#whataboutweddings

[Workyticket]

Thousands of people are gathering for the Euros and at Edgebasten.

Pissed people hugging and dancing in pubs when someone scores

Boris and his pals flying in from Amber countries had a lovely garden party.

BUT weddings are super spreaders apparently and it's looking like we'll miss out on having friends and family at our OUTDOOR wedding by 3 days if pushback rumours are true.

250,000 couples are waiting for tomorrow's announcement. Could these businesses are facing closure..

#whataboutweddings

@OttilieKnackered

Well tbf it is more important to lots of people…

I don't think it's about football or weddings being more important, it's about the lack of parity between the sectors. It's our wedding in less than 3 weeks now and I'm so nervous for tomorrow

@Dervel

It’s tough all round, maybe we shouldn’t be having sports event with mass gatherings either. I do think booking weddings right on the line after a hopeful but not guaranteed lockdown end date without contingencies in place is somewhat unwise. Same with the unfortunate souls stuck in the Portugal holiday scenarios.

I’m not without sympathy it must be a huge disappointment, but when you roll the dice sometimes it comes up snake eyes. If I’d been in the situation where having a wedding now was crucial and time sensitive for whatever reason, I’d have to make provision for making it a somewhat muted affair if needs list with perhaps a blow out anniversary celebration the following year at a first anniversary.

Sad to say these are interesting times.

Lots of people will have booked weddings a long time ago - ours is 3rd July but we booked in early 2019 when we couldn't have known that COVID was even going to happen let alone potential lockdown dates

@Tealightsandd

Sport is full of men and big businesses.

Women play sport too. Including football.

And some men work in the wedding sector too.

But sport is male dominated and weddings are female dominated.

Exactly this.

I'm usually very laid back. I threw up after my lunch today - it's the anxiety I'm sure.

The money we've spent, the money guests have spent, the time off they've booked, the businesses waiting for more payments from us..

I'm a gcse teacher. Bloody stressful most of the time - more so last year and this year. I've never felt anxiety like this though

I'm not even allowed to accompany my 4yo into the playground of the school he's starting in august when he goes to meet his teacher for the first time.
Bonkers.

@Dervel

It’s tough all round, maybe we shouldn’t be having sports event with mass gatherings either. I do think booking weddings right on the line after a hopeful but not guaranteed lockdown end date without contingencies in place is somewhat unwise. Same with the unfortunate souls stuck in the Portugal holiday scenarios.

I’m not without sympathy it must be a huge disappointment, but when you roll the dice sometimes it comes up snake eyes. If I’d been in the situation where having a wedding now was crucial and time sensitive for whatever reason, I’d have to make provision for making it a somewhat muted affair if needs list with perhaps a blow out anniversary celebration the following year at a first anniversary.

Sad to say these are interesting times.

It's not unwise, booking and arranging a wedding isn't a last minute thing. Most people with weddings shortly after 21st June would have booked them some time ago. My wedding is in July, having been postponed 4 times due to covid. We made the original booking in spring 2019 when. Covid wasn't even a thing.

I also have my wedding in just under 4 weeks, it was originally booked in 2019 for June 2020 and re-arranged to this summer. We have decided we will go ahead even with 30 people as I can't cope with the stress of re-arranging again, but I will be absolutely gutted as 30 really is such a restricted number of guests, it will only be our closest family there. Our venue is big enough to allow for social distancing and people to be sat in groups of six/within their own families etc, I would be happy for everyone to test before hand as well. I really feel they could allow more people to attend with measures in place to make it covid safe. Dreading tomorrow's announcement :(

We'll go ahead too @Glueberries

Not a day I'll look forward to though - 30 will be just family. No bridesmaids or anything. I've bought 5 dresses. Paid for 5 hair do's.

No fun really as the people we have to invite take all the numbers but aren't people we'd choose to socialise with.

Parents, 1 remaining grandparent, siblings and their partners + 1 friend each. Great.

In that case don't bother. 20 mins registry office job , party another time.

@murbblurb

In that case don't bother. 20 mins registry office job , party another time.

It's all booked. Most of it paid for.

I had to beg for a 10 minute appointment to give notice (and pay again) for a second time. No chance of getting an appointment for a registry office wedding

It really isn't that easy. Totally outing up It's an outdoor wedding.

In a bloody barn. Really relaxed and laid back but we've paid for a dj, hair and make up lady, dresses, suits, registrar, half of the food and drink bill, half of a marquee bill... and fuxk knows what else.

If it's ileagal then the companies will have to let you postpone it again. Then you can do the registry office thing and have a celebration later ?

