Ever suspect a MN post has been about you?

[Millano]

Have you ever read a post on MN and wondered if the OP was talking about you (or someone close to you), like.., actually you? If so, did you say anything to them? Or.. do you suspect someone might have written a post about you in the recent or deep past, but you can't find it (can't be arsed to search years back)?

Have you got a guilty conscience about something , OP?

No, but I do sometimes wonder if I know the poster, or on the work threads if they're in my field.

Never. I don't post, as I think most posters could be identified by someone who knows them, even with changes to some details. I mean you can't change details too much before losing the essence of the post.

It sound like I do doesn't it. But actually, no, I don't. Having said that though, I do suspect someone I know of writing something many years ago after a massive event in our lives (that I never found on MN)- it's just a suspicion, most likely unfounded.

I always wonder this because some AIBUs are so specific and if there’s someone they’re about they could easily work out it’s then.

No but I have also wondered this!

Yeah my fucking sister wrote a load of shit about me years ago on here, making herself out to be the victim

I wasn’t hurt because I already knew she was an arsehole

🙄

No! I'm not interesing enough!!

No, but on a different forum I did identify a situation that based I was reasonably sure was a former workplace.

@WeIcomeToGilead

Yeah my fucking sister wrote a load of shit about me years ago on here, making herself out to be the victim

I wasn’t hurt because I already knew she was an arsehole

🙄

Awk. Did you confront or let it go?

LolaSmiles
No, but on a different forum I did identify a situation that, based on a few factors, I was reasonably sure was a former workplace.

No, because I'm not arrogant enough to think that on a website with millions of users anyone would find me interesting enough to talk about.
Nor would anyone I know in real life be able to spot me on here because I'm not that daft to post identifying information and tell my life story.

I used to work in HR and there have been times when I've read something, either on here or elsewhere, and wondered if it was someone that works in the same place as me - but you get the same problems in every workplace so the chances are pretty small really!

It happened on the nanny board here - nanny recognised her boss posting about the nanny but came on and said many of the details in the thread weren’t even true!

Not a whole post but there have been occasions where someone has clearly referenced something I’ve said elsewhere, on a thread I mean.

I did offer some very specific advice to someone who was very upset with the bereavement process at her bank, which happened to be where I worked at the time. This person followed my advice a couple of days later and managed to get me on the phone which was quite weird but clearly just a huge coincidence. Obviously I didn’t let on who I was, and assisted as much as possible.

@Geamhradh

No, because I'm not arrogant enough to think that on a website with millions of users anyone would find me interesting enough to talk about. Nor would anyone I know in real life be able to spot me on here because I'm not that daft to post identifying information and tell my life story.

Ah, I should have said, this was intended to be a lighthearted thread.

No, but I almost wish someone I fell out really badly with WOULD because I’d love the chance to defend myself! I never had that chance and it still festers.

Yes, my (then) DP posted a hugely specific and identifying thread in relationships giving his version of our circumstances. Anyone who knew me would have recognised the situation. My sister saw it and alerted me to the thread.

His plan was that Mumsnet would tell me how I was wrong and he did get a fair bit of support. But I didn’t take any notice as he’d given a very one sided view!

I often wonder this. The thread the other day about the OP not making bridesmaid because she was apparently too big for the dress the bride wanted was very outing. Saying that I also wonder how many of the posts are actually true as well.

I suspect I was once the subject of a "should I ditch this friend?" thread but I am not sure.

A friend who I knew used MN phased me out, and we are acquaintances now.

The thing is if this did happen I feel sure that the evidence provided depicted me unfairly, in that when I have given anyone a balanced description of the issue, admitting were I was at fault, and the full picture, everyone has said SHE was out of order.

The thread ended up being deleted. The drama if I’d joined it to defend myself would’ve been awesome.

I recognised a post about my mum once, written by my dads sister!

A long time ago now. Someone posted to complain about their elective operation being postponed because of emergencies and I’m fairly certain I’m the person that made the decision obviously I didn’t comment, but I did feel awful. Equally life saving ops have to come before elective procedures so I didn’t have a lot of choice

(My mum was definitely BU 🤣)

Under a different user name I saw an AIBU post here about 3 years ago that was totally complaining about a relative of mine. The OP described the situation in such a way it was obvious to me, i didn’t know the OP by the way. It’s hard to explain without going into details but after a few other posters commented defending my relative’s situation and saying the Op was BU I also commented but did not say I knew who they were speaking about. The reason I was 💯 sure is that I told my relative about the thread and they changed what they were doing and the OP came back and updated the thread saying either the person had seen the thread or had been told about it.
I was really surprised out of all the Mumsnet users to read something about someone I knew it made me a lot more careful about what I post and I name change quite a lot.

Not mumsnet but a legal forum where my parents neighbour posted about a demand my parents made towards private road repairs.

Was handy to see their thought process in the dispute.