To be annoyed at getting home to this...

[Hourbyehours]

First day out with a friend since sept last year, come home house is as I left it, kids beds not made, dirty washing in their rooms, dishwasher not emptied and washing up piled in the sink, loads of flies in the kitchen because food left out and surfaces covered in food bits. Mess in front room which my husband left from last night. I know I’m being a bit grouchy, but I really object to having a day off and then coming home to mess! Plus I am working tomorrow 0700 start.... husband says it’s not fair for me to come home and moan because he would never do that... my repsone was that he wouldn’t come home to that mess in the the first place!

It is quite common to have a house-keeper here in Aus (where we now live). Daily (for a couple of hours) is nothing special either. Cost is $30 (AUD) an hour.

A kitchen won’t be ‘ raw.I got with flies’ because someone went out for a few hours.

Depends. We have cats. Leave food in their bowls for that long on a hot day, and yes, there will be a lot of flies in the kitchen.

So 60 AUD per day? I don't know what that would equate to but even if it was £10 that's still £50 a week (assuming Mon-Fri only), or £200 a month. That's pretty much my food budget for a month.

It is quite common to have a house-keeper here in Aus

Bah ha ha ha! I’m from Aus and no it is not common to have a housekeeper.

Might I add: the only people I’ve known who have housekeepers are in the higher earning bracket. And having a housekeeper when your socio economic status is in the high end is probably what is common around the world. Not just in Aus. Most of us are middle class or lower. And yes, we have to clean our own homes.

I'm exactly the same as you and it would really annoy me. Similar scenario, I went out last Saturday for a few hours with a friend and my DP had our toddler. Came back at 6pm and DS was having a late nap (pissed me off because it takes me until 11pm most nights to get him to sleep) and he was playing Xbox. There were toys all over the floor in the kitchen, living room and hall, dishes everywhere and he's sat playing computer. So I walk in, tidy then get the baby from his nap.
He had baby today whilst I worked a few hours and the house is a state. I'll be cleaning it whilst he plays Xbox.

I think you need to have a serious chat with your family and divvy up chores (including DC)

Oceanbliss: I live in Bardon, Brisbane, Qld. Quite common to have a housekeeper here. Most of my mothers group have one too🙂

Good to know.

The OP, on the other hand, isn’t in Bardon, Brisbane, Qld. So …

And to add, I’m in NZ. We’re in the top 2% bracket, which we know because the recent election targeting those earners for higher tax has had an impact on us. We have a cleaner. No-one I know (and they’re all in the same bracket) has a house-keeper.

So by all means, do keep reiterating it as a suggestion for the OP, if it’s no important to you. But you could maybe also accept that it’s - just perhaps - not an option for her? 🙂

Are you trying to silence me FIERCE Barrie? Didn't work😊

If it was just a one off, I’d leave it be, but if it’s happened before then I think a talk is in order

@Hourbyehours
I completely get where your coming from, I too find this so bloody exhausting at times.

I had all my kids put for the day on Saturday, we left in a bit of a rush for the bus. Dh was home all day. I walked back through the door at dinner time and the lazy bugger had spent the day on the couch, no bins done, dishwasher not on place a tip. He had made something to eat and dumped his stuff on the worktop not even in the dishwasher.

I was so pissed that I sat out in the garden with the kids and he comes out first time to ask what's for dinner and second time to let me know that the washing that was in the machine that I had left running when I went for the bus was going to start smelling

@Stressedmummyof4 you have my sympathy. You deserve better. Hope he realises that and apologises, cleans up his mess, does his fair share and cooks you and the kids a lovely meal.