People complaining about ‘not’ being able to have a wedding

[JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil]

Am I the only person who’s getting a bit annoyed with all the people whining about ‘not’ being able to have a wedding?

They can get married and the limits of max 30 will go but guests have to socially distance, there will be limits on singing and you can’t have international guests.

Yes you can’t have 100 people hugging but people have always been allowed to get married throughout the pandemic.

There was a woman complaining on the press conference that she’s being prevented from moving on with her life? Another was saying not being able to get married is giving her mental health issues. How? She can still get married, it may not be the Insta wedding she expected but the legal bit can still happen. Have the party bit later.

I feel a lot more sorrow for people trying to organise funerals who can’t have all the guests they want.

SunSunSunshine

Wow.
I want. I want.

It's actually quite shocking how entitled people are.

I'd love to know how much you earn a month, and the state of your current relationship if you are so bitter about people who don't settle for a crappy life.

How mean-minded.
Too many schadenfreude fun-sponges around nowadays, glorying in others' life disappointments.

Really this is an excuse for those who love to mock people who want big weddings.

You don't get the cookie for showing off that you had/want a small wedding.

Good luck to all those waiting to have their big day as they please, may it all go well.

@khakiandcoral

SunSunSunshine

Wow.
I want. I want.

It's actually quite shocking how entitled people are.

I'd love to know how much you earn a month, and the state of your current relationship if you are so bitter about people who don't settle for a crappy life.

What's earnings and my life have anything to do with anything?

Marriage is about the union of two people and that's what the focus should be .
If you want to be a princess for a day hire a costume and have a party when the whole Covid situation has calmed down.

@khakiandcoral

There are people dying of Covid.

So? All the more reasons to celebrate with the ones who are not dead yet. You (or they) might get run over or have a stroke tomorrow for all you know.

So? Are you actually serious. So? I actually can't believe you said that.

You are utterly selfish.

@DeeCeeCherry

How mean-minded. Too many schadenfreude fun-sponges around nowadays, glorying in others' life disappointments.

Really this is an excuse for those who love to mock people who want big weddings.

You don't get the cookie for showing off that you had/want a small wedding.

Good luck to all those waiting to have their big day as they please, may it all go well.

Not at all. This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about.

Marriage is about the union of two people and that's what the focus should be .

that's what a wedding is... literally celebrating the marriage of 2 people!

If you want to be a princess for a day hire a costume and have a party when the whole Covid situation has calmed down.

You are confusing weddings and fancy dress parties by the sound of it.

Wanting to hide your wedding, not having a proper celebration.. isn't that weird? Were you ashamed of something?

Restrictions won't be forever. I hope everyone whose wedding has been delayed will have the one they wanted, surrounded by all the people they wanted.

And an extravagant dress if they want one! The pandemic has shown that life is too short to be miserable, make the most of it when you can.

This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about.

You don’t get to tell others what their wedding ‘should be about’.

Don’t you have friends and family that you wanted to celebrate with? What a shame.

SunSunSunshine
This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about

Alright, erm... Sunshine 👀

Bring on the extravagance for those who want and will enjoy it all🥂

I agree. Just get married and have a big party when restrictions allow. It's all a lot of fuss over nothing.

If you want to be a princess for a day hire a costume and have a party when the whole Covid situation has calmed down.

I would absolutely love to see the look on your face when you get this invitation (though it doesn't sound as though you get many invitations). Something tells me that far from applauding the selflessness and sincerity of the party giver, you'd be lemon juicing and cat's bumming even more than you're doing now.

This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about

I’d be calling it off if a partner wanted the whole big day so delayed it rather than just taking their vows with me.

@khakiandcoral

Marriage is about the union of two people and that's what the focus should be .

that's what a wedding is... literally celebrating the marriage of 2 people!

If you want to be a princess for a day hire a costume and have a party when the whole Covid situation has calmed down.

You are confusing weddings and fancy dress parties by the sound of it.

Wanting to hide your wedding, not having a proper celebration.. isn't that weird? Were you ashamed of something?

Ashamed of what?

@TheKeatingFive

This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about.

You don’t get to tell others what their wedding ‘should be about’.

Don’t you have friends and family that you wanted to celebrate with? What a shame.

Of course but I also understand that we are in the middle of a pandemic. So what 'I want' isn't necessary what I can have.

@DrSbaitso

If you want to be a princess for a day hire a costume and have a party when the whole Covid situation has calmed down.

I would absolutely love to see the look on your face when you get this invitation (though it doesn't sound as though you get many invitations). Something tells me that far from applauding the selflessness and sincerity of the party giver, you'd be lemon juicing and cat's bumming even more than you're doing now.

I'd love going to princess type weddings and small Weddings. However in the middle of a pandemic I think there are more important things to worry about than the big wedding fanfare. Just being grateful to be marrying the person you love is what I would prioritise.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

This whole Covid situation is a way of showing people who want big weddings that getting married to the person you love is what it should be about

I’d be calling it off if a partner wanted the whole big day so delayed it rather than just taking their vows with me.

