I think what worries me most is what it’s going to the minds of young people who are watching porn before they’ve even been near anyone for sex. Facials and choking are seen as mainstream now and this is purely due to porn. So many women women in their 40s, such as me, have had all their body hair lasered away and this is just another example of how we are internalising the influence of “porn standards” and acquiescing to this as the new normal.
It’s very insidious. As I said, my husband watches porn and I can’t be sure exactly what. He tells me he’s not turned in by violence towards women in any shape or form and I guess I have to accept that a he’s not suddenly wanting to slap me in the face or choke me, if that means anything? At least, for upset men, their formative years were pre-internet porn, but god help the next generation. My husband tells me female orgy-type stuff is his thing but, my issue is, what do you have to scroll past to find “your thing.” “Teen destroyed by step dad in anal rape” anyone? That’s the very first video I was confronted with when I went on. It’s all there as you scroll through, playing on loop. Free at the click of a button.
Does anybody involved in putting this stuff out or watching it ever actually stop to think of the reality of the millions teens and children who are the victims of incest, every day?
This is the issue I have with porn, yet we live in the world we live in and somehow I have to accept that my own husband, the man I trust must in the world, doesn’t really get it.