my dead siblings names as their middle names so I've gone YANBU. I toyed with it as a first name but that didn't feel right to me, my baby needed their own name

I think it’s a lovely idea.

My ds has my deceased brothers name as his middle name. I did ask my mum how she felt about and she thought it was lovely. I wouldn't name him as the first name but middle is fine. I thought he obviously would never get to meet his uncle but that it was a nice way to connect them

My gd has the middle name of a deceased sibling and so has her baby cousin. It goes beautifully with both unusual first names and is a lovely fitting tribute that links the girls.

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What are you on about? Did you actually read the post?

OP. I think it's a lovely idea.

Referring to a couple of replies in to the thread.

I agree with the poster who said it's fine as long as the grief has been dealt with.

I wouldn't have thought twice about it myself, as having a grandparent's middle name was quite common growing up, and grandparents mostly die when they are old, it's a different sort of grief etc.

Then I met DH. He lost a young family member to suicide, and when DH's siblings and cousins started having babies, this relative' s name was used again and again. They have absolutely not dealt with their grief, it is still raw and always will be. Children are constantly compared to the deceased relative. It feels very unhealthy, especially as the children grow up and are now reaching their teens. When our children were born I asked DH did he want to use the name, and he said absolutely not, and as time goes on I'm very glad of that

Both of my dc have middle names of deceased great grandparents (both mine and DH's grandparents). In my family that is normal and most of us have middle names honouring someone either dead or alive at birth.

I think the issue is whether, when the child is a teen, their own name will make them feel like a ‘replacement’ / be a permanent reminder of tragedy when it should just be a name.

I wouldn’t. Give their own unique name with no emotional baggage.

It's a lovely thing to do