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To say that I have finally experienced the dreaded arse daggers?!

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Confrontayshunme · 08/06/2021 20:02

You tried to warn me, MN, but in all my nearly 40 years, I have never felt anything like it. To quote Supt. Hastings "Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the wee donkey!"

Was trying to supervise 20 children and thought I would scream or fall down and actually writhe on the floor. I did feel like I was being stabbed, so at least the name is right.

Honestly, I almost asked a coworker to cover for me, but I thought she would laugh if I said I was dying and my bum hurt.

Then, 10 of the longest minutes of my life later and they just stopped. What the hell?! Will they come back every time I have a period? Why now at almost 40?

I have so many questions and the internet is not helping.

Give me your worst arse dagger stories...

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UsernameNotAvailableApparently · 08/06/2021 22:25

I didn’t know this was a thing!

I had it when I was going through an ectopic (didn’t know it was an ectopic at the time) and nearly collapsed with the pain.

I hope they never come back but now I don’t have much hope Shock

prettyvisitor · 08/06/2021 22:30
  • hitsvilleuk Proctalgia fugax

Ventolin inhaler - 2 puffs and it's gone ( you don't squirt it up your arse)*

Doesn't work for me....

leaw100 · 08/06/2021 22:31

Yep, me too. Maybe twice monthly, usually on my period. I cross my legs and tense and eventually it passes. I’ve had three kids but this is a pain like no other. Recently had Mirena so wondering if that will help? I hear all you sufferers of Javelin Arse... sounds like a much less glamorous Olympic sport! X

Rupertpenrysmistress · 08/06/2021 22:31

Ah this thread has had me in stitches. You have all described it so well. It literally is like being stabbed up the arse with a javlin, it makes me stand up so straight and do a weird shuffle to try to get away from it. I have never had a pain like it.

lljkk · 08/06/2021 22:32

if it's an actual medical thing, what is the medical name for it?

YetAnotherSpartacus · 08/06/2021 22:32

I’ve always wondered where the expression ‘pain in the arse’ to describe an intensely annoying person comes from. It just seemed so random. Now I know.

minty133 · 08/06/2021 22:33

Oh I thought you meant piles, they're like daggers up the arse too

Shelby1981 · 08/06/2021 22:33

They're horrible! I sometimes get them when I'm ovulating, weirdly always in the middle of the night. Only thing I've found that helps is sit on the loo and relax through it (think of the scene in Harry Potter with the devils snare!) - which is easier said than done!

I've very recently had a miscarriage and along with the awful cramps had terrible javelin arse too Sad

ferretface · 08/06/2021 22:34

Wow I've had this, always thought it was linked to the upset stomach I seem to get in the first few days of my period. A sudden sharp muscle cramp/spasm sensation - javelin arse describes it perfectly! Happy to hear I'm not alone at least!

ConstanceMarkievicz · 08/06/2021 22:34

I get a pain in my ribs but not in my arse! The pain in my ribs is excruciating though. It must be one or the other!

Workinghardeveryday · 08/06/2021 22:42

Has this happened to anyone in their front bum? I was in the bath a couple of years ago and I got the worst shooting pains up there. I got out the bath because I didn’t know what it was snd thought I might pass out from the pain. Told docs, she said they are vaginal cramps, no reason for them!!!

newmumwithquestions · 08/06/2021 22:49

You poor sods that get them for 5+ mins.
I get them during or pre my period, and am incapacitated/have been known to throw a drink down as my hands just sort of fly down and out when it happens. But it’s only a few seconds, maybe 20 max. I never knew this was a thing!

PrawnCracker1 · 08/06/2021 22:49

Yes I get this regularly when on my period. Worst pain ever. I've found it's worse when I use tampons as opposed to using sanitary towels. Not sure why. Like a previous poster said, I find I have to just 'bear down' rather than tense up, it's far worse if I do that. Still horrific pain though!

TheMawisbraw · 08/06/2021 22:50

I thought it was just me, so relieved I either have to sit on the toilet or run a shallow bath only happened a handful of times over the past few years but yes it’s intense pain

elfycat · 08/06/2021 23:03

It's something I'd have every period. If I was at home I'd just hang onto a door frame/kitchen worktop and breathe through it. If I was in at work I'd just do the breathing bit. Maybe 10-20 minutes of pain 2-3 times per period but in quick succession.

Menopause has been my friend, but it's still occasionally a thing.

I must warn my DDs that there are odd weird pains out there that some people get and others don't.

BashfulClam · 08/06/2021 23:09

I get them during the first day of my period when I move my bowel. The problem is my period bakes my bowels looser, sorry TMI. It’s like an actual cramp In my back passage that can have me gasping and sweating in pain. Luckily I’ve never had it at any other time.

TIVI · 08/06/2021 23:21

I read that sitting on your fist or a marble egg can help

TreesgoPing · 08/06/2021 23:21

Oh god, yes it's awful. It feels like being tasered up the bum and renders you completely helpless and immobile.

Gazelda · 08/06/2021 23:24

I used to have these frequently pre menopause. I also had endo, and presumed they were linked.

I've had a few episodes post meno. Mostly starting middle of the night, waking up with intense pain and sweating buckets while shivering. The only relief I get is when I'm bearing down as if I'm pooing.

Once the worst of it is over, I tend to curl up in the foetal position on the bathroom floor which is cool and soothing. After a quick nap, I'm generally right as rain.

2021mumma · 08/06/2021 23:25

Same age and they were so bad first day of period I used to have to stop in my tracks and literally scream like I was in labour. I went to docs and found out I have endometriosis and my bowel was fused to my uterus. I’ve had a laparoscopy and all is well now but if it’s happening regularly go and get it checked out as you could have similar

goingtotown · 08/06/2021 23:26

Proctaglia Fugax
It only happens to me at night awful cramp like pain in the rectum, the pain lasts about 10 minutes then it’s gone. I find sitting on the toilet relaxes the muscles.

gurglebelly · 08/06/2021 23:28

@Workinghardeveryday

Has this happened to anyone in their front bum? I was in the bath a couple of years ago and I got the worst shooting pains up there. I got out the bath because I didn’t know what it was snd thought I might pass out from the pain. Told docs, she said they are vaginal cramps, no reason for them!!!
Oh yes, they are the fanny daggers. At my worst points I get them both 😱
Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 08/06/2021 23:31

Is it normal for men to get the javelin arse too, because both me and my dh leap out of bed into the night, swearing violently when it strikes. It’s called ja in my house, or arse cramp.

MrsGface · 08/06/2021 23:33

I associate them with dehydration. I now always have a 1.5L bottle of water beside the bed in case one kicks off during the night and quickly down 2-3 glasses of water. That helps a bit.

jobsagudden · 08/06/2021 23:34

One of my friends has had this and has just been diagnosed with endometriosis. I think it's linked.