Absolutely agree. I think Covid has highlighted who wants a wedding/marriage for the right reasons rather than a big party and wedding extra's.

absolutely fed up to the eyeballs with the tag line mental health issues for everything that just doesn't line up with plans it really is a most irritating & a useless thing to say it's done to death now

So what 'I want' isn't necessary what I can have.

And all the posters on here understand that.

However they’re disappointed. That’s a perfectly normal human reaction and if you had a scrap of empathy you’d get that.

I'd love going to princess type weddings

Yeah, that's why you're disparaging women who are upset at having their plans wrecked as wanting to be "princess for a day". Tip: if you want people to think you love something, don't use it as an insult.

However in the middle of a pandemic I think there are more important things to worry about than the big wedding fanfare.

People realise this. They're just sad about it. You lot are so disingenuous.

@DrSbaitso

I'd love going to princess type weddings

Yeah, that's why you're disparaging women who are upset at having their plans wrecked as wanting to be "princess for a day". Tip: if you want people to think you love something, don't use it as an insult.

However in the middle of a pandemic I think there are more important things to worry about than the big wedding fanfare.

People realise this. They're just sad about it. You lot are so disingenuous.

Seriously get over yourself. Just be bloody grateful you are healthy enough to get married to the person you love. Jeez have a party when this all over.

This mentality of I wanted this and that.
Everyone has struggled during this pandemic. Some more than others - their loved ones have died!

So you can't have your big wedding. Get over it. You are alive and survived the pandemic. Be happy and grateful rather than concentrating on the disappointment of what you can't have!!!!!

Agree with the OP. If we were engaged now, we'd have done a church wedding with 30 people and then had the party later. In fact, we went to a recent wedding of a close family member who did that and it was just wonderful. They're hoping for a massive party in November.

I don't really understand people who'll have ended up postponing their wedding for two years so they can have the 'perfect' big wedding.

Get over it. You are alive and survived the pandemic.

So you personally experienced no human needs or desires since March 2020 beyond the desire to stay alive? Correct?

@SunSunSunshine

Jesus have some empathy.

You don't get to say what impacts people's mental health. You don't get to say whether people get to be upset about not being able to share their wedding day with their friends and family.

We don't need to engage in a race to misery fucking central. The pandemic has been shit for all sorts of reasons, you don't need to engage in some fucking weirldy morbid ranking of what it is acceptable to be upset about missing out on.

I think Covid has highlighted who wants a wedding/marriage for the right reasons rather than a big party and wedding extra's.

I was over the moon once my husband and I managed to get married after postponing twice (due to weddings being completely banned) and our tiny, bare-bones Covid wedding was ‘enough’ for us, in the sense that all we really wanted at the end of it all was to be married. We are happy and grateful to have each other and to have survived all this. We know not everyone has been so lucky.

That doesn’t change the fact that I will always feel a little sad that we didn’t get to have the wedding we planned. That we didn’t get to bring together the 100 or so people we love most in the world, for the one and only time those people would probably ever have all been in the same room together.

One of the things I was most looking forward to about our wedding, and my hen (which also didn’t happen) was having my family meet friends of mine that they’ve heard about for years. Have my new friends meet my old friends. Introducing people I love who I know would get on like a house on fire. I loved doing our table plan and thinking about how I knew so-and-so would absolutely love so-and-so. Now some of those people will probably never meet, and that’s not important, but it will always make me feel a little disappointed.

Yes, everyone says ‘have a big party when this is all over’ but really? How many of you would want to do that? Maybe I’ll change my mind but I really can’t see how two or so years after our actual wedding, we’re going to feel like putting on a big party to celebrate it at last. We’ll have moved on with our lives and so will everyone else, and honestly I think I’d just feel a little silly.

How many Mumsnet threads are we going to see in 2 years time about CF couples who had their ‘real’ weddings during Covid but now want everyone to spend money coming to a party/vow renewal/fake wedding? My money’s on… a few!

Mumsnet (and the internet in general) can be so binary about these things. On this thread, either you love your partner and only care about being alive and married, or you’re a bridezilla who only cares about having a flashy princess party for Instagram clout. In reality, those of us whose weddings have been affected by Covid are both very grateful to have survived and be married in the end, while ALSO being sad that things didn’t work out the way we might have liked. And in the real world, that’s a completely fine and normal way to feel.

[quote UrAWizHarry]@SunSunSunshine

Jesus have some empathy.

You don't get to say what impacts people's mental health. You don't get to say whether people get to be upset about not being able to share their wedding day with their friends and family.

We don't need to engage in a race to misery fucking central. The pandemic has been shit for all sorts of reasons, you don't need to engage in some fucking weirldy morbid ranking of what it is acceptable to be upset about missing out on.[/quote]
Empathy within reason.

I have a huge amount of empathy for the thousands of families that have suffered due to losing loved ones.

I have a very tiny amount of empathy for people who can still get married but are not happy unless they can have the party that goes with it.

Get some perspective!