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[NotAnotherMistake]

Fully prepared for the truth. Not to drip feed. I work in a school. Get on well with a woman, share same lunches and talk about our kids, known each other 3 years.
Class year 4 there’s a child who is 5’ 2”, woman on them is same height, I hadn’t seen child for a while and I said to her “oh (child) is as tall as you, isn’t that a little embarrassing “

I immediately regretted, we do banter sometimes but not much... she replied “no, I’m just small”

I went to her after work and said I was really sorry for what I said that I didn’t mean to take the piss, I don’t know why I said it, i wasn’t thinking

Her reply was “you were rude, you an adult , I expect that sort of comment form a 10 year old. I said I was really sorry again, she repeated what she said.
I fell so stupid, I’m just a happy person and I like people to smile and i do just get carried away FWIW I’m not 10 I am almost 50!!!

Would this piss you off?

Yes, you were rude. And yes, that would piss me off, and I'm not generally sensitive about my height, but I do get sick of people feeling the need to comment. Just as I would if they commented on my weight. It's unnecessary.

I would be pissed off if I had a hang up about my height and that sounds like she does.
I don’t have a hang up about my 5ft 10 height so if you said there same I wouldn’t care. But the ‘isn’t that a little embarrassing’ addition would piss me off because that isn’t very nice

It was rude but you also owned it and acknowledged to her; I’d forgive a comment like that if someone apologised like you did however I am not particularly easily offended

Yes it would piss me off and I'm generally the first person to acknowledge just how short I am (sub five foot) and take the piss out of myself but that was rude.

I often tell my 7 yo he will be taller than me by next week but I never refer to it as embarrassing.

You were tactless (as we all are sometimes) and she let you know it.
You've apologised and it's time to let it go. Don't go apologising again - it won't help.

I would have laughed. I'm 5' 1" and used to work in a school! But then I'm not sensitive about my height like some people

I wouldn't find it rude personally. I'm not short 5'8 but my 15yr old is now taller than Me & towers above my mum. We joke about it all the time.

You were really rude.

Yes what you said was strange and childish. You've done all you can now, well done for apologising. You'll just need to move on now and try and be nice to her, hopefully she'll forget about it soon

I think it was the bit where you called it embarrassing that was rude: why should she be embarrassed about her height?

Yeah, it was rude of you. Your comment also doesn't make sense: why would she be embarrassed about being slightly belpw average height? (average is 5'3-5'4)
Or were you making fun of the child, saying the child should feel embarrassed? Either way it's weird. Trying to induce feelings of embarrassment in others isn't a "fun" or "happy" person thing to do, it's a snide thing to do. You may need to adjust your self perception, or your behaviour, if you think you're "just a happy person" who wants "to make people smile" (retch).

You actually said, isn't that embarrassing, to her?!?

On something she can't control??

Wtf

I’m not small (the opposite) but I think she was right, you were very rude and she was assertion telling you so.

She didn't need to be so horrible back, after all you could have just carried on and brazened it out rather than apologise as plenty of people do when they say regrettable things. I guess from her POV your apology indicated you were open to discussing it.

It was pretty tactless and yeah I'd probably be a bit miffed at that comment. But we've all said things without thinking. You've apologised and there's not much more you can do.

Assertive

Yes you were very rude. I'm also 5'2 and have had comments about my height. People just need to realise it isn't funny.

I'm not sensitive about my height (it's been quite advantageous to me, many a time!), but I have had my share of twats who think they are ooooh so funny, and it's just bant's, and a bit of a laugh, and go on luv, smile, can't you take a joke?!

By the time you're 49, you've heard 'em all before, really. . .

I wouldn't find it rude at all. I'd laugh! I'm 5'2, I don't understand why women would get offended at being shorter? Most women prefer/like it, it's taller women that seem to find height comments offensive.

Oh dear... very tactless of you but you apologised and she should have accepted your apology.
There are times when our mouths run away with us.

Saying 'he's the same height as you' isn't rude. To say it's embarrassing is rude, in my opinion, as its not like she can help it and shouldn't have to feel embarrassed about her height. It was a childish comment.

@1Morewineplease

Oh dear... very tactless of you but you apologised and she should have accepted your apology. There are times when our mouths run away with us.

She shouldn't have to accept an apology...

I don’t think what you said was all that rude (although she did so you’re right to take it seriously) and I think it’s good that you apologised. I suppose it’s a lesson for you to be careful with throwaway comments, particularly about appearance and certainly around your colleague.

You hit on a sore spot. The truth is it must add a challenging element to teaching a kid who is as tall/taller than you.

Good on you for apologising, it was a joke that went wrong. Give her time to come up for air.

It was a bad joke but you apologised unreservedly so I would let it go (if it was said to me).