@DeathByWalkies- the wedding industry has many male photographers, entertainers/musicians, florists, celebrants, chef/caterers etc. I’d say it was a pretty even split.

I don't agree with any more restrictions even though I don't like big weddings. YANBU.

Being married is what's important; really don't get putting off being married for 2 years because of a bloody wedding.

Five bridesmaids, it doesn't sound very relaxed.

@traumatisednoodle

If it's ileagal then the companies will have to let you postpone it again. Then you can do the registry office thing and have a celebration later ?

Theyre not illegal. Restricted. No registry appointments so it's not that easy

@osbertthesyrianhamster

I don't agree with any more restrictions even though I don't like big weddings. YANBU.

Being married is what's important; really don't get putting off being married for 2 years because of a bloody wedding.

because it's mostly paid for. I don't get what you dont get!

Most of us booked pre covid.

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Five bridesmaids, it doesn't sound very relaxed.

How come? They'd have been guests anyway. I wanted 1 - my best friend. She has 2 daughters so that's 3

1 niece was desperate to be one as she's never had chance. But I have 2 nieces so...

It's on a working farm in the country side. It smells of sheep shit and chickens - a bbq and brewed beer.

Pretty laid back

I did see people pointing out it might be sensible not to book holidays and weddings for this summer given the pandemic is still going and they were all told they were doom mongers and all the rest of it. It must be so disappointing but realistically it was never guaranteed that the wedding would be able to go ahead. You'd be better putting it off until next year because word has it the pandemic will be raging again during late summer/autumn.

there's no guarantee it would go ahead next year either..
We've already put it off a year (original date was last july)

I just don't see why we should when our Leaders are necking pints at a bbq, literally hundreds of people in my local pubs singing and dancing.

Where's the parity?

@Workyticket

We'll go ahead too *@Glueberries*

Not a day I'll look forward to though - 30 will be just family. No bridesmaids or anything. I've bought 5 dresses. Paid for 5 hair do's.

No fun really as the people we have to invite take all the numbers but aren't people we'd choose to socialise with.

Parents, 1 remaining grandparent, siblings and their partners + 1 friend each. Great.

People you have to invite? There isn’t a law. Have 30 people you want, including your bridesmaids. Your family may be big but you didn’t choose them to be bridesmaids, so I assume you aren’t close (would be odd if all your family were male). Have the people you want.

If only it were that easy.

I'm 42, dp is 50. We both have brothers - a few each.

Can you really not see there'd be a fall out if we got married and didn't invite our siblings?

I'm not trying to be confrontational. We have normal families - we see them. No fall outs etc but no way can normal people marry and not invite their siblings

We have something like 650 MPs and there are some 300,000 weddings in the (UK) yearly. There isn’t parity as the scales involved are night and day. We could have had an MP BBQ every weekend of the pandemic and wouldn’t have anything close to the impact of allowing all Marriages to go ahead.

You have a point symbolically it would be nice to see our political leadership actually willing to lead by example, but to be honest the political class (of any political stripe) en masse haven’t exactly covered themselves in glory here throughout the pandemic, and they are hardly likely to start now…

@Dervel

We have something like 650 MPs and there are some 300,000 weddings in the (UK) yearly. There isn’t parity as the scales involved are night and day. We could have had an MP BBQ every weekend of the pandemic and wouldn’t have anything close to the impact of allowing all Marriages to go ahead.

You have a point symbolically it would be nice to see our political leadership actually willing to lead by example, but to be honest the political class (of any political stripe) en masse haven’t exactly covered themselves in glory here throughout the pandemic, and they are hardly likely to start now…

It's not just about MPs though is it?

Hundreds bouncing about to the footy in bars up and down the country - literally all over Twitter etc

@osbertthesyrianhamster

I don't agree with any more restrictions even though I don't like big weddings. YANBU.

Being married is what's important; really don't get putting off being married for 2 years because of a bloody wedding.

Nor me re delaying / putting it off.I’d be rethinking my choices if a partner wanted to delay for the sake of a party rather than make their vows to me.

If they don’t lift restrictions people will still be able to get married, it’s not banned.

@LouNatics

What about funerals?

Ive buried three family members over the covid restrictive period. None were able to have the type of service they would have wanted or expected. One was young sadly and sudden, some ceremony around her death would really, really have helped us and her children. We have been sat here unable to get together with grieving relatives or even give a bereaved parent a hug.

Funerals are things you definitely only get once, and cannot be planned for certain seasons, postponed or done another day. Weddings, barring the legal part, are far less important.

So why focus on weddings?

I agree with this. I would prioritise funerals over weddings