#whataboutweddings

[Workyticket]

Thousands of people are gathering for the Euros and at Edgebasten.

Pissed people hugging and dancing in pubs when someone scores

Boris and his pals flying in from Amber countries had a lovely garden party.

BUT weddings are super spreaders apparently and it's looking like we'll miss out on having friends and family at our OUTDOOR wedding by 3 days if pushback rumours are true.

250,000 couples are waiting for tomorrow's announcement. Could these businesses are facing closure..

#whataboutweddings

I'm focused on weddings simply because I've booked and paid for one.

I also think funeral restrictions should be lifted but threads tend to be written based on what the op is doing at the time of posting

I feel for you OP. My wedding was almost 4 years ago and wouldn’t have been the day we were looking forward to if we couldn’t have our cousins, aunties, uncles and friends there, they’re important to us and we wanted to share it with them. It had nothing to do with wanting a party, but really… so what if people do want a wedding and a party?! Nothing to be ashamed of being sad about missing out on.

I really hope that however your wedding pans out for you, you’ll love it. All the best to you.

@elenacampana

I feel for you OP. My wedding was almost 4 years ago and wouldn’t have been the day we were looking forward to if we couldn’t have our cousins, aunties, uncles and friends there, they’re important to us and we wanted to share it with them. It had nothing to do with wanting a party, but really… so what if people do want a wedding and a party?! Nothing to be ashamed of being sad about missing out on.

I really hope that however your wedding pans out for you, you’ll love it. All the best to you.

Thank you @elenacampana

I shouldn't really have posted today because I'm not really in the best of places about this. I've spent weeks chewing about the money we'll lose and the money / annual leave our guests will have waited.

I'm really down today and that's sp not like me.

@Workyticket

If only it were that easy.

I'm 42, dp is 50. We both have brothers - a few each.

Can you really not see there'd be a fall out if we got married and didn't invite our siblings?

I'm not trying to be confrontational. We have normal families - we see them. No fall outs etc but no way can normal people marry and not invite their siblings

Nope. I don't understand grown adults 'falling out' with a sibling or family member because he/she didn't get married the way the sibling wants. Plenty of 'normal' people elope or have a very small wedding. I'd put my sibling's desire to have the commitment of marriage they wanted and the legal protection of marriage above my own selfish need to bloody be there for the sake a party.

I feel your frustration. We got married Monday but were only allowed 6 guests (the photographer had to be one of the guests) it's not how we wanted to do it but after postponing twice already this year we just wanted to be legally married.

We're lucky we were able to do it and plan on having a big ceremony next year or the year after.

It's horrible for those with weddings coming up who won't know what's happening until tomorrow.

My husband's father recently spent three weeks in intensive care on the brink of death (not covid) and no one could visit him or advocate for him in hospital when he was terrified and confused.

My friend's father died last year and they could only have four people at his funeral. He died alone in hospital.

Forgive me for not being moved by your tragic tale of 'only' having 30 guests to your ££££ wedding.

A couple of my cousins are in the same boat. One should have been June last year and was moved to June this year. The other is now July but has been moved three times. They want their wider friends and families there so don’t want a scaled down small wedding and that’s fine, they’re happy to pay for it and want to include more than 30 people. It’s been very stressful for them. I’ve got nothing but sympathy for people whose weddings are affected.

And for anyone who decides to bang on about funerals - we all lost our beautiful granddad to Covid earlier in the year and had to have a Covid friendly funeral for him. Everyone has been looking forward to these weddings as they’re a chance to experience joy again as the last time we were all together, we were socially distanced and saying a painful goodbye.

That's a very odd way of looking at it

"My selfish need to be there for a party" versus "my desire to see the sibling I love get married to the bloke who's been part of our family for years"

But my pals feel the same. I've known my best friend and her husband since I was 16. They love dp and want to see us get married. Their kids are excited dor the wedding and want to be bridesmaids. The older one has tried her dress on a dozen times and has shown all her friends.

@LeopardHawk - My granddad passed with Covid in hospital in January without his wife of 75 years by his side whilst in the full throes of dementia. This is something my nana is still struggling to deal with and it’s painful.

Doesn’t mean I can’t feel for people who still don’t know what kind of wedding they’ll have in the next couple of weeks.

