How often do you see your PIL?

[pilprobs]

Would it bother you if your in laws wanted to visit most weekends?

Pre kids we hardly saw them, since we've had children we can't get rid!

It bothers me but DH response is 'I can't say no, can I'

Yes you bloody can! We get two days a week as a family, I don't want his parents here all of the time!

For context we don't see my parents as much, they live in another country. So maybe I'm being a bitch because I'm a bit jealous... but even if we could, I wouldn't want to spend every weekend together!

YABU - let them come
YANBU - you need to push back

If you just treat them like family and don’t look after them as such, they will either be absolutely fine with that, or hate it and stop coming over so much. Either way, problem solved!

For those who mentioned continuing with housework when they come over, I just feel this would come across as rude.

What @Triffid1 and @nokidshere have said

and what @Holly60 said.

We do a mixture, sometimes we stop what we're doing, sit down and have a drink, other times I'll be doing something, and like my mum, mil will give me a hand with whatever. Also in laws and dps have a door key so can pop in if they need to, they usually ring the bell anyway.

We live by the rule in our house that dh and I will sort first drinks etc, but after that they sort themselves out...

Absolutely would NEVER see them every week. They are lovely but we like our own time. If we lived close then once a fortnight would be fine. Living further away, a few nights stay every 3 months or so is what we do.
Lots of messaging in the meantime, but I'm not one to live in parents pockets and I do believe you need to set boundaries.....and you CAN say no.