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To say that I have finally experienced the dreaded arse daggers?!

252 replies

Confrontayshunme · 08/06/2021 20:02

You tried to warn me, MN, but in all my nearly 40 years, I have never felt anything like it. To quote Supt. Hastings "Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the wee donkey!"

Was trying to supervise 20 children and thought I would scream or fall down and actually writhe on the floor. I did feel like I was being stabbed, so at least the name is right.

Honestly, I almost asked a coworker to cover for me, but I thought she would laugh if I said I was dying and my bum hurt.

Then, 10 of the longest minutes of my life later and they just stopped. What the hell?! Will they come back every time I have a period? Why now at almost 40?

I have so many questions and the internet is not helping.

Give me your worst arse dagger stories...

OP posts:
legalseagull · 08/06/2021 20:32

My entire first Labour was mainly through my arse like this. Agony. Like someone was shoving a poker up there. I was convinced i was going to poo a baby out.
I used to get it on my period. Mainly as a quick shooting pain when I sat down. Thankfully I haven't had it in years

Beautiful3 · 08/06/2021 20:33

I've had this issue only a couple of times. Its so painful. I find sitting on the toilet and trying to relax, really helps. Although its hard work trying to bend down to sit!!!

DaveDave · 08/06/2021 20:33

Oh I thought it was just me! Horrible horrible pain!

NewYearNewTwatName · 08/06/2021 20:33

Blueberry40 on a recent thread, simrone did explain what it was, but I have a memory like sieve.

hopefully they'll pop up on this thread.

FlippingFlipFlip · 08/06/2021 20:33

Please someone explain!

housework1977 · 08/06/2021 20:34

Yes! I get them literally just before my period. Horrible.

hitsvilleuk · 08/06/2021 20:34

Proctalgia fugax

Ventolin inhaler - 2 puffs and it's gone ( you don't squirt it up your arse)

Namechangedandoverwhelmed · 08/06/2021 20:34

I’m imagining it like arse-cramp, if such a thing exists??

bunburyscucumbersandwich · 08/06/2021 20:36

@Whoactuallyneedsaname

Is this a thing???? I thought it was just me 🤭
And me! But I've been getting them since I was 15.
Queenoftheashes · 08/06/2021 20:37

I think I’ve had this. I remember once getting it when I was about 13 and writhing in pain in my
Garden. I thought I would explode. It’s given me a fear of labour. Also only happens rarely for me.

Confrontayshunme · 08/06/2021 20:38

I’m imagining it like arse-cramp, if such a thing exists??

Yes, it is basically that but more like intense pulses of pain rather than waves like normal cramps.

What if it happens in a meeting / at work? It sounds like you would need to leave the room? Can you even walk? How do you make it go away?!

I had to lean against a bookshelf then kind of shuffle until I could sit sideways and do a few deep breaths while appearing like I was engaged with the world. I was NOT.

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Mellonsprite · 08/06/2021 20:39

I had it last night... day 1 of period. Sat on the couch minding my own business then oooosh- javelin arse. I actually said ‘ooowww’ and bent double. My DH thought I was over reacting.

Twattergy · 08/06/2021 20:40

Isn't it an endometriosis/cysts linked thing? I used to get it a lot, but now I'm peri menopausal I haven't had it in ages coz I think I have much less endo.

name8793 · 08/06/2021 20:40

I get it fleetingly, just an odd spasm so doesn't cause any issue. But when I was experiencing a chemical pregnancy I got it constantly for about half hour, it was AWFUL.

dudsville · 08/06/2021 20:41

I was in a meeting once with a very handsome man and some folks I didn't know well. The stabbing sensation comes without warning. I jerked up in pain to shift my position, folding my foot under me if that makes sense? I'll never forget handsome man noticing my discomfort and I was preparing a lie in case he asked after me. Since then I do manage to hide it, but i think it's amazing the amount of pain we hide as women.

plinkplinkfizzer · 08/06/2021 20:42

Oh yes , I've had Javelin arse . shooting pains that with me only last a few seconds at a time . Don't get it now really so maybe linked to the fertile years .

Takenbybread · 08/06/2021 20:42

I tend to get them around my period and my first labour was entirely in the bum like this, it was horrific.. Although I'm relieved to see that other people also experienced this during labour. I'm currently pregnant with my second and hoping with all my might that it's not another 24 hours of 'javelin arse' 🤣 anyone care to share if they experienced it during labour if they did during subsequent baby deliveries haha

romany4 · 08/06/2021 20:43

I get this a lot due to IBS and fibroids.
It literally stops me in my tracks. So painful!

Crinkle77 · 08/06/2021 20:43

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

What the hell is this? I’ve never heard of it but it sounds really unpleasant!
Yeah wtf???
DulseSeaweed · 08/06/2021 20:44

My husband calls them anal stabbings Grin

YanTanTethera123 · 08/06/2021 20:44

I think it’s linked to endometriosis. It literally takes my breath away and I can’t move. DH thought I was being melodramatic until he watched my face turn grey! He said he thought I was going to faint (yes, it’s that bad) I think it’s worse than labour pains.

HeavenHotel · 08/06/2021 20:45

@hitsvilleuk

Proctalgia fugax

Ventolin inhaler - 2 puffs and it's gone ( you don't squirt it up your arse)

Omg really???? It's been 5 years since I had a period and I still wake up with them, a couple of times a year!

I'll try my ventolin! Top tip!

name8793 · 08/06/2021 20:45

Since then I do manage to hide it, but i think it's amazing the amount of pain we hide as women.

My DH has said he's had it before (although presumably not period relayed....)

Lipz · 08/06/2021 20:45

OMG I thought this was just me, I get it up my bum and my hoo Haa.... Dh was convinced I was in labour last month it was so bad, I dragged myself up to the supermarket while they had eased and Jesus Mary and Joseph, the pain shot right up me, i tried leaning over the trolley but it made it worse, the only thing that eases it is if I lie on my side and curl into the fetal position, not a good look in aldi.

isthismylifenow · 08/06/2021 20:46

Don't you just love the way it sneaks up on you... Hmm

Strangely enough I was afflicted the day before the previous post and I commented. Now this one pops up and I had one again last night. But there is this sort of warning twinge, and then you have mere seconds before you're in level 10 pain. I battled to get to the couch it was so bloody painful. I can't say it just goes as suddenly as it arrives. I usually feel a bit tender for a while after as well.

My 18 year old dd suffers with them too, so it's not an age thing.

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