@LeopardHawk

My husband's father recently spent three weeks in intensive care on the brink of death (not covid) and no one could visit him or advocate for him in hospital when he was terrified and confused.

My friend's father died last year and they could only have four people at his funeral. He died alone in hospital.

Forgive me for not being moved by your tragic tale of 'only' having 30 guests to your ££££ wedding.

so nobody can wish for anything nice ever again? Bizarre.

I'm laughing at your bitchy reference to what we're spending. Probably £6k total.

@elenacampana sorry for your loss. You're entitled to your opinion as I am entitled to mine.

Maybe they have number crunched certain other factors like people are more likely to pull an elderly relative out of a care home to attend a wedding than a sports fixture? I don’t think they are doing it as a pure fuck you to people getting married.

I mean I wouldn’t really mind if they kept events shut as I tend to watch sport on TV anyway when I do follow it.

Also logistically you go to a sports fixture and travel (same as a wedding), maybe buy snacks, go to the bathroom but you’re pretty much sat in the same place for the duration then go home, you might infect or get infected by someone in your immediate vicinity, but at a wedding (and even a funeral!), I could see one person managing to infect pretty much everyone there in one go thanks to the mingling.

I do echo your frustration at the political classes, I am reminded of the Queen and how desperately sad that famous image of her sat alone at Phillip’s funeral, I’m no royalist but I have to hand it to her she showed real leadership there at a time of great personal tragedy. I “feel” she was there with us somehow throughout all this in a way our politicians have quite frankly failed utterly at.

@Workyticket

I'm laughing at your bitchy reference to what we're spending. Probably £6k total.

It's literally a direct quote from your own post in this thread. You referred to yourself as spending ££££.

Sorry that you find your own words 'bitchy' and laughable. How odd.

@bloodywhitecat

Covid took the wedding we wanted but ultimately, very soon, cancer will take DH's life. Covid took his rapid diagnosis and it is still taking his right to good treatment. I am angry about a lot more than just weddings.

I hear you x

Your attitude to all of those who have shared stories of pain and loss in this thread is revolting, by the way.

[quote LeopardHawk]@Workyticket

I'm laughing at your bitchy reference to what we're spending. Probably £6k total.

It's literally a direct quote from your own post in this thread. You referred to yourself as spending ££££.

Sorry that you find your own words 'bitchy' and laughable. How odd.[/quote]
Haha - it's 4 pound signs. Could literally have referred to a grand.

People spend money on weddings. People plan weddings in advance - it's not unusual.

Do you know what? I apologise it’s probably not overly helpful me playing Devil’s advocate here. I’m sorry you are caught up in all of this. It must be very disappointing. I fully sympathise and sorry if I caused any frustration.

@LeopardHawk

Your attitude to all of those who have shared stories of pain and loss in this thread is revolting, by the way.

I don’t doubt that you're imagining me as a monster. It really is just your imagination though.

I'm not going to respond to you any more.

Haha - it's 4 pound signs. Could literally have referred to a grand.

And what I put in my post was... four pound signs. I literally just repeated what you wrote with no further additions. Very, very strange that you somehow manage to read something different into it.

Look it’s possible to feel empathy for both the OP’s disappointment over not being able to have the wedding she wants, and anyone who has suffered a bereavement thanks to covid.

A bereavement is manifestly worse ofc but I don’t think it is impossible to reserve empathy for both.

@Dervel - common sense at last.

@Dervel But OP's not shown any empathy for anyone. She has dismissed and mocked everyone who has shared their often very distressing experiences.

@LeopardHawk funny that none of the OPs posts have been deleted, but yours have.

Leave the OP alone and find a different way to vent. You’re coming across as a bully.

@LeopardHawk

My husband's father recently spent three weeks in intensive care on the brink of death (not covid) and no one could visit him or advocate for him in hospital when he was terrified and confused.

My friend's father died last year and they could only have four people at his funeral. He died alone in hospital.

Forgive me for not being moved by your tragic tale of 'only' having 30 guests to your ££££ wedding.

It's not upset top trumps. I'm sorry for your loss but she's allowed to be disappointed for fuck sake.

I bet everyone saying "it's not about the party" had the fucking party as well.