To give baby middle name of deceased sibling?

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Just that really, what are your thoughts on giving my baby the middle name of my deceased sibling?

I feel like it's ok, but I'd like to hear other opinions to ensure I'm not just being a bit blinkered and in case I've not considered an implication somewhere.

Thanks

If my DGS had been a girl, his middle name would have been his dad's dead aunts first name.

@EmeraldShamrock yes.
Wedding = happiness and life moving forward.
Talk of my brother = memories of a very bleak couple of years in all our lives.

My first name is my mum's deceased sibling, and my second name is my dad's deceased first wife's name. Both died 9 years before I was born. I absolutely love my name!

My daughter's middle name is the feminised version of her father's baby brother, who died soon after birth.

It was our joint decision, however both of his parents walked away from my husband when he was a toddler leaving elderly distant relatives to bring him up and have had very little to do with him or us since. We have seen them both (separately) once in the last 30 years.

I don't give a shit what either of them think, we did this for my husband and the brother he never knew..

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Thank you, I should've been clear, it's MY sibling they'd have their middle name after, so it would be their Uncles name as their middle name, I've perhaps not worded my post very well, will try and edit.[/quote]
You were perfectly clear, previous poster didn’t read properly.

It is a nice tribute to your sibling and nothing unusual either.

I think middle names are far less burdensome than first names. (I.e. giving a baby someone else’s first name as their first name is often too much.)

Go for it.

My close friend lost her brother when he was 12 and she was 13. They were very close. Her first son now has her brother's name as his middle name. I thought that was lovely and her parents were so happy.

I see nothing wrong with it and a nice way to connect your brother and your child

How lovely to remember your brother like this. I quietly hope my kids do something like this to remember the child (their sibling) that we lost.

We named our son after DH's dad, who passed away young. I think it's fine.

I think I am out of step with how others feel, but I would never name my child as a ‘tribute to someone, or to commemorate someone.

The child doesn’t get a choice. It is someone they never met. They are their own person, not a park bench,

My middle name is the same as my mum's little sister who died as a baby. I have never thought it was morbid or a burden or anything like that. I see it as a family name and that is normal for middle names, isn't it? I guess it helps that it is a fairly common name for the time/culture.

If I have another son I want his middle name to be my dad's name, who sadly died when I was in my early 20s.

I think it would be a lovely gesture

It’s a very common practise, more so in the past I think. All my children have the names of deceased family members. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to check and ask permission as it’s a sign of respect in my family and had been done for generations, no one would ever take offence I don’t think I’d know anyone who would get upset and a parent choosing to name their child after someone who was important to them.

I think it's lovely. DS1 is named after his late uncle, and nobody in any branch of the family has been anything but pleased with the tribute.

My cousin named her child after her slightly older sister who died. Cousin who died was the most beautiful looking child who died at 4 from a very rare disorder. I remember her as I was about 8.

Should have added that no one in the family had a problem with it and there were a lot of them. I think she asked her mum and dad first.

I think it’s a lovely way to keep the name in the family.

Totally fine. In any case, many of us are named after grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, so will be named after deceased people ultimately.

Yes fine, it’s a family name

My dad died 13 yrs before our son was born and we gave him my dads name as his middle name , I love the name ( it’s very unpopular on here) and my dad would have been a fantastic grandad had he lived long enough .

As long as your parents agree I think it is nice. The only factor you might consider is how you would feel if the child doesn't like the name or wants to change it. I know it is unlikely but children or adults do change their names.

I think its a wonderful idea. My oldest two sons have middle names after family that had died (my oldests is after my uncle who died when I was pregnant, and my 2nd son's is after my grandfather). When my oldest was having his first child he told me he wanted to name the baby after his sister (my daughter who only lived 8 hours). I asked him to please not do that, it would be too hard for me. But if he wanted to use it as a middle name it would be a lovely way to remember her. So yes, check with your parents first, but usually middle names are fine.

Forgot to add, he ended up having a son so did not get to use his sister's name.

My twin brother passed away and I used his first as a middle name for my son. I always knew if I had a son I would use my twin brother’s first name as a middle name.
My son feels connected to him even though he has never met him and loves to talk about his uncle. In my opinion it is a lovely way to honour my brother and keep his memory alive.
Congratulations on your baby, I agree with others and think it’s a special way to keep your sibling a central part of the family. Im feeling emotional now!

In my culture it's the custom for the middle name to honour a deceased relative. So I think it's a lovely way to remember